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I hear you, girl. I am, for better or worse, a girl who knows how to handle rejection; I’ve been turned down by more people, places and things then I can keep track of. And yet, here I stand (well, sit) before you, a fully functioning and happy survivor of brush-offs, break-ups, and broken hearts. As your resident rejection-expert (rejexpert?), I compiled a few common scenarios, and some suggestions on reframing your whole rejection experience.
Ready? Go!
Can You Trust Him?
I have two such stories. Once I was rejected by my best friend in college with whom I shared the best four years of my life. But after that rejection, I changed myself a bit. I started losing weight, I started giving myself some quality hours to look tidy. And by that process, I became more confident than I was before. After that many years passed by. Next massacre happened at my office few months before. A person started liking me, started intimate chatting with me, went out with me, and we got along pretty well despite of some differences we had. I gave him some gifts too. But after few months, he disclosed in front of all the colleague-group, that he could not develop any feelings for me, and he did all these things to me because he wanted to forget his previous love. People mocked at me. He humiliated me in public mails too stating that I look horrible etc. His ex-girlfriend told me to stop behaving like a beggar. (He and she are now together). I was shocked and traumatized! Silently I prayed to God that – “I’ve never harmed anyone, why did u do this to me?” After that, I decided not to open anyone’s mail in group. I used to delete all mails of them without even reading or replying. I removed myself from the whole scenario for few months, and became the utmost silent. I started devoting my hours in work and meditation. And fortunately I could get over it. Even though sometimes I say “hi” to him only when he says a “hi” to me, deep down I still hate him for the way he humiliated me and made my life a hell. I’m thankful to God that after every rejection or breakup, I keep on learning something.. Sometimes, I really feel lonely and rejected when I see myself alone dejected by all even at this age of 27.. but then I still feel.. may be, somewhere someday I’ll also find some sensitive soul to love me
And that’s how we all live.. with a positive hope 
I was rejected. I became friends with a boy who I thought who enjoy the same things I did. But I madly feel in love with him and he started to spread rumours about me, and that is when it got out of control. I was bullied for it, I felt out of place. A friend, who I trusted had mixed with the wrong crowd and made my life a living hell. Then ever since, I started to ignore him and do a little hellos whenever I saw him, but deep down I just hated him for what he has done, and deep down somewhere I still love him. And then I became friends with another boy, and I am determined not to fall in love with him and ruin my friendship like I did with the other, but fall in love with someone who actually loves me for once.
i just told a guy i recently became friends with that i liked him && he said i was cool & a great person, but he didn’t like me in that way…i was a shocked, confused, & upset at first b.c i got the intentions that he did like me, but now i’m fine. this happened right before i went on spring break & over the break i found a cutie who i’ll be going on my second date w/ soon!
there are a ton of other guys out there! not every one of them will like you (it’s a fact of life) BUT there will be one guy that does like you just as much as you like him. life goes on & soon enough you’ll care less & less that you got rejected by one out of a million guys (like me) at least your not left wondering “what if?” you asked & got your answer 
I was rejected asking this guy to prom. I asked him about a month ago, he said probably not but he’ll think about it. Then last monday he told my friend he needed to talk to me but in person… So I freaked for a week. I asked him if it was a bad thing… and he said no. So I felt majorly reassured… Turns out he wanted to talk to me about how its a no for PROM… So I said its cool cuz he said probably not, anyhow. To which he responded… “OH WHOOPS…” So then I asked him how that wasn’t a bad thing… and he said “Well it’s whatever right…?” So yep.. worst day ever…
I was rejected by my BESTFRIEND!!! Once in Highschool, (which left me so confused, angry and hurt!!! What have I done to her? I enjoyed her company, I looked up to her because I thought she was the coolest girl there is in the campus! why would she call me something horrible like a “leech”? I just only wanted to be with her, and I think I wasn’t that clingy either… anyways, years have passed and I’m over it, and I still can’t get why she suddenly left me alone.)
Then when I was in college, I had another best friend, then after our graduation, she changed… kept distance from me like I was the worst person she has ever met. Why? but this time, I knew how to cope up: I invited new friends into my life and felt better. NOBODY IS ALLOWED TO MAKE YOU FEEL INFERIOR. I’m not saying I’ve replaced her. You can never replace anyone, however, you can enrich this experience by opening up to the world around you. Yeah, after I lost my “BFF” I turned my energies to serving my community and church, and surprisingly, found new people to hang out with.
I know it does stinks to be rejected! Most gURLs get rejected by their crush most of the time! Not cool doodz!
-Happy St. Patricks Day! 8^D
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