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Boyfriend Looks At Other Girls
As much as a girl would love for her boyfriend to have eyes only for her, the reality is that no matter how devoted your man is, he still checks out other girls. It doesn’t matter if he says he doesn’t, or if he acts like he doesn’t notice that other women are pretty. Reality check: we ALL do it. It’s natural! There’s no harm in looking, as long as nothing else is happening.
But does that mean it’s okay for your boyfriend to voice his opinion out loud on that hot girl that just walked by? Just because he might see a really attractive girl, does that mean he has to actually tell you about it? We found this topic being discussed in the message boards, and we’re curious as to what you girls think. Are you cool with your boyfriend calling another girl hot or not? Read what these ladies think and then tell us your opinion.
Zombocalypse asked:
My bf always says stuff like “damn she’s got nice *bleep*, or she got a nice ass”. It just hurts me so much. He does this all the time. He says he loves me, but I’m kind of starting to not believe him. And I feel that he’s more into making out. He says he’s never loved anyone before me. But… It just hurts. Is this normal?
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Squiggles! said:
Total jerk! He’s in a relationship with YOU, not the girls he sees or remembers. He shouldn’t be commenting about them. Of course he’s young though, and most guys today believe the whole “look but don’t touch” saying, which is pathetic. He’s trying to give himself an excuse to say, “I’m a guy, it’s normal”. Sure, it may be normal for him to look, but he should have respect for you to keep it to himself.
whitnei92 said:
It’s normal for him to act that way. He’s still immature, but moreover he’s just being a typical guy. At his age that’s all he can probably think about. I wouldn’t take any offense to it, girl. To get back at him, you should do some of the things he does and make some of the same comments. I used to do that to my ex boyfriend. It usually made both of us laugh. Definitely don’t take it personal.
Our opinion? Like we said before, being attracted to other people (even when you’re in a committed relationship!) is totally normal. And hearing your guy comment about another girl’s looks once in a while shouldn’t drive you crazy. But if he’s doing it constantly and it’s really upsetting you? Not too cool.
Say something if you’re super uncomfortable with the situation. But don’t get really jealous over him thinking another girl is pretty. He loves you and he’s with you, and if he didn’t want to be, he wouldn’t be. Think about the last time you thought another dude was hot. Did that mean you wanted to leave your BF for him? Probably not.
Who do you agree with? Do you care if your sweetie calls other people hot? Tell us in the comments.
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Lookin dosnt matter only if its like a half of a second look ,but more then that HEllz no! I am not okay with my guy or any guy doing such dog behavior (sniffing any female walking by) it is called bad manner and disrespect to us ladies., And then these guys wonder why us girls are so “katty” its becuz these boys do sh*T that make us act like that .Bottom line I think the problem is not them, its us ,we are unsecure of how we look, we think that another girl can take our man away that’s why we trip when our men eyeball’s other girls. We cannot change these little men,cuz they are just like that “hungry and thirsty….But if we ignore their disgusting behavior ,and show them who is the mature one ,they will feel ashame. ,nothing is more sexy then self-esteem, also if us girl go by motto “HOE WANTS ATTENTION,WOMAN WANTS RESPECT.” girls with big titts wont bother us ,becuz we have sumthing that “the girl with the big titts ” doesn’t. RESPECT .
Of course I’m gunna be jealous if my husband checks out another girl especially in front of me or even if he thinks she pretty idc he’s with me and I should be the only one he should be looking at in that way. And if he’s tired of it then he should get someone else cause I’m not one to be checking out others guys like that. Point is love what you have not like what you see.
I hate this topic.
my boyfriend adam looks at girls every time we go out and it gets me mad. why window shop when you own it. when i tell him it hurts me he says im crazy and he does not look at other girls its all in my mind. I feel like if he looks at other girls when im around, he will do more when im not around. Its hard because i love him but he has changed my idea about love, i feel its fake. You can love but its not the way it use to be. Guys watch tv shows, music videos and listen to songs talking about having mad hoes, its just sad that its cool to them, guess respect just gets thrown out the door.
My boyfriend tells me that he really loves me and that i am the love of his life but he told me he has sexual thoughts always on his mind. He looks at other girls and thinks of having sex with them and talks about how pretty or hot a girl is. He comments about them and talks about their figure. Even about my friends. He says he thinks of sex only to relieve his depression and says he is like that always thinking about having sex with other girls although he has never cheated me and he promises me he will never do it . After he told me this i had doubt that he doesnt loves me but before that i used think he is only mine.
In April I went to see my LDR GF. When I was asleep she looked through my phone and found that I had checked out another girl and messaged a friend about it due to what happened. I made a comment when the girl walked by on her butt, thinking she wouldn’t hear me, but she did hear me and pulled down her top to cover herself up a bit.
So I text my friend (he was having a bad day and could do with cheering up via my misfortune) telling him that i saw this girl walk by and she had a nice butt and I mentioned how I made a comment and how the girl covered up too.
I didn’t tell my girlfriend about this, and I didn’t delete the text (I got nothing to hide from her but hell I aint gonna tell her about a girls nice butt) and when I was sleeping at hers on a visit she decided to read my texts and came across that.
I’ll tell you one thing I have not looked at a girl ever again, and I don’t want to. It hurt her so bad. She still gets upset about it although I have apologized and promised I would never do it again.
She still aint over it (and this is the strange bit) because I didn’t tell her about it and that she found it on my phone. She actually claims (Total opposite of what you guys have said) that if I told her about it she would be okay with it and just got a little angry about it. This is actually the route of all our problems now and it is proving very difficult to get this back on track, so if any guys read this keep your eyes away from other women because it can make things very difficult.
i understand how you guys feel. it is normal to look at every details of a hot woman’s body, but its not respectful when it happens in front of you. my man that i thought was true. turned out i saw him staring at my sister when she got out of the shower with only towel wrapped around her. i told him hey, hello? he refused to look away and continue to stare. i was like whatever and finishing up making pancakes. then later like within a year on when he continue to stare at many attractive womans in front of me and them. i felt embarrased with how hot ladies knows that my boyfriends checking them out. (for me, if im around hot guys and i get all hormonal and all wild doesnt mean i HAVE to stare at his dick ) it was hurtful. my boyfriend used to have feelings and used to want to have sex with my sister before we met then after we got together he still had feeling to my sister, later on when he got more serious with me his feelings for my sister was fading and grew for me, he says he loves me but it feels like its full of crap. ive witness all of it and he says one thing and do another and he lied about everything for two years staright. excueses and excuses. im not happy with my life when hes in it. im not normally low and despressed like that, im not the jealous type, i believe that our hurt shouldnt be judged, im not protecting my relationship with him, im protecting me! and its his responibilty is to respect me as i respect him. i helped him get through his issues and emotional abuse and taught him how to drive and hes same age as me, i gave so much for him and i was hoping for good in return. its so unfair i never disrespect him, i know better than that i dont go off and stare at a hot guy cuz i wanna see some dicks. its gross. im better than that. it only depends on your limits, if your boyfriend stares at womens non stop and youre not happy and when its over your limits such as checking your sister out (on your wedding day do you really want to walk down the asile and see your man and your sister and remembering how he used to check your sisiter out more than three times and fear that it might happen again, its not a lovely memory to walk down the asile. its suppose to be happy and beautiufl and safe and trust) its every girls dream is to marry the most warming trusting guy, i dont believe in jealousy as a blame. im not ashamed about it, honestly, from my point of view a guy hurt you by checking girls out especially your sister, they accuse you of jealousy? that bull crap, they are responsible for thier action and youre hurt and youre trying to protect your feelings and you come up with many thoughts you feel ugly and not good enough and the must of having big boobs or must have long black hair or must have skinny thighs. youre instantly already innocent, and youre already hurt. and accused of jealousy is not very supportive. its called hurt, and hurt makes helpless, enough of stress. i believe that if your man is out there looking at hotties in front of you, then you should enjoy your view with hot guys too. its fair, give and take type of realtionship. i dont guareteeen relationship will be saved but there is someone who will treat you better. its not worth being unhappy cuz hes too busy looking instead of showing how much he loves you. looking at everyone the same way is respect. just because some girl hot mini skirt walking by you and he stares at her instead of noticing you when your aside him doesnt mean that he “have to” stare type of an excuse, if he doesnt understand respect then you should show him what its like to be disrespected. i have one daughter one years old and its tough. i just force my feelings for him aside and focus on my daughter then in time my feeings for him will fade, and the hurt is more than feelings. everytime i see his face its a unhappy feeling, its the feeling of destorier, he destoried alot of my confidence, my heart, my mental strengths, my esteem, my trust for anyone, my anger is stronger than ever, and i see that my belief is the only thing that keeps me together, seeing whats wrong and whats right and understanding. when the hurt out weighs the feelings for him, ask yourself if hes worth it all and putting it up with it for the rest of your life. if no then toughen up, its time to walk away and start fresh. if yes and no then youre afriad to confront, just do whats the best for you. not for him. not for you feelings. put it all aside and what is the best for you?
As a guy I can say no its not okay. why? because I don’t tell my girlfriend another girl is hot out of sheer respect for her. that’s all that needs to be said
You have my complete respect. Your girlfriend is lucky to have you! I wish you the best in your relationship!!!!
Its normal, i mean he is with you, nothing else matters my bf does it all the time we are just dating its not like we are married though i did tell him when we are married i wouldnt like that to go on. And yeah its normal hes a guy! Would u rather have him lie? No. And sometimes he asks me ” hey what do you think ahout her?” And i answer him honestly.
it seriously doesn’t make sense.
girls, you wont ever find a guy that doesnt look at other girls.
guys, you wont ever find a girl that when she’s out with friends and they see a good looking guy they wont talk about it. its vice versa, and to be brutally honest it pisses me off because i have the feeling im the only person alive not doing that crap *_*
Dont worry girl, im with you.
I don’t stare at other guys, even if they were hot. I only have eyes for my boyfriend. But I always find out that he look at other girls. But he said to me that he has no idea why he is doing it. But ugh >_> i really get pissed off when i see it. But you know, i had other idea’s about true love. But now ive learned that love is more difficult than i thought… But you have to know that man look at other woman doesnt mean anything like, fantasying about having sex with them or whatever. Its just eye candy for men, there are a lot of beautiful people around the world. Why is it a problem when your bf/man looks at them? He is not touching or flirting with them.
If you want to deal with this problem you really should work on your self-confidence. I did this and it helped me a lot….
If you wanna know how i did it? Well ive exercise A LOT and my body really changed and i love the way it is. It just gave me a boost to my confidence.
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Hi my fiance looks and go nuts over skinny girls but me I am a advearge girl.and it mAkes me upset he checking them out . He says he loves me but I dont know what to think , what should I do ?
It sucks that there is a justification such as ” A man looks all the time” Thats Bullshit! Woman dont need this crap if she really cares for a man. This is all man oriented crap. I dont put up with the shit. I do it behind his back and feel MUCH BETTER Oh YEAH Sucker!
Its Really pathetic ..! how being a guy becomes an excuse for them to check out or pass such comments for some other girls =_=
If hes so into other girls he shouldn’t be wasting this girls time!!
I wouldn’t like it if my bf were to check out other girls because I feel like if you love someone you only have eyes for them and only like them cause I don’t have eyes for other guys even guys I used to find attractive before dating my man I just don’t see it anymore. So it would make me jealous if he pointed it out I’d feel insecure and a low self esteem thinking I should look like that girl
1. It’s totally natural for him to have these THOUGHTS. He is a male and a young one at that. Just like you, he checks out his opposite sex. Doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t love you or he’s going to cheat.
2. My emphasize on THOUGHTS is because he should NOT be telling you what he thinks about another girls a** or her sexy body. If he says he loves you, he should understand that doing this hurts your feelings and is VERY disrespectful. What i like to do is put him in your perspective. For example, don’t act it out, (male egos you know) but ask him randomly “how would you feel if i saw a hot male jogger and whistled at him, and called him sexy?” I promise you he will feeling some type of way whether he shows it or not. If he loves you, he will not like that idea!
i wouldnt care,because i know he loves me
As far as my opinion is concerned, I think it’s fine. I’m the one who he’s seeing. But, when he is obnoxious about it there’s an issue. If he just glances, that’s fine. I’m the girl he’s taking home.
Yeah, you may be the one he’s “taking home” but you don’t want him to be thinking of her while he’s with you..? For me, I’m quite a jealous person, my boyfriend and I have been dating for around 10 months and we’ve both exchanged he I love you’s.. We have quite a serious relationship, and evn though I know he loves me, I can’t stand
To see him giving attention or affection to someone else.. I’m always worried if Im not doing enough for him, that IM not enough for him. If he really loves me, shouldn’t he only have eyes for me? I’m always afraid he’s thinking of someone else when he’s with me.. I know I’m just freaking out, because he’s done nothing dishonest or unfaithful but it doesn’t hurt to remind ur girlfriend how special she is to you so when she does catch your eyes peering to the chick with the large boobs to the right, you can reassure yourself that you don’t need to change yourself to get his attention.!