From The Boards: How Young Is Too Young To Lose Your Virginity?

Age To Lose Your Virginity

When did you lose it? | Source:

It should come as no surprise to anybody that everyone loses their v-card at different times. Despite any kind of pressure you might feel to give it up, there is no correct age to have sex for the first time. But that hasn’t stopped a lot of people from deciding when they think it should be done.

We want to know what you think – in your opinion, how old should a girl be before she has sex? What do you consider too young? Check out the message boards topic about this, and read what these girls had to say. Then let us know: how young is too young to lose it?

carolinedenny13 asked:
Okay girls, how young do you think is to young to lose your v-card? How young were you when you lost yours and what was the story behind it?

thekidd99 said:
Any age before 21 is too young… what’s wrong with you young girls having sex?? Wait until the time is right. I grew up hearing from friends, ‘omg I was 15 when I lost it and I regret it’. Stop being stupid, if a guy cant wait then **bleep** him, its not all about sex. I’m 23 and I still haven’t lost it.

Kelly Osbourne lost hers at 13 | Source:

leylaxx said:
You’re ready to have sex when you can handle the fact you may get an STD from it, an unexpected pregnancy, potential abortion, when you can afford the birth control and condoms and STD tests, when you are responsible enough and old enough to deal with the repercussions without parental consent.I lost my virginity almost 3 years ago when I was 17. I don’t regret it on account of I am still with the dude, but I wish we’d waited to make it more special.

Well, we can’t really say it any better than leylaxx did. Sex is a big deal, and you shouldn’t do it if you aren’t aware of the possible consequences. That being said, we don’t believe there is a ‘right’ age to lose your virginity. Every girl is different, and what it really comes down to is how comfortable you feel.

If you think you’re ready and you’re being safe, then go for it. Girls shouldn’t be putting other girls down for choosing to have sex at a younger age. Although we would never encourage young girls to go out there and get naked with any random dude, we do believe that it’s your decision, and your decision only. As we said before – make sure you’re totally comfortable and being very safe (condoms, ladies!).

Who do you agree with? How young is too young? When did you lose your virginity? Tell us in the comments.


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  • justakiddo

    I think that it’s a matter of when your ready. Like, seriously. If your ready and you really want it, do it.

  • Tiffanyy

    I was 15 when I lost it, and I regretted it. BUT because it was with my ex who I was deeply in love with (don’t look at me like I’m crazy!its totally true!). So it didn’t feel “right”. But now were back together answe regularly have safe, consensual sex!

  • EmmyBooBaby

    I think when ever your mature enough. I was 12 when i lsot my virginity. BUt i wasnt the typical 12 year old. And i dont regret it.

  • Murr

    I had sex for the first time when I was 13 (I was on birth control *for migraines* and had condoms). I am 22 now and don’t regret it at all, I dated that guy for 7 years and we broke up because we grew apart.I will always thank him and the experiences I had with him because they made me who I am today. I am a very confident happy person, and I am marrying the man of my dreams later this year, and I might not be in the same situation if not for my ex. I think if you feel emotionally secure with yourself, then you should trust your judgement, age is just a number, if you are emotionally (and physically) prepared than you are ready.

  • Marie

    When they are mature enough and they love the person and wont regret it. And Just because someone is as young as 13, doesnt mean they cant be in love. My grandparents fell in love in seventh grade and are still together now. Dont doubt love. <3

  • Madelynn’

    I lost my virginity 3 weeks after I turned fourteen. (:
    Great experience, & I don’t regret it! <3

  • anna

    I dont think its about age as much as it is about maturity, and you really should wait until you’re in love. That being said i dont think it’s possible to be in love until you’re an adult if you’re fourteen- you’re not in love you’re in love with the idea of love- but maybe we lose our virginity more than once, your first physical time (maybe you are 14) and your first adult,spiritual,loving time- but if you wait long enough for the right person maybe this will be the same occasion.

  • TheSunInHerEyes

    I’m 14 and still happily a virgin. I have no plans to lose mine in the future, honestly, I haven’t even thought about it yet. When the time comes, I don’t want it to be like I’m losing something, I want it to be like I’m finding something.

  • Kalla

    Well I’m 13 and quite a few people around me have started doing sex and I think that I would be ready for it? I’m not dating anyone, but i think that if I liked a guy and he wanted to have sex, I would do it: whats everyone’s opinion on this? Am I too young???

    • KatieGirl

      Yes!! far to young, wait till its legal then decide wether you’re with the right guy!

    • Anna

      Yes you’re too young! When I was thirteen I didn’t even worry about having a boyfriend or anything remotely close to having sex. That’s not even legal for you to be having sex. Unless your parents know your thoughts on this, then I doubt you even have any access to birth control or other contraceptives. You CAN end up pregnant. My sister decided to have as much sex as she could as young as she could and she’s 19 now with two little boys of her own. Trust me, you can do some waiting.

  • Maddy

    Well it all depends on the couple and feelings for each other. If you are for sure your ready and really love the guy go for it. But before anything make sure you understand what your getting into. Be aware of all the concequences to losing your v-card. Just make sure if you do it then you love and know the person you are with.

  • Angella64

    I think to lose your virginity is like after 18. But some girls don’t think and lose their virginity at 16 or younger. And they may get pregnant. After 18 or more. But with the right guy.

  • Belle

    I lost my virginity when I was 16. I don’t regret anything, but I certainly do wish that I would have waited until I was more mature and with a more respectable guy. The best advice I can give is this: DON’T lose your virginity to satisfy someone else. If you don’t feel %100 comfortable with the decision, then wait. Do it for you, and not to make someone stay with you because, chances are, if they would leave you because of a lack of intimacy, then the relationship would not be successful in the long run either way.

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  • Summer

    Yeah, it’s cool to avoid sex until you think you’re ready to handle the chances of getting preggers or an STD, but seriously, how many of us who are still in high school or even freshmen in college are ready for THAT responsibility. Get real! Let’s stop pretending like sex is something that doesn’t have the most life changing consequences. Just wait and enjoy being young. We don’t have bills or kids or stuff to worry about other than homework, sports and friends. When I have sex, I want it to be with a man who loves me more than anything in the world and wants to be with me for the rest of his life, not be with me until we break up and he dates some other girl. Get your heart broken over sex if you want but I’m too good for that….honestly, you are too. Save it for someone who matters enough and cares enough to say he loves you and wants to show it by marrying you!

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  • Alexandra

    I lost is when I was fourteen, to a guy whom I loved very much at that time. It was clumsy and a little awkward, but so funny! We were together for another year and a half after that and we loved each other to death. Feelings changed though, we grew apart, we’re no longer together, but neither one of us regrets anything.
    He will always be my first one in everything and I will always hold a special place in my heart for him.
    The most important thing is to never regret anything you do. Especially having sex. If you both want it, if you’re both responsible enough to use birth control, and if you have a place where it could happen, go for it! 🙂

  • Warrior Missy

    well im 14 i never had sex and i really dont care how ever i do care about other little gurls doing this ’cause there is so much to live for then sex so hope some one will read this and learn something ’cause these little boys who love you will wait till you is ready so live the life you suppose to have 🙂

    • Amy

      All Of The Awards ^^^
      Hope for this new generation

  • Amber

    I am 21 years old. I lost my virginity a month after I turned 15. I was a freshman in high school. Now I have 2 children. I personally do not think it is something a young person can handle. It’s not just sex and fun. There are so many responsibilities that can come with having sex. Not to mention the feelings that can surface. No CHILD is capable of being mature enough to handle them sort or emotions. I wasn’t for a fact. My oldest child is a girl, I will do whatever possible to keep her from having sex so young. Teen pregnancy is obviously getting out of control. Parents should prevent their children from being in situations where they can have sex at such young ages!

  • Saajid

    If you are not married then you are too young for sex. If u r old enough for sex, u r old enough for marriage. Don’t fornicate.