Help! I Was Rejected By My Friends!
There are few things more gut-wrenchingly awful than friend-break-ups. What do you do when someone you were so close to, talked to all the time, and spent a majority of your waking hours with, up stops returning your calls? Or you get in a giant fight that nobody’s ready to forgive? Who do you call when the person you used to go to with these kinds of problems is the one person you can’t reach out to?
The first rule of surviving this is to feel it. Feel all the big feelings: get angry, get sad, get confused, get weepy, get indignant. And give yourself time. It can be hard to remember that there’s life after friendship. But until the pain and weirdness passes, it helps to put yourself in situations where you’re meeting new people, and breaking your social routine. Reach out to that friendly coworker about having lunch sometime. Look into meetups or book groups or volunteering to keep yourself occupied while the hurt subsides.
And spend some quality time with yourself, too. Because this friendship, even if it was super important, doesn’t determine your value, so you can’t let yourself go down the “I’m a terrible person” road. Because you’re not. Because no matter who hurt whom, or how, or why, whether it’s over forever or just for a while, everybody is deserving of good friends. Even if you maybe haven’t met them yet.