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Who Should Pay On A Date
When you go out on a date, who do you think should pick up the check or buy the movie tickets? Even though it’s totally appropriate for the girl to pay, let’s be honest: a lot of girls still expect the dude to do it. It might sound sexist, but it’s true. Most guys expect to be the ones reaching in their wallets, and some guys even feel offended when a girl offers to pay.
It really comes down to a matter of opinion: should any one person be paying for a date? Or should you two be splitting the check? Or are there certain rules that should be followed? The editors of Gurl.com all feel differently about this, but what we really want to know is what you girls think. So check out our thoughts, and then tell us in the comments: who should be paying on a date?
Just split it up!
Emerald Says: It Should Always Be Equal
It should be equal, always or overall (i.e. you get dinner, I get the movie). To be a young person, in this economy, it’s unreasonable to demand that someone treat you like a princess at all times. Meanwhile, it makes you look like you can’t take care of yourself and makes you weirdly dependent on the other person for a good time. Yeah, it’s awesome if someone wants to do something nice for you, but in the long run it is unfair and makes girls look . . . weak. You want to buy cool things for me and take me to cool places? I can buy cool things for myself . . . and you can tag along, if you’d like.
Offer no matter what.
Melanie Says: You Should Always Offer
I think it’s always important to offer to pay your half on a date. Assuming someone else is going to pay your way is kind of tacky, and especially in this economy, it’s plainly rude. Back in the dark ages when women weren’t allowed to work and couldn’t make their own money, of course men paid for everything—because women simply couldn’t! But that’s a looooong time past, and dudes shouldn’t have to bear the bill for every dinner, ice cream date, movie, or concert. That said, some guys really feel good about treating their girlfriend to something nice once in a while—so if he insists on paying, I almost always give in and say yes. I won’t lie—I love being taken out—but I think it would be less special if it happened all the time!
He should take over on the first date.
Julie Says: He Should Pay On A First Date
I’m all for paying being even between guys and girls when it comes to dating…eventually. But on first dates, I’m down for a little inequity. On most of my first dates, the dude pays in full. Sometimes I offer to split, but a lot of times I don’t. Honestly, I’ve found that many guys are insulted when I offer, so I try to feel out the situation and cut back on how often I do it. I’ll totally pay for the full second date—and I plan an awesome date!—so not whipping out the cash on date one isn’t really getting anything unfair or expecting too much, in my opinion.
He should be the one paying most of the time.
Jessica Says: He Should Almost Always Pay
I know most girls would be totally shocked to hear these words coming out of my mouth, but I think the guy should usually be the one who’s paying. Maybe it’s because all of my boyfriends have always insisted on paying for everything, but I think it’s kind of romantic and sweet for a dude to take you out and take care of everything – especially on a first date. Listen, if you’re the one asking me out, then I’m going to assume you’ll be paying. But if I ask you out, then I’ll pay. I’ll offer sometimes, but you absolutely win more points if you pay for our dates.
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Who Should Pay On A Date
Would You Rather?
This or That
It’s 50/50 all the time from date one to the end of your lives. A man in this day and age is more impressed by an financial independent woman then a needy, materiaelistic, unappreciative, ungrateful woman who won’t, can’t hold their own in dating or a relationship. It is not 1912, 1952, anymore. It is 2012 and counting ladies. Get with the program. Stop using men as your personal food stamp, ATM machine. We are human just like you. We have blood, organs, hearts, bones, brains just like you. We deserve to be trated fairly like humans like you want to be treated. Us guys are sick of it. Trust me ladies you would feel it later on if a relationship develops if the relatioship is one sided in your favor. I hope this helps you ladies get a clue.
You know as a women I always expected a guy to pay at least for the first few times but I think more and more I realize, that ya we are working too, it’s not the early 1900′s why expect a guy to dish out the cash all the time.. Times have changed and it’s not fair. And we should hold our own and show a guy that hey I can help support us too.
So ya all power to the women and men who want equality but for the first couple of dates guys, pull out that wallet and make her feel special. See it as an investment in your futures
I think its great for a girl to have her own! if you can pay do it every now nd then cause just like we like to be treated so do men. i dont mean just pay on his bday ladies lol. if i like a guy i will offer to pay if we are in a relationship.
This is so complicated because my mom has always told me that the guy should pay and magazines say a guy will value you more if you let him pay for you but it seems unfair. I have to admit though, if I went on a first date and a guy didn’t offer to pay for me I’d be a little taken aback just because I’m used to the guy paying, at least at first. I think that if you expect the guy to always pay for you, even when you’ve been in a relationship for a while you’re kind of a gold digger. Because that means you wouldn’t date a guy who can’t afford to pay all the time. I’ve found that lots of guys will appreciate and admire a woman more if she shows she can take care of herself.
I’m in between the person who asks pays, and always offering to pay half. I had a guy totally ignore me when I offered to pay and started giving me little gifts. It unnerved me so much to owe him (in my head anyway) and I knew the only thing he’s take in return was sexual stuff and I didn’t want to do that stuff because I owed him so didn’t take him up on another date.
My first (almost) date the dude expected to pay and have his parents drive i freaked out and canceled a little before i felt so bad but i was so uncomfortable with that. xD
i belive who ever invited the person on the date should pay if the man invited then he should if the gurl invites then the gurl does
I’m all for paying 50/50. I know that some say, “Whoever asks, pays.” If you are a high school/college student like me, you don’t have a lot of money. It’s easier to pay for what you order because then you are taking notice of the cost and you are making sure that you don’t go broke.
I will say though, some of the best dates are free. Pay attention to advertisements- my cousin’s boyfriend took her on a hot air balloon ride because it was a grand opening and they were offering free rides.