I’ve been talking to this guy for a while now and everything seems good when we’re together. We’re pretty casual right now, but I know he likes me and I think it could turn into something serious. The only thing is that when we text, it doesn’t even seem like he wants to talk to me. He usually gives me one-word answers or hardly even says anything. What does that mean? Should I be worried?
Ugh. How annoying is it when you type out this long text message to someone and you get back… ‘k’. It’s like, seriously?! You can’t add anything else to that one little letter?? But in all seriousness, I honestly don’t think you have anything to worry about here. It sounds like this guy is just being a typical dude – just like they’re not always into having long conversations in person, they’re not always into pouring their hearts out over a text message.
I know it’s hard to believe, because most of us girls could have a full-blown argument/gossip sesh/catch-up talk through texting, but most guys aren’t like that. So when you text this guy and he gives you one-word answers over and over again, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s blowing you off or that he doesn’t want to talk to you. There are a few reasons he could be doing that, and none of them are something you need to stress over.
For one thing, he could actually be really busy. Maybe he’s at work, maybe he’s hanging with his friends, or maybe he’s playing a video game. Either way, he might be too busy to type back a long response, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t care. Another possible reason is that he might not really be into texting. I know it sounds crazy, but I’ve personally heard a lot of guys say that they would rather get to know a girl in person, because doing it through text messaging just makes things more confusing.
The bottom line is this: usually, if a dude is even taking the time to answer you at all, it means he cares at least a little bit. If a guy doesn’t want to talk to you or is trying to blow you off, he’ll probably do just that and not respond in any way. I wouldn’t start to really worry unless he starts ignoring you completely.
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