Comments on: I Regret Losing My Virginity. Now What? http://www.gurl.com/2012/03/05/lose-your-virginity-relationship-advice/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=lose-your-virginity-relationship-advice A teen site and community for teenage girls Tue, 11 Jun 2013 22:01:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: John Doehttp://www.gurl.com/2012/03/05/lose-your-virginity-relationship-advice/comment-page-2/#comment-483925 John Doe Sun, 09 Jun 2013 20:56:45 +0000 http://www.gurl.com/?p=55188#comment-483925 Girls, guys are pigs, trust me. Most of them are. The trick is to find the right one. Im not gonna say save it till marriage, but dont let there be a doubt in your mind that its what you want to do. The first time is never what you expect it to be, but when its with the right person, it only gets better. First though, you gotta find the right one. There are good guys out there.

]]> By: kerryhttp://www.gurl.com/2012/03/05/lose-your-virginity-relationship-advice/comment-page-2/#comment-447464 kerry Fri, 03 May 2013 18:19:03 +0000 http://www.gurl.com/?p=55188#comment-447464 Hey gurls,
I like some of you lost my virginity to the wrong guy. He smoothed talked me and said he was single but really he wasn’t. And now its just a bad cycle with me and guys. Those of you who just feel like crap becuz of your predicaments jst remember im there with you and eventually we all can get past it and find our true princes and live our dreams!

]]> By: Kayleighhttp://www.gurl.com/2012/03/05/lose-your-virginity-relationship-advice/comment-page-2/#comment-334372 Kayleigh Thu, 24 Jan 2013 03:06:42 +0000 http://www.gurl.com/?p=55188#comment-334372 I’m in a very similar situation… I had sex with this guy, he didn’t know it was my first time and I wasn’t gonna be the one to tell him so I had sex with him thinking we’d bond or something stupid but he didn’t talk to me for weeks afterwards and now he has a new girlfriend but unfortunately not only do I have to deal with him and her I also have to deal with the fact he still flirts with me (he started talking to me again) all the time and I know I cant have him.

]]> By: Cupids-Arrowhttp://www.gurl.com/2012/03/05/lose-your-virginity-relationship-advice/comment-page-2/#comment-331795 Cupids-Arrow Mon, 21 Jan 2013 15:57:29 +0000 http://www.gurl.com/?p=55188#comment-331795 A lot of girls are in the same position as you. I really don’t know how it feels like to loose your virginity because I’m still a virgin but I have friends. And the best thing to do I think is to move on. I’m not saying it in a mean way, it’s just you can’t change the pass. So move on :) And that guy who treated you badly? Screw him! He not worth it. You have your whole life ahead of you and some day you’ll meet someone who’s worth it. So don’t go giving you all hope for the opposite sex either.

]]> By: lilbutterflyhttp://www.gurl.com/2012/03/05/lose-your-virginity-relationship-advice/comment-page-2/#comment-271386 lilbutterfly Tue, 11 Dec 2012 03:37:22 +0000 http://www.gurl.com/?p=55188#comment-271386 you lost your virginity to him and you EXPECTED to continue a long bond with him. You wanted to have sex and you felt satisfied though it wasnt the best experience. It isnt as though he forced you into it or “stole” it from you. You make it sound as though you sacrificed something that you didnt want to part with in the first place. It wasnt as though you reluctantly parted with your virginity just to please him. But YOU had a choice and you chose to do it. This is where the problem lies. Girls think that just because they give up their virginity to a guy, that he should be forever indebted and devoted to her. But really, it isnt just the guy who enjoyed the experience. Both of you did. It is different if she was forced or raped. This was mutually agreed upon and consensual.
The problem is that we build “fairy tales” in our minds and our expectations go haywire. Instead, if girls just prepared for their first time with understanding their bodies, planning who they want to do it with, reading about it etc and NOT expect huge amounts of loyalty from the guy, in return for sex, disappointments will be far less.
I dont think it is fair to blame the guy here. I agree his etiquette is shocking and there should be a decorum around having sex. But obviously he was lacking those finer qualities. Pity you chose him. I bet he was closer to your age too. Older guys get such a bad name but most older guys feel the responsibility to be more endearing to their girls and the emotional responses are far superior than with guys our age.
This is why I just never go out with guys my age. They are so immature and have no etiquette. My boyfriends have always been much older and thankfully I have not had any bad experiences.
Plz dont blame anyone. Just learn from mistakes. I call it an experience and a very valuable one too. Sex and intimacy is such a beautiful experience and you will most certainly experience something far better with time.

]]> By: Thickums:)http://www.gurl.com/2012/03/05/lose-your-virginity-relationship-advice/comment-page-2/#comment-267713 Thickums:) Sat, 08 Dec 2012 05:07:35 +0000 http://www.gurl.com/?p=55188#comment-267713 I know competely how you feel! i lost mine october 16 and now that guy barely talks to me. I’ve been hurt for soo long. Crying myself to sleep and he flirts with other girls in front of my face!

]]> By: Kathttp://www.gurl.com/2012/03/05/lose-your-virginity-relationship-advice/comment-page-1/#comment-252135 Kat Mon, 26 Nov 2012 22:50:52 +0000 http://www.gurl.com/?p=55188#comment-252135 It’s Ok! You are so much more than sex. I hope that you can move on. You have not thrown it all away. You are just feeling guilt and remorse. That’s what happens when you make desicions that aren’t absolutely perfect. Think about your relationships with guys and how they have changed over the years, or months. And think about your bond with God. God loves you, don’t ever forget that. Sex is OK, even good, but don’t feel your’e worthless.

also use protection :)

]]> By: Laineyhttp://www.gurl.com/2012/03/05/lose-your-virginity-relationship-advice/comment-page-1/#comment-241451 Lainey Wed, 21 Nov 2012 01:37:59 +0000 http://www.gurl.com/?p=55188#comment-241451 Uhm, ever heard of the word S E X I S T?
Girls can have sex whenever they choose. They can wait or not wait or do it every day if they want.
It is no longer the 1700s where girls are basically sold to their husbands at the age of twelve, him being 30 or 40. Sex before marriage is becoming increasingly common because we now marry for love, not a large payment to our fathers. If YOU want to wait until you are married, that is your call. Don’t go pushing it in people’s faces. Religion is like politics there is no right or wrong answer an saying one thing too many times convinces people it’s a lie. You don’t tell everyone of a different political party they are wrong, do you? If you do, many people will have a tendancy to not want to be around you because you are closed-minded. Life is meant to be lived with your mind and your eyes open. Don’t close your eyes while you’re living. You’ll misinterpret everything you see.

]]> By: Karlyhttp://www.gurl.com/2012/03/05/lose-your-virginity-relationship-advice/comment-page-1/#comment-203859 Karly Mon, 29 Oct 2012 21:47:54 +0000 http://www.gurl.com/?p=55188#comment-203859 I understand your concern about being a virgin to avoid situations like this, but some people don’t believe in the same things you do. And if it was such a big deal, then why would you put yourself through unnecessary aggrivatedness and read this article. Or even respond. I would have to say that, on your part, you should just get out because this is ridiculous xD

]]> By: Johttp://www.gurl.com/2012/03/05/lose-your-virginity-relationship-advice/comment-page-1/#comment-202546 Jo Sun, 28 Oct 2012 12:40:41 +0000 http://www.gurl.com/?p=55188#comment-202546 I agree!

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