Dating In College
College is supposed to be the best four years of your life. It’s supposed to be the time when teenage boys and girls “find themselves”, when they start to mature, make a whole new set of friends, go out and have fun, have new experiences, and generally just have a great time. Here’s the question: can you be in a relationship and still do all of that? Or should your college years be spent single?
We started thinking about this after seeing this post in the message boards. Do you think college is a time to be on your own? Should you break up with your high school sweetheart just so you can experience other things (and people)? Or is that totally ridiculous? Check out what these girls think, and then give us your opinion in the comments.
I have a friend who argues that the college experience must include “branching out socially, growing alone” etc. Basically being single, meeting people, dating around. Even if they’re happy with someone, they need to experience more people for it to be a “complete college experience”. Does anyone agree with this?
Hmmm… I’m more on the pro-spotlight of college experience actually. I have two friends who dated for two years in secondary school. They go to the same college, live together, sit together, and rush home to each other nightly. I feel that they are both missing out on being young people even though their relationship is really happy.
I don’t think college has to mean drink or romance. But I think if I was still dating someone who was in my school I wouldn’t of experienced a lot of college stuff…
I completely disagree. Personally, I have no need or want to “experience” multiple people and I definitely don’t see that as the point of college. I agree that you should branch out and meet lots of people, but you can do that without sexual activity. Granted, some people DO want to experience other people and for those people, perhaps they should take a break from relationships and just have some sexy fun with sexy people. With that said, I don’t think everyone HAS to do this to get the “complete college experience.” I live in a dorm, I stay up all night to study, I starve, I overeat, I’m poor, I make new friends nearly every day, etc. In my opinion, I’m living the college experience.
Our opinion? College is definitely the perfect place to meet new people and do new things. If you’re looking for a time in your life to be free, do what you want and be single, then college is that time. But if you’re already in a happy and committed relationship, you shouldn’t feel like you have to break up with that person just because you’re going to school.
If you have a happy and balanced relationship, having a significant other during your college years isn’t going to hurt you or ruin your experience. You can absolutely still get the most out of college without sleeping around – hooking up with lots of people might make a great experience for some people, but everyone is different. In the end, do what makes YOU happy.
Who do you agree with? If you’re in college, are you single? Do you want to be single in college? Tell us in the comments.
Dating In College