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By the time we had a conversation about me being sexually active it was too late; I was a pregnant teen wanting an abortion and only told my mom because I had to.
If you’re even just thinking about being sexually active you should definitely have a conversation with your mom, dad, or parental equivalent about birth control. Just because our parents might feel uncomfortable talking about sex doesn’t mean that we have to. Here’s one area where we can lead the way.
Why it’s a good idea to talk.
Getting on birth control can mean many different things, but if you want to be on the pill it’s best to have a convo with Mom or Dad instead of getting a prescription through sneakier means. This talk can be the bridge to a healthier relationship with your parents. Plus, there’s also the issue of cost. You don’t want to start the pill and then skip because you can’t afford it. Lastly, for safety purposes Mom should always be able to tell a doctor what’s potentially in your system.
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Your doctor will prescribe whatever BC pill is right for you but you should do your homework. Present your mom or dad with what you’ve learned about the pill and why it may be right for you. Show them that you’re taking your health and safety very seriously, and tell them you’ll still be using condoms to protect yourself from STDs–you just want to be extra protected! Your parent will be impressed. You’ll seem serious, more adult, and less childlike. Parents trust us more when it seems like we’re retaining some of the wisdom they try to give us.
Pick the turf and invite your most trusted parent.
Instead of just popping into the kitchen or meeting your mom in the laundry room, invite her into your bedroom. You say where and when. It well help you feel a little bit more in control of a potentially uncomfy situation and make the chat feel more official.
Address the elephant.
Feeling awkward? Tell her. Start off by saying, “Mom, I feel so nervous about this conversation.” She wiped your snotty nose and changed your poopy diapers. There’s no need to put up a pretense now.
Make your case.
Sounds hokey, but you can practice in advance what you’re going to say. Be clear, honest and succinct. Just put it out there: “Dad, I want to talk about birth control pills.” Once you just say the words you’ll feel so much better. Then you can really talk.
The real deal?
Your parents are not creatures from another planet. It may have been a million years ago, but they were your age once too; probably feeling everything you feel. At the end of the day, they may not express it well, but all of our parents want is what’s best for us. If your parents wig out, act actually scary, or are otherwise unavailable–talk to another trusted adult, like an aunt or guidance counselor.
Good luck! Just remember that you’re doing the right thing and being responsible–even if it takes your mom a little while to see that.
Have you had “the talk with your mom about birth control? How did it go? Tell me everything in the comments!
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My Mom’s from a foreign country and teenage sex to her is just crazy when she found out I lost my v-card she flipped. Birth control would be totally out of the question because if she found out I was still doing it after I said I wasnt she’d kill me. I want to ask my sister for it but then I’d be afraid that she wouldn’t like my boyfriend because we’re doing it ughh this is hard. >.<
I’m am 15, and I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months, weve done the basics answers not sexually active yet but I want to ask my mum for he pill anyway because I dongle want tobe suddenly sexually active and not be protected. How to I ask my mum for the pill? I am worried she’ll say no. She’s spoken to me about it before but I don’t know how to bring it up again….
I have been with my bf for 5 months… In about a year’s time, we probably want to have sex. I’ll be 17, so it’ll be legal. My mother is quite strict, but I’m just as serious and she knows I’m sensible and she likes my bf.. How do you think she’d react if I told her I wanted to have sex (I’ll tell her next year when the time comes)?
I would tell her ASAP! Why wouldn’t you talk to your mom about birth control..do you think “I’ having a baby” would be better?
I want to get on the pill, im sexually active with my bf of almost 6 months, the 11th will be 6, and i wanna talk to her, and im really nervous about it. i dont exactly want her to know im sexually active. He was my first, and it was only 3 times over the weekend. I dont wanna have to worry about pregnancy scares. Should i tell her I’m “thinking about being sexually active”? Ive also thought about using the reason of “just in case”. Ive also thought about telling her i want to so i can get used to it for the future. What do i do?
I’m 15 and seeing this guy, my mum and me are really close and when I first got with my boyfriend she said she’d take me to the doctors to put me on the pill, however she’s always working and has never had time. I think I’ll become sexually active soon but my mum hasn’t spoken anymore about taking me to the doctors since I’ve wanted to. How do I bring up the conversation to ask her?? Help is you can
thank you xx
I’m 14 and Im a sophmore I never had the talk but I figured everything out myself so I did my research on Birth Control and found it makes your period hurt less and for some stop but when I asked my mom she said no and I told her it was just for the period not because I’m having sex but still she says no can someone help me out here?
Personally I’m terrifed of talking to my mom about it. She’ not super conservative, but she thinks birth control is bad for you and the last time the topic came up, she pretty much dismissed it. I’m not sexually active, but I’m 16 and I probably will be soon, and I want to sort out all the complications (weight gain, hormonal issues, ect.) that can come with birth control BEFORE I start having sex. Not to mention that some BC takes months to kick in.
But I’m afraid to ask my mom about it – even if she was mature about it and saw things from my side, she would never actually get around to getting me to a doctor to get the persciption. She’s far to busy, but she’ll be hurt if I do it on my own. I honestly have no idea what to do.
I’m 14 and I’m not sure what to say to my mom to show her I’m trying to be responsible and safe about this… I’m also not sure what to say to my doctor if they ask if I’m sexuly active! I will say “yes” but I’m not sure what they will do after…. My main problem is trying to show my mom…. Please some one! Help me with this. Thanks :/
Im 14, my pains are so bad my mum said i could go on the pill a few months ago, and since then i got with my boyfriend and me and my currect boyfriend love each other and if we want to commit we want to be protected, but we aint gonna any time soon.
since i got with my first boyfriend she hasnt said anything about the pill, but i want the pill but im worried if i ask her she will think its for just sex, when its actually for my pains… should i tell her its for pains and that she should rather have me on the pill and safe than not be and get pregnant? please help!
Be honest with her. If you’ve already had the discussion about your pain and the pill, then there’s no reason why after a few more months you would decide the pain is too much to deal with when there is a way to lessen it.
Are there different doses of birth control ? my mom says im on a low dose but i think she’s just saying that to make me think i can still get pregnant no problem :S
Okay, so I’m 15. 16 in November. I want to ask my mom about the pill, but I’m terrified. We’ve already had a talk about it, and she seemd like she didn’t want me on it. I want to use it for cramps. But how do I tell her. We’re not very close either.
Just explain to her that its for your period cramps. tell her if she trusted you then she would let you go on the pill. I am on the pill and it really does help alot with the cramps. Tell her your sick of how much pain those stupid cramps put you in!!
Hope that helps
~peace <3
I’m 14 and I am scared 2 ask my mom 4 birth control I love my mom but I Just don’t think she will understand Where I’m coming from.Any advice?
Depends on the reasons you want to take birth control . If you have good reason then make your point and your mom will probably understand.
Hope that helps
~peace <3
I want to get on birth control for mi period. Ive asked mi mom and dad about it and they each sed “No ur to young, its gonna mess up ur body “. (I’m 14 btw) and I like REALLY EXTREMELY need it bcuz cramps kill dude!!! So do you guys have ANY advice on how i can get them 2 let me get some. And if so what brand do u suggest?!??
Tell them that the pill doesnt mess up your body, because it doesnt. My mum was on birthcontrol for 15 years and then stopped and her body returned to normal. I also got the pill for my period and it works cause you can skip period during important times like vacations and exams. I have been on the pill for 2 and a half years and I have never had any side effects. Brands are very different as you really need to go to the doctor because different types suit different people. Some are good for skin, weightloss, period cramps etc. Im 18 by the way.
I am in the same situation, except i am 17. I have tried talking to my parents about it several times but every time i try they say no before i can explain why i want to be on birth control. My cramps are so bad it makes me sick, and i pass out sometimes. should I try talking to another adult about it? ~ desperately seeking period relief
I was totally freaking out about asking my mom for birth control pills. A few weeks ago, I spent the entire day hanging out with her, and the whole time I kept waiting and waiting for the perfect time to spring the question. I was really nervous because I was SURE it would be a totally awkward conversation, considering she had only just met my new (first!) boyfriend a few days earlier. It wasn’t until five minutes before we parted ways that I simply blurted it out, knowing I wouldn’t get a better chance. To my surprise, she was totally cool about it. “I went on The Pill when I was your age too,” she told me. “It’s definitely something your father and I would want to provide for you.” I could finally breathe! It really wasn’t as bad as I had anticipated. Now, I’ve been on birth control for two weeks and I feel so glad that I could get up the courage to ask!
I’m asking my dad. ^-^! He gave me the talk. My mom hasn’t talked to me about ANYTHING.. and she probably never will to save her own life.
me and my mom talk about everything but when i lost my virginity i wanted to wait and tell her when we were alone she kinda already knew but my brother told her we are real close and i was wanting birth control so i asked her and she said yes my dad does know i am on it he about had a heart attack when mom told him what DR i was going to but he thinks it is for my period and i am on it for that reason too
My mum confronted me about it and offered to put me on the pill. She acted exactly how the article said, she just wants what’s best for me and I told her I would still be using condoms. She would never tell my dad though.
my parents would never let me do it in their house! anyway im fourteen and my older sis is almost 21 when she was sixteen she like this total jerk- he cheated on her and dumoed her like three times and got another girl prego- and she gave it up to him. mom didnt like it but she knew my sis was gunna do it so she didnt argue with her just gave her condoms. but idk why she didnt get birth control right away luckily… she didnt get pregnant cuz that would have killed my mom almost literally- anyway she came to me the other day and said ” if you get i boyfriend i want to put you on birthcontrol right away” or somthing. but i dont wanna do it til marriage