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My first boyfriend, Alexander, had an after school job on the ice cream truck. I went to an all girls school for middle school and high school, so I literally started dating the first cute guy who rolled through my block!
Alex was a hottie. Tall with caramel skin and a crooked smile. He seemed so much more interesting than the preppy guys that hung around my school.
My favorite thing about Alex was that he appreciated my need to take things super slow. He made me giddy even though we were just holding hands. When I was 16 we had our first kiss. It was at night outside my parents house just as I was about to rush in for curfew. He grabbed me and kissed me–with passion and tongue. It was intense.
After that, he started to tell me that whenever I was ready to have sex for the first time, he would be ready too. Then it was two months before my 18th birthday. We knew that once school ended it would be harder for me to sneak away to hang out.
He arranged for us to go to his grandmother’s house. She was out of town. He had sexy music playing already and roses for me when I got there. I was excited… and terrified. I asked him to turn off the lights and it was pitch black. I loved him so much.
Alex undressed me and then got on top of me and moved up and down a few times. Then he kissed me again. It felt good but I was waiting for something dramatic to happen. I wasn’t even sure he was inside. Then he turned on the lights and slid off the used condom. That’s it?! My first time was over before I really knew that it had started.
Are you still waiting to have sex? If you’ve already had sex, what was your first time like? Were you happy about it or was it kind of awkward like my first time having sex? Tell me everything in the comments!
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Well my situation is quite sad, my boyfriend is from abroad i met him on holiday and we have got closer as time went by. I obviously had to come back home and said my goodbyes but we talk everyday by text….the only thing is he wants to have sex with me the next time i go back to see him to show how much he loves me. im 17 and he is 24 he really wants us to be in a serious relationship but im scared to have sex for the first time and then wish i had never done it, im one that believes in sex after marriage but i cant help my sexual attraction we both have towards each other. he is also my first boyfriend too so should i just wait and have a much longer relationship wirh him or wait for someone that could be my actual Mr right?
Hi Zarah! You can wait til marriage, if he really loves you, at the end he wants your hapiness. For me who also believe in sex after marriage if I would do it before my wedding I would be so disapointed in myself, even if it was “good”!
Yup, you should wait! first of all, he is much older than you, he may make you think he feels something over you but he could be using you. I’m sorry, but it is the honest truth. be careful.
Be careful Be careful your a so young he’s so much older I’ve been in the same situation with my boyfriend 4 yrs Ago I’m 19 now and he’s 24 I was one of the lucky ones he took my virginity and we’re still together but it does not always work out that way. You also mentioned that he’s away, and guess what he could easily be gone away for good once he takes your virginity your body is yours and precious only do something if you feel it in your heart and his actions shows that he loves you and care about you
why are you giving advice suggesting that she use her virginity as a form of currency or trading tool. GEEZ!!! You are advising her to give her virginity in exchange for lifelong committment. WOW. Remember nothing is permanent these days and such guarantees CANNOT be made. Just look around and see how many people get divorced.
The other thing is that SHE IS NOT SOOO YOUNG as you put it. She is 17 for god’s sake!
Zarah if you love the guy and if you want to have sex go for it. Yes whether you have sex or not is a question you will ask yourself everytime you meet a new partner. That question will crop up not just with having sex for the first time but with every new partner you have.
It is nice to believe that you will meet the “right person” give him your virginity and then live happily ever after. But things dont go that way all the time. Be practical and dont live in a dream world like those girls suggest.
Just go with your heart, think of consequences and if you will be able to handle those emotional issues and just dont listen to garbage advice.
You are 17 and are perfectly capable of making up your own mind. Good Luck.
the first time i had sex was absoutely terrifying and good at the same time. i remember i was so tight that he couuldn’t get in but he did at last and i think we had sex for 4 hours cause we started at 1 and ended 4 sumthing.. i was so soar that i didnt fell nothing until the last 48 mins i felt like i was in paradise and i end up giving him head which was my first time. i never regret loosing it to him not a bit but its all about being safe
Just don’t have sex till marriage. The way god intended
Praise you and your message. If we were really good chritstians, then we can wait!
bible banger
If all animals were created by God, tell me which animal apart from humans, advocates abstainance until marriage, before they have sex???
Tell me plz that you guys are for real.
In the 10 commandments, where does it say that you should not engage in premarital sex? Does it say you have to have sex at a certain age? If thats the case, why do girls start their periods at 11, 12 or 13 and NOT 18 or 21? What does commencing ones periods mean?
All the 10 commandments say is a) not to covet thy neighbours wife b) and not to commit adultery. There is nothing in the 10 commandments to say that we shouldnt have early sex or premarital sex. What a naive bunch.
No one is using any common sense here. God has given us minds to be able to think and analyse.
Having sex is in NO way amoral or bad. Sex is a normal function.
Where does christianity say that we should not have premarital sex?
Hello ladies!
First time sex for me was very intense. The guy that i lost my virginity to was my boyfriend. we did it in my sisters house (she still dont know bout it though lol) it was 2 weeks after the summer break. Me and Derek dated for 5 month. he is very charming and cute , he have this very attactive brown eyes. So that the ( the day i lost my virginity) we were at a friends birthday party, we actually didn’t find much fun there so we went to my sisters house and just chilled over there. My sister had a huge house so we went into one of the rooms and just layd on bed for a while and just made out and the next thing you know was that we were all upon each other, i actually was very relaxed and comfortable with him touchin my private parts and kissing me all over. Then when he went inside me i felt a lil’ pain but he was very smooth and gentle with it so he didnt make the pain worse, i actually started to enjoy it. Then when we were done, he leaned over to me and kissed me and we even showerd together, i bled a lil’ but it was all wrth it lol. we were very happy and lasted 7 years together. Now we are engaged and are looking forward to marry in spring. Good luck ya’ll.
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sex was deffinately not like how i imagined it.
well me and my boyfriend have been dating for lets say almost 2 months (or more) and he wont stop bugging me about sex, i’ve always been putting it off until one day i thought “what’s the big deal?” and gave in, so we decided to do it today (few hours ago), his parents would be home and so would mine so we couldn’t have sex in the comfort of our respectable homes, so we decided to get kinky with it and do it in the woods, we didnt exactly ‘have sex’ but we were pretty close, i was in so much pain and thought it was best not to go further, i didnt bleed so my hymen didnt break ( he didn’t go that far inside me) while we did it he kept telling me how beautiful i was and how much he loved me but he didnt go very slow :/, infact he was mainly thinking about his own pleasure, it hurt so much, at some point when i started to feel somethhing (pleasure?) i couldnt really appreciate it the pain was overwhelming. so my ‘first time’ wasnt amazing and it didnt feel special, i’m not sure if i even love the guy as much as i thought i did, i guess i’m just young and gullible, i’m thirteen and i deffinately should’ve waited.
Wow, im sorry ill probably sound like your moother, but you should dump that guy, I mean him wantig to “do it” and you only 13!!!!! Your right you should have of waited, at your age you should be going to movies or idk bowling. He defintly doesnt feel the same way you feel towards him If he did he wouldnt keep bugging you on about it and would of worried more about your desicions. Dump that guy
Hi frds, pls help out on dis…i have never had sex wit my gurl….nd we’av meet going to 2yrs now, but of recent she told me she’s coming over to spend the weekend wit me. Pls wat am i suppose to do wit her? Thank you.
The first time I had sex..wow..it was awful. It hurt so badly. I really don’t even know what you could compare it to. It was probably the equivalent to shoving a phone or a remote up your vagina. I’m not over exaggerating, and I have a really high pain tolerance, but it really hurt. However everyone is different, for some people it doesn’t hurt at all and some it hurts like hell. But I think I was unusually tight. I mean, even putting a finger up there hurt. Lol. Good luck to everyone
Soo I Want To have sex with my boyfriend, we’ve been dating quite a while but i’m not sure..and he isn’t either. We Talk about it and he doesnt pressure me, and he only will if i want to. I’m young but i trust him with my life. Im just not sure at all..Advise?
IF YOU ARE YOUNG AND YOU FIRST TIME AND WHEN YOU KNOW YOU WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH THIS GUY RELAX ENJOY BUT MOST OF ALL YOU OR HE WEAR SOME THING .
hi girls …i am 16years old and all i think is sex..i am so scared not just for pain but for million other things…
i wanted to ask you if you were scared of getting really naked,to show him your lady parts? did you do it in dark?where did you do it:)
and one more question-what did you do with your “haircut” down there?
please answer me faster as you can :* kisses for you<3
p.s sorry for my bad english
889maria hey girl im not gonna preach to you like most people because i was in your shoes just a couple years ago. I kindof know how you feel umm if your worried about the pain… well pain is the understatment some people like me didnt have any its becaus eof sports , how well you relax and a few other things. some people on the other hand like my friend (yes i was with her for her first time she was really scared and needed a friend) had a small amount of pain just enough to last maybe 10 seconds. to help the pain the more you relax the less it will hurt. i was terrified about getting undressed infront of my boyfriend sooo i let him undress me. i found it eaiser to cope with embaressment. someone once told me that a womens body is ment to be a work of art. youll be embarressed yes but when you see hoow he will react by the way he touches you, you will relax. if you dont want him to see your lady parts simply keep his eyes up. it is nothing to be ashamed of. i thought it was for the longest time and i was wrong. i didnt do it in the dark we did have some light threw candles and we did it somewhere where i felt comfertable. the thing is when its your first time he shouldnt push you into it, it will only make you more nervious and your feelings and requests should be the first priority to him. that way he can make you as comfertible as possible. for my first time i had the request of having lots of pillows on the bed to me its a safe barrier and if i said stop he would have to stop. the first time is all about you hun dont let him take that away. just relax and have fun if youd like to talk about it more so you feel more comfertable you can find me on facebook under heather cole we can talk and i can help cause everyone needs a friend for this step. talk to you soon
Love always a good friend -Heather
I was scared for my boyfriend to see me naked when we first started dating cause I’m really self-conscious about my body. But then we worked up to that and by the time we got to it, I was comfortable with it. Things kind of just happen when you’re in the moment and you don’t really think as much about how you look naked. Chances are your boyfriend is going to love how you look naked and he’ll compliment you on your body. The first time I did it there was only a small light and it wasn’t very bright, so it was kind of dark. And after that, we’ve done it in the dark and light. It usually just depends on where we are and what time of day it is. As for your hair down there, I shave all of mine. But guys have different preferences, so as long as you don’t have a bush down there, your guy won’t mind.
Helo evri 1, i tink u al need to tek lyf easy nd folow god’s instructns abt nt engagin in premarital sex. Givin ur virginity to u partner in mariag meks him trust, bliv nd love u more than u kan tink of. It also meks ur ways ryt wit god. Kipin it actualy pays! Y nt try self control.
My 1st time of having sex with my Guy friend it feel like we are making love too young .I mean 21 years old, right now .
and I think god was not happy at me of what I do was not right you know what I mean.
for my 1 time doing it feel so good i feel a little happy but i was not at happy i was worry about what god think for me…
Date July 12,2012 Thursday
Hi my name is Sara n I’m 21 years old. I m not ready for sex bcz I m worry bout pregnancy but my boyfriend want sex with me. I don’t knw what to do!! Plz if anyone helps me what shall I do nw?
just try and calm him down,convince him ok
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If you’re not ready, explain that to your boyfriend. If he really loves you, he will understand and wait for you.
Aw bless you! x
at least you are able 2 have your first time. ive planned 2 have sex with this guy for a couple of weeks now and nothing has happened because he lives down the street from my friend and i go to spend the night with her and when i tell that im gonna go down the street to his house she wont let me because she says that he isnt a good guy since he smokes weed, does drugs and only uses gurls as toys. so i really dont know wat to do. me and that guy arent dating but we like to mess around with each other and i really want some advice :]
honestly i agree with your friend. he doesnt seem like a good guy. sorry
That’s so odd?! Not trying to be smart but maybe he had a very small penis and you didn’t feel anything?
I remember my first time and I definitely felt it, it felt good but it did hurt a small bit, it wasn’t a pain that you’d want too stop though, it was good.
did it hurt on your first time? i want to have sex by i’m still thinking about it because i don’t want nothing to go wrong? i’m still young and i don’t want to end up preganat or catch an std or something? were you worried about all this when you first did it? should you be worried about this stuff? i mean like i also worry about what my parents would think and what my friends and people at school would say if they ever found out that i did something like that? i mean sex is something you take very serious!…
This girl obviously didn’t feel anything, she was probably numb(that happen’s to some people) But for MOST girls/women the first insertion feel’s like your being stabbed with a knife and then after a few… your just soar.
Generally the first few time’s you have sex you won’t enjoy it cause your still so nervous and you feel a bit awkward but the more you calm down the better it feel’s.
And if your worried about getting pregnant get birth control and use a condom. You should know if your partner has an STD or not, Hopefully your planning on doing this with someone you TRULY love cause otherwise you’ll regret it later.
yes you young if you feel like you in love with at boy go do it.. if not don.t do it.
wear Condom OK.
I’m planning on haveing sex for the first time in a few days… I’m ready just a tadd nervous… I hope I at least know what’s happening
ya afcos u try it its awsome
i was ready to have sex but my bf weoulfdnt use a condom