I don’t believe in relationships. That’s right, I plan on being single forever. When I tell people this they look at me as though I am missing something (like I am Samantha from Sex and the City). I get it though, romantic relationships are basically the most normal thing people engage in across cultures. They are even expected to the point where eventually mom or dad might start nagging and insisting, “When are you getting married?”
Fortunately I am still pretty young to be thinking about weddings (which aren’t going to happen, sorry, mom) but people still think it’s weird when I tell them I don’t want a boyfriend or a husband – ever. Nothing tragically sad has ever happened to me, I am not emotionally scarred in that way. I’ve even had good relationship models. My parents have been together since they were 17 years old and today they are both 50. Honestly, I am just independent and extremely selfish: I want to do everything when I want, when I am ready, and I don’t need anyone getting in my way. That sounds horrible, I know, but it’s a large part of my personality and I can’t see myself becoming a compromising person – and we only get more stubborn when we get older, right?This doesn’t mean that I don’t want sex or intimacy, what it means is that I don’t want a commitment and certainly not a husband. Let’s keep it real, chica, marriage isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. I hate to lay down the law, but just look at Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries, Katy Perry and Russell Brand, and to top it all off (depending on the source) forty to sixty-seven percent of marriages end in divorce and the people who stay together may not even be happy in their relationships.
What this means is relationships are a lot of work. Just think about it: having a great relationship with a friend is hard, so having a healthy romantic relationship must be really hard. The few people I know who are happy in their relationships are the first to tell you it is an ongoing process of some serious communication, awkwardness and compromise. That is fine (and extremely fulfilling) for some people, but it’s not for me. The truth is, I can give you a million good enough reasons why I don’t want to be in a relationship, when really: I am just not into it. It’s the same way my BFF can pull off hot pink lipstick and blue eye shadow, while I just can’t (and Jebus knows I tried). It just doesn’t suit me.
I think that’s OK and I am even willing to admit that one day that might change – though I don’t expect it to. I am perfectly happy carrying on with a few friendly-man-friends, keeping our lives separate and unattached. Being someone’s girlfriend or wife isn’t my thing. In the end, what it comes down to for me is simple: you shouldn’t let your relationships define who you are, you should let who you are define your relationships – romantic and otherwise. I may never look good in blue eye shadow, but I can always rock the hell out of the purples and reds.
Do you enjoy being single as much as this girl? Let us know in the comments!