Ask A Guy: What Do Guys Really Want For Valentine’s Day?

Valentines Day For Him

Does he want... ballons? | Source: LiveInternet

Dear Ethan: I have no idea what to get my boyfriend for Valentine’s Day. We haven’t been dating a really long time but I still want to get him something cute that he’ll like. What do guys really want for Valentine’s Day?

First of all, however much pressure you’re feeling on Valentine’s Day, we guys are feeling it twofold. Men are traditionally expected to lead the way on V-Day, planning fancy dinners, gifting delicious chocolates, and writing sappy greeting cards, so take solace in the fact that your boyfriend might be stressing even more than you are.

Still, it’s great that you want to do something for him. I happen to believe that birthdays and Christmas are occasions for which purchased gifts are more appropriate, and the best valentines I can remember receiving have always been homemade: a collage; a painting; baked goods; a decorated card. Ultimately, there’s no guy I know who expects to collect much on this holiday – if your boyfriend is anything like me and my friends, he likely just wants your attention and reassurance he’s your one and only.

Any guy would love some homemade cupcakes! | Source: Flickr

In fact, I think most guys – including this one – appreciate the idea of Valentine’s Day, but kinda dread its celebration. The mass observance of the holiday tends to dilute the event for every unique couple, and can be pretty depressing for those who are single. So why not aim for multiple Valentine’s Days by spontaneously choosing a few dates throughout the year to splurge on a nice meal, relaxing massage, or special gift for your loved one? You can even pamper your man the day before or after the official date to avoid crowds and make it your own! If you consistently surprise your dude and make him feel adored on any random Tuesday, he honestly won’t expect much more than a little bit of love from you on February 14th – and that’s not just great news for Valentine’s Day, it’s great for your relationship.

Good luck!

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  • guyft

    I still think Valentine’s Day should be a bit special. It’s one of the best days to be super creative with your gifts.

    If you’re still trying to figure out what to get your man this Valentine’s, check out this post:

    I hope it helps… Good luck everyone! Happy Valentine’s Day 🙂

  • Lisa S

    I was in that position when I was your age too. I know it’s cliche, but I got him movie tickets to a show he wanted to see (we went during the day so we had more time together) then packed a picnic of Sandwiches, strawberries and fruit punch (or his favorite drink). I also packed some popcorn because we say at a local pond and fed the ducks. It sounds totally boring NOW, with all the high tech stuff that’s available, but since it was a new relationship, I felt that 1. It didn’t cost too much. 2. I didn’t invest a whole lot of thought into it and 3. It gave us even more time to talk and get to know each other. It actually turned out really well! We both had a good time. I hope you find something that works out for you! 🙂

  • jackie

    Im going to make this simple. Lol
    Im 17, he’s 18. We’re dating and i want to get him something simple cause weve only been together for a few weeks. But he asked me to be his valentine so I’m guessing he’s into valentines day?
    What would be appropriate to gift?