Boards
Well, it obviously mattered in this movie | Source: SKnr.net
Number Of Sexual Partners
For some reason, the number of people a girl has slept with always seems to be a big deal – even though it’s really no one’s business but your own. But forget about what everyone else thinks… does the amount of people you’ve had sex with matter to you? Do you have a personal limit on how many people you can do the deed with, or do you really not care?
Basically, we want to know what you think is an acceptable number for yourself. Some girls refuse to break a certain amount, while other girls really don’t see it as a big deal. We thought about this after we saw this post on the message boards – so read what these awesome girls had to say, and then let us know what you think.
missb asked:
Does the amount of sexual partners you’ve had matter to you? I used to think so but now not so much.
kung_fu_kiddo said:
No. Each sexual relationship that I’ve had has been a learning experience. I’ve only had sex with 3 people. I don’t place so much emphasis on the number of people I’ve effed so much as I do on the overall experience, and what it taught me about myself, as well as myself in relation to others.
Do you care how many people you've been with? | Source: WatchersNPlayers
giggles4you143 said:
My number matters to me. Sex is a big deal to me, for me to share my body and be that intimate with someone is a big gift.I have been with 2 people. I am proud that I have a low number. But I do not judge others when they sleep around. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and sex means something different to everyone. The only person who should judge you on your number, is you.
Our opinion? We really loved what giggles4you had to say – while we think sex is a big deal, we also agree that it means something different to everyone. I can’t speak for all of the Gurl.com editors, but personally, my number does matter to me.
And if your number doesn’t mean anything to you? No big deal… it doesn’t mean you don’t see sex as unimportant, or that you have no morals. And no one should ever judge you for who you’ve been with other than yourself.
Who do you agree with? Is your number important to you? Tell us in the comments.
Do you think it’s okay for your boyfriend to call other girls hot?
Number Of Sexual Partners
New Quiz!
Mean Girls Quiz! 
I am 17 and i have had sex with 9 people. For the longest time i felt guilty and worthless everytime my number went up.. But latley i’ve been trying to teach myself that life happens and you cant always control whose going to walk in and out of your life. I was crazy about the guy that i lost my virginity too, and he used me, but i was so blinded by love i wouldnt let myself see it. I feel like this had alot to do with shaping how i see sex. But i am working so hard on not letting my number get in the way of me enjoying my life. People make mistakes, and i’ve learned something from each mistake i’ve made. Its all a learning experiance. And i am still learning.
Im 19, been with 8 in 5 years.
More than i’d like of course! But I never just.. slept around you know? Im not trying to be concieted, but im atractive, Im social, so naturally i always had a boyfriend, or someone interested in me. So yes, i slept with a number of people.
Live and LEARN!
Premarital sex does not make you a slut. Women often get labeled nlgetiveay for whatever they choose to do with their bodies. If they don’t want sex but are hot, they’re a “tease.” If they enjoy having sex, but don’t want a commitment, they’re a “slut.” If they have sex with more than one person, they’re a “whore.” If they don’t talk about their sex life, they’re a “prude.” Honestly, sex doesn’t make you anything. How you choose to express yourself sexually is no one’s business, and they have no right to judge.
I go to a catholic private school now, but my whole life i grew up in the bad parts of town in the bad schools. I have a HIGH number for my age, and for the most part im fine with that, it made me me. But at my school it makes me a huge slut. Right after i got there i heard some girls talking and they said “If you can count your number of sexual partners on one hand my the time you grad you are fine and not a slut” ya i still have 2 1/2 years to go and i am way past that; so i have to lie, i have to tell them a fake number. I think that it really depends on the circumstances; like if you dont know any of their names and you were so drunk only pictures prove it ya its bad; but if you know all their names its fine.
it matters to me but not as much as i should. honestly it wouldnt matter if you had sex with 1 or 2 guys or 20 (which would be bad lol) you could catch an STD with one guy verses the girl that protected herself with the 20. its better to have a low number to protect your name and rep but as long as your being safe and u regret nothing then do what u do just dont have 20 lol
I think whats most important is that ppl have safe nd responsible sex. meaning wrap it up nd protect yourself from stds nd pregnancies. i think a women, young lady is in charge of her body. i think we should be careful who we let enter it cause not all is derserving of it. that goes for men and women. i also think sex is better with a person who you love and or care about. so think about that before you hop in bed with someone ladies. other than that just be safe nd think about it before you do it. we dont want to regret it in the end.
i waiteduntil i knew i was in love before i finally decided to lose my virginity. ive only been with two guys, and i was in love with both of them. i think that everyone is entitled to their own beliefs about a “correct number,” but i dont think that love is a numers game.. if you feel like your ready and with somebody you trust and care about, i think that its fine to be with them.
Pingback: Sex On The Wire: Seriously, Someone Grab The Hot Wax Stat. | 21 Kisses.COM
I think guys and girls should only have 1
your missing out on all the fun and feeling of heaven
as long as i am having sex with people who care about me, like we’re in a relationship or something like that, then it doesn’t matter to me how many people i sleep with. i guess that number will be dependent on the number of long-term relationships i am in over the course of my life. currently, it’s 2.
Pingback: Sex On The Wire: Seriously, Someone Grab The Hot Wax Stat.
In all honesty, Everyone is going to have a different preference on the amount of people they have sex with or had sex with because of their sexual incounters. To me it doesn’t matter the amount because at that specific time there was a connection with the person you were with. If you can connect with a person on that type of level and you both are mature enough to take it to the step than who cares just make sure to keep your self protected.
i dont think it should matter how many people a girl has slept with, guys get called legends for sleeping with like 3 girls in one night and if we sleep with 4 guys in the space of a year we get called slags? im happy to say ive slept with alot of people, live your life. 45 in 4 years
Thank you amazing blog, do you have twitter, facebook or something similar where i can follow your blog
Sandro Heckler
Umm, yah! All of the above including Tumblr!
http://www.twitter.com/gurldotcom
http://www.facebook.com/gurlcom
http://www.gurl.tumblr.com
honestly, i’ve had 6 partners and i’m only 19 years old. honestly yeah that’s i guess a big number for some, but as long as you’re safe about it i don’t think it’s a big deal. personally i only loved 2 of them. the others were just “friends with benefits” and one was a one-night-stand. i personally think that you only have one life, and i don’t want to base mine on numbers, i wanna base it off the experiences and fun i have. i would never judge anyone on how high or low their number is.
yes , ive had sex with four people and each time i add another number i regret it and start feeling guilty.
I think sex IS a big deal, but if I’m comfortable enough with someone and we both want it, I would have sex with them. So I don’t think numbers really matter. Having a hundred sexual partners shouldn’t matter–everyone is in charge of their own body and has control over what he/she does with it. Who cares?
My number is defly important to me. since i think my number defines whether or not i’m wild. because i could have sex 100 times with the same person..but to think of have like 20 partners at the age of 16 i couldn’t imagine it. I want my husband to still feel like he has something treasured
my number is currently zero but it does not matter to me. I just want to be dating someone when i lose my virginity. Since I havent dated yet, I am still a virgin. After I loss it I don’t care about the number of people as long as I was ready, willing, and happy.
I am constantly surprised by other people’s lower numbers and the double standard placed on women about it is somehow bad for a woman to have a good amount of sexual experience behind her before she “settles down.” I can definitely see the reasoning if it has to do with your religion and therefore it is truly a moral issue for you. That makes sense to me. But outside of that, it seems to be “not OK” to want tto experiment sexually or have sex just for pleasure.I think if you practice safe sex and are enjoying yourself, sexual freedom should be celebrated. I have been in a happy relationship for over 10 years with one person, but before this I took time to explore what I liked sexually, and I can’t imagine ever being able to do this without sleeping with more than a few people. Maybe other woman aren’t as curious, I don’t know. But I am proud of having a full sex life and being able to say that I have followed my heart & my vagina.