Who Should Pay On A Date
When you go out on a date, who do you think should pick up the check or buy the movie tickets? Even though it’s totally appropriate for the girl to pay, let’s be honest: a lot of girls still expect the dude to do it. It might sound sexist, but it’s true. Most guys expect to be the ones reaching in their wallets, and some guys even feel offended when a girl offers to pay.
It really comes down to a matter of opinion: should any one person be paying for a date? Or should you two be splitting the check? Or are there certain rules that should be followed? The editors of Gurl.com all feel differently about this, but what we really want to know is what you girls think. So check out our thoughts, and then tell us in the comments: who should be paying on a date?
Emerald Says: It Should Always Be Equal
It should be equal, always or overall (i.e. you get dinner, I get the movie). To be a young person, in this economy, it’s unreasonable to demand that someone treat you like a princess at all times. Meanwhile, it makes you look like you can’t take care of yourself and makes you weirdly dependent on the other person for a good time. Yeah, it’s awesome if someone wants to do something nice for you, but in the long run it is unfair and makes girls look . . . weak. You want to buy cool things for me and take me to cool places? I can buy cool things for myself . . . and you can tag along, if you’d like.
Melanie Says: You Should Always Offer
I think it’s always important to offer to pay your half on a date. Assuming someone else is going to pay your way is kind of tacky, and especially in this economy, it’s plainly rude. Back in the dark ages when women weren’t allowed to work and couldn’t make their own money, of course men paid for everything—because women simply couldn’t! But that’s a looooong time past, and dudes shouldn’t have to bear the bill for every dinner, ice cream date, movie, or concert. That said, some guys really feel good about treating their girlfriend to something nice once in a while—so if he insists on paying, I almost always give in and say yes. I won’t lie—I love being taken out—but I think it would be less special if it happened all the time!
Julie Says: He Should Pay On A First Date
I’m all for paying being even between guys and girls when it comes to dating…eventually. But on first dates, I’m down for a little inequity. On most of my first dates, the dude pays in full. Sometimes I offer to split, but a lot of times I don’t. Honestly, I’ve found that many guys are insulted when I offer, so I try to feel out the situation and cut back on how often I do it. I’ll totally pay for the full second date—and I plan an awesome date!—so not whipping out the cash on date one isn’t really getting anything unfair or expecting too much, in my opinion.
Jessica Says: He Should Almost Always Pay
I know most girls would be totally shocked to hear these words coming out of my mouth, but I think the guy should usually be the one who’s paying. Maybe it’s because all of my boyfriends have always insisted on paying for everything, but I think it’s kind of romantic and sweet for a dude to take you out and take care of everything – especially on a first date. Listen, if you’re the one asking me out, then I’m going to assume you’ll be paying. But if I ask you out, then I’ll pay. I’ll offer sometimes, but you absolutely win more points if you pay for our dates.
Who do you agree with? How do you pay for dates? Tell us in the comments.
Who Should Pay On A Date