Dating Younger Guys
When it comes to dating, a lot of girls have strict rules and standards for the guys they choose to call their boyfriends. One of the most common rules I’ve heard is that they refuse to date anyone younger than them. I am so not one of those girls. In fact, I could totally see myself being like Demi Moore in the future (minus the divorce and weird drug rumors).
I’ve only dated two guys who have each been three years younger than me, but from the way people react, you would think that I’m some crazy pedophile running around with a 13-year-old. Seriously, why does dating younger guys get such a bad rap most of the time? I’m here to tell you that it’s not so bad to (kind of) be a cougar.
When I was 21, I met a guy, E, who I thought was really cute, funny and sweet. Bonus? He was into me too. The only issue was that he was 18-years-old. I had never dated a younger guy before, but I’d always had a BFF who was a few years younger than me, so why should my dating life be any different? E and I started hanging out, and we kept things super casual for a few months, then ended things as friends.
Well, maybe our age difference didn’t bother me, but I quickly learned that it bothered, um… pretty much everyone else I knew. When my friends first heard I was seeing someone, they would squeal happily – until they heard how old he was. Their mouths would drop open and they would look at me like I was insane. “He’s YOUNGER than you?” they would ask, shocked that I would even consider such a thing.
It wasn’t only my friends who reacted that way. Any random person I told seemed genuinely surprised that I was dating someone a few years my junior. They asked what it was like and even laughed in my face sometimes, saying things like, “Let me know how that works out for you.”
A while later, I met M. He seemed perfect for me, but just like E, he was three years younger. I was totally into M (we’re still dating now!), and of course his age didn’t change how I felt. But when everyone I knew found out I was dating another younger guy, they reacted the same way they had reacted when they found out about E: shocked, confused and a little condescending.
Here’s the truth: it’s not that big a deal. Yes, dating someone younger can be a little annoying at times. Before M was 21, we couldn’t go to any bars together. M isn’t as mature as I am yet, but let’s be real here: I’m not the most mature person myself. I guess the worst thing is that M and my lives aren’t on the same level right now. While my close friends are starting to get engaged and have serious careers, M’s close friends are just graduating college. But it works out, because M has a great job and I’m no where near ready to think about the future like that.
Before M, I dated someone a lot older than me, and I’m pretty sure he had half the maturity level M has. M and I get along so well, he makes me happy and I make him happy. Who cares if he was a freshmen when I was a senior? And, yeah, maybe he spends too much time playing video games and making penis jokes, but, um, last time I checked, every guy does that. The truth is, besides having to deal with what people have to say (and I could care less), dating a younger guy has been no different than dating someone my own age. I’m a cougar and proud, baby!
Have you ever dated anyone younger than you? Older than you? Let us know in the comments.
Dating Younger Guys