I really feel distant from my family. I really feel more interested in friends, etc. than family. Is that wrong, or is it normal as a teen girl? Don’t get me wrong, I love my family! I just don’t feel like I used to when I was younger. What should I do if I should do anything at all? Help, Heather!
Teen girls go through lots of changes. Some are fun (more freedom!), some are not so fun (crazy hormones!), and some are just plain confusing (crazy hormones again!). And then some are a little sad – and feeling like you’re growing apart from people you used to be close to definitely falls into that category.
There’s nothing weird or abnormal about what you’re going through with your family. As you get older, your priorities change. It’s really typical for teenagers to start to feel closer to their friends than their family members. It’s also really normal for teens to feel like they’d rather spend their days hanging with their BFFs than having family game time with their parents.
But just because it happens all the time doesn’t mean it’s not a little bit upsetting. I’m sure you love and care about your family, and you probably feel guilty for not wanting to spend as much time with them. If you want to keep having a good relationship with your fam, then just make sure you don’t distance yourself too much. Feel free to spend as much time with your friends as you want – but when you come home, talk to your parents. Tell them about stuff that went on, or ask them about their day. Try saving one night a week for quality family time where you guys can watch a movie or have dinner together.
Don’t stress out about this too much. You’re changing as a person, and of course you’re not going to feel the same way about things as you did when you were a kid. It’s healthy for you to be with friends and have your own life outside of your family. Just learn how to balance everything, and one day you won’t feel that distance anymore.
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