Ask A Guy: Do Guys Really Care If You Have Big Boobs?

Men Like Big Breasts

Do you have to fill out a bikini like this to find a guy?


Dear Ethan: Does a guy really care if you have massive boobs during sex? My friend is really self-conscious about her body sometimes, and all she talks about is how guys want girls with big boobs. It’s starting to make me a little worried.

As I’ve revealed here at Ask A Guy before, the honest truth is that all men – just like women – do have personal preferences. And just as some girls find themselves especially attracted to men of specific height, hair color, or calf size, some men are into larger breasts.

Is it possible that some of these guys might rule out dating girls with anything less than watermelon-sized boobs? Sure, it’s possible. But from my experience, most of these men will be open-minded enough to appreciate the many other positive qualities of less endowed women. I, for example, am a real-life “Breast Man” who has happily dated – and even loved – women with smaller boobs.

Lea Michele might not have much, but who wouldn't hook up with her?

Furthermore, even though most guys might enjoy breasts to some extent, tastes can vary wildly from person to person. In fact, about half of the breastophiles I know actually prefer smaller cup sizes! And even better news for your horizontally-challenged friend is that most of the guys I know actually favor butts or legs. If your friend is worried about what guys will think of her smaller boobs, all she needs is a man who can appreciate her greatest assets, whatever they may be. There’s even someone out there who will go gaga over those sexy earlobes of hers.

So learn to love your greatest features and use them to lure a lucky guy in. As I always say, confidence is far more alluring than any appendage (or two) can ever be. And if all else fails, just remember that most guys are so thrilled to be having sex in the first place, they likely won’t have any body part to complain about but their own (just ask my buddy, “Six Second” Steve).

Good luck!
Ethan

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  • James Thrash

    Rubbish article that doesn’t actual come to any conclusions based on evidence.

  • Joe

    Men and boys know boobs are little more than a bag of fat with a little glandular tissue, but we don’t squeeze them because they are fat and squishy. If that was the case, we’d be dating more fat girls. In our prehistoric brain, we are hard wired to know there’s something special about the nature of the gland we’re squeezing, or you’d see more frat boys bragging on Monday that some girl let him feel her thyroid gland on a first date. No, it’s more about the role that particular gland plays on the reproductive stage and we want to confirm her suitability for breeding. When women started stuffing their bras with cotton to appear bigger and, thus, more attractive to men, we needed some way to confirm whether she really has boobs or just part of a cotton plantation on her chest – so we start probing and squeezing. If she has little to no real boobs, she would not, evolutionarily speaking, be considered good breeding material since she would not be able to feed the product of a sexual union and we are equally hard wired to use that union to make more people. But it doesn’t take boobs the size of a 55 gallon drum to impress us. Many men are perfectly satisfied with a nice, firm B cup and are turned off by massive, monster boobs, especially since we know the girl is destined someday to have a losing battle with gravity than girls with smaller but adequate boobs.

  • Kiva Redwing

    what a bunch of shit, men hate small breasts, they will force fuck anything, it does not matter how much it hurts, just so long as you are available when betsy big titbig big tits s is not. why do you think there are over 100 mags dedicated to big tits and not small. because men hate small breasts, if you all liked small breasts you would rubber neck small breasts, you do not, you only stare at big. and oh so funny, any woman with tits has a higher iq. Seen it a million times , men hatesmall, love big, otherwise you would be staring and comparing all women to small. you are not.

    • threenorns

      seriously, lady, you got issues.

      why is it that whenever an image calls for a “sophisticated” or “elegant” woman hanging on a rich man’s arm, she’s always built like a greyhound unless she’s a “trophy wife”, in which case she has to part her cleavage to see to whom it is she’s talking. same with media images of female doctors, lawyers, judges, social workers, etc.

      “any woman with tits has a higher iq” – marilyn vos savant: IQ 190. smartest woman in the world, as certified by Guinness World Book of Records. look her up. temple grandin – without a padded pushup, she looks male or at least androgynous.

      i suggest you stop using forums to vent your trauma-induced venom and go see a shrink.

    • Joe

      Wow, sounds like the ravings of a girl with small tits. Sorry, Kiva, but you are deluding yourself. Men DO like a girl who has B cups and not the double D. In the first place, it’s all about the visual. Men are and always have been visual creatures and, thanks to artists and sculptors of centuries ago, we have known for thousands of years before Playboy came along what females are supposed to look like. Once upon a time, a girl with an A cup was considered handicapped. But you gotta agree, a 25 year old female with the chest of a 10 year old boy is not as attractive as she would be if she had a nice, firm B or C cup. Now, it’s not always about size, Kiva. It’s also about appearance, which includes the built in decorations. Yes, the breast is a thermos with an added straw for convenience, but if her nipples are the size of manhole covers, or irregularly shaped, or the wrong color to suit us, or more bumps (Montgomery glands) than a mine field, that can be as big a turn off as a flat chest on a girl. If you don’t like your chest, girls, get a fat transfer, but do NOT get implants. A man can spot a fake boob like an eagle can spot a mouse a quarter mile away and we don’t like them scarred up. Fat transfer leaves no marks, feels natural, and if you have enough donor fat to do so, you can make them as big as you want. Just don’t go past a size that doesn’t fit your body.

  • RDC

    It doesn’t matter what size they are to me, they are just included with my cute girlfriend. I like her personality, and dont care if she has big breasts. She is very intelligent and does a lot of cute things subconsciously. She treats me well, and I do the same. Now as for do I care about breast sizes. NO!

  • Woody

    I also love areolas that are the size of Texas and the color of Hersheys Kisses, and have a nipple on them like a Moen faucet. Ta Ta’s are tops ladies. We love ’em. Learn to live with it. Would you rather we didn’t like them, lick them, carass them, kiss them, and admire them? It’s a natural mother nature act. From reading material I understand that most women like them kissed, carassed, and admired, so quit holding out on us so long ladies. Playboy magazine didn’t become an overnite success because of it’s cooking recipes! If you’ve got it….flaunt it!

  • driver8

    i really wish girls/women would stop giving a rats ass about what boys/men like. too bad we can’t evaluate your package guys before the big reveal. too small is just as bad as too big. but it doesn’t matter because guys look in the mirror and even if they have no teeth and a big gut they still think they look great.

    • Kiva Redwing

      that is no lie, but that is because men are not in a culture that worships what and ideal should look like.

  • Bert

    “Also, it’s in human males’ genetics to prefer women with larger boobs”? Sorry. Perky and petite on a small frame beats big and bouncy any day.

  • John

    I allways liked small breasts or in the midle but big is ok its wants in side that realy counts as for butts if you want to know small ones i dont know just not like most men i guss.

  • Lorna

    All I’d like to say is that it really does not matter what size your breast are…I had breast augmentation done because after having a child and breast feeding…my boobs lost their tightness. I have never had anything but compliments from guys…it didn’t matter if they were small or after I had them enlarged. Men REALLY DO like a SMILE on your face, they like confidence and they like a woman they can relate to. If all a man cares about is the size of your breast then they are only after ONE thing. Sorry but that’s the truth!

    • Kiva Redwing

      SO THE FUCK WHAT, IF THEY REALLY CARED ABOUT THE SMILE ON YOUR FACE THEY WOULD NOT JACK OFF TO PLAYBOY, OR 100 OTHER MAGS OF BIG TIS THER ARE , I HAVE NEVER EVER EVER HAD ANY MAN SAY ONE GOOD THING ABOUT ME BEING A FLAT CHESTED CUNT , NOT ONCE, IT DOES NOT MATTER HOW MUCH YOU SMILE AND KISS ASS, IT SURE DOES NOT, MEN DO NOT JACK OFF TO PLAYBOY FOR THE SMILE ON THEIR FACES, THEY SURE DO NOT. DO MEN RUBBER NECK THEMSELVES TO DEATH OVER BIG TITS, MUTHAFUCKAH YEAH, CONFIDENCE, THAT IS WHEN YOU GOTTA BIG PAIR. MEN USE AND HURT WOMEN WHO ARE ONLY SOMETHING THEY CAN RELATE TOO , ALL YOU ARE IS A FLAT CHESTED CUNT, WITH A BIG HEART. SO THE FUCK WHAT. YOU ARE MORE THAN JUST A PERSONALITYTO BE USED AND LIED TO. OR YOU SHOULD BE, YEAH, I SHOULD LIKE TO BE USED FOR BEING A FLAT CHESTED CUNT, A NICE PERSONALITY. I SHOULD NOT LIKE THE WHOLE PACKAGE. IS THIS OR IS THIS NOT WHAT ALL WOMEN`S LIB WAS BASED ON. PLAYBOY AND ALL OTHER MAGS MEN JACK OFF TOO IS ENTIRELY BASED ON BIG TITS. AND YES ALL MEN GIVE A THOUSAND POINTS PLUS AND MORE TO BIG TITS. SMILE ALL GDDAMN FUCKING DAY, IT WILL NO T CHANGE THE DIFFERENCE IN HOW YOU ARE TREATED AS A FLAT CHESTED CUNT. BE A GOOD GIRL AND SMILE WHILE YOUR BOY FRIEND STARES AT BIG TITS, ALL MEN SOMEWHAT LIKE A GOOD , SUBMISSIVE PERSONALITY, BUT NOT AS MUCH AS THEY LIKE BIG TITS. THEY WILL SHIT, AND SHIT, AND SHIT ON SMALLBREASTS , AND STARE AND STARE AT BIG ONES, AND JACK OFF TO BIG ONES AND LIE TAT TIT SIZE DOES NOT MATTER.

      • Jessica

        What ever happened to you to make you like this? I’m starting to really feel bad for you.

        • Belinda Lockhart

          Its because she speaks the truth, a man can be with a beautiful woman that may not be so well built and as soon as some ugly fat hog crater face slut comes along with big ass tits hanging out they will 180 just just to get another look at them then swear they didnt see her even walk by

          • threenorns

            couldn’t at all be because they were thinking “holy crap, did i just see that!?” because of the “ugly fat hog crater face”, eh?

            i’m a female and when a guy walks past that gets my attention, i rubberneck. thank goodness i’m not such a hypocrite that i feel i can do that all i want but any man with me must be “eyes front, soldier!!!!” at all times!

  • Veronica

    Why is it wrong for men to prefer big tits? It’s natural. A woman with natural big tits says she has what it takes to physically feed her children. Breasts also remind the man of an ass. If a man says he prefers smaller boobs its because they have been with women who have big ones that sag….but ALL boobs will sag. Fat is fat, and I’ve seen A and B cups that look horrible compared to my natural E’s. mine are actually perfect, and that’s after having feeding three kids, but I can thank tight skin for that.
    I’m blessed. Men literally go into a trance when I walk by and women look at me like they want to kill me.
    And there will be so many comments from girls saying they’re happy with their small tits and so are their men…..sure, that’s why breast augmentation and porn filled with women that have big tits are multi billion dollar industries.
    However, if I had small ones, I’d keep them that way. Men don’t just like tits big, but they like them soft and pliable, not hard and looking like balls.

    • Kelsey

      That sounds so self – absorbed if you ask me. Yes some men like bigger boobs. But who are you to judge girls with smaller boobs to be undesirable to men and less capable of taking care of their children just because of their genetics. All the women in my family are small breasted and we’re very capable of taking care of their children thank you. Big boobs have no relation to breastfeeding, breasts naturally grow as a pregnant women lactate. Small breasts are just as good as larger breasts. Like the men say more than a handful is a waste. ~ a girl very proud of her small breasts

      • Kiva Redwing

        if small breasts were just as good as big why does all of porn have mostl, and I mean 99% only big, why do all men stare at big? and not one fucking mn stare at small/. huh, why/ I am flat chested for 57 years, and I have never heard a good saying about my breasts, but big titted women sure have, a million times a day. no why is that?

    • Kiva Redwing

      she is dead on, and honest, all of porn is big busted, all of porn, men hate small, only 8.5% of men like small breasts, so she is honest good for her , better than all those fucking liars , yeah men do not like small breasts, never have , never will, yes men think small tits are undesireable, I thank her for her honesty, at least someone told the truth. good for you girl.

      • John White

        I would never settle for a woman with less than large boobs. I know what I want and know they love to have that hot cum squirted all over those large titties.

        • Todd Starlin

          Boobs are boobs. Men like what they like. Some prefer legs, or the size and shape of the butt. Some are just looking for beautiful face with a slender frame. Can women say they are honestly any different? Do any of us base our relationships solely on the +1 being a nice person with a great personality. Probably not. Humans are fickle. I myself to speak the truth am a breast man. Yes I love them big. Why? Its what I prefer. I don’t see any thing wrong with it. For those women rolling their eyes at this, ask yourself this question: does the size of my partners penis really matter to me? Or breasts or whatever. Why do women chuckle when the phrase “size matters” comes up. Couldn’t that phrase also reference the size of a woman’s chest. Ultimately our preferences define us. For better or worse. I do not think of myself as a pig for my preference. My current girlfriend wears a 40 DD bra. She is also disabled. So another thing to ask the ladies. If indeed looks and features do not matter, how many overweight men have you dated? Or disabled men. Or men with a small penis? Are men pigs? Or are we all pigs for our preferences?

  • Melanie

    Ha ha! Ironically, Lea Michelle recently had a breast augmentation. So much for that reasoning!

    • John White

      She now needs a nose augmentation

  • Ruffcut

    i like all tits and size,if they smell good, and have a large nipple.

    • Asper

      Women are more than body parts, asshole.

  • IHeartGreen

    I believe that size doesn’t matter as long as you have a good personality and you have a smile on your face

  • Shelby

    Also, it’s in human males’ genetics to prefer women with larger boobs. It’s subconscious, but it’s true. Also, women with a larger ass are more desirable as well, also subconsciously, since both of these traits symbolize a better ability to bear children. So. Once again, boobs win.

    • Brittney

      Just because you used the word subconscious(ly) twice does not mean you know what you are talking about. I would love to see your research (please note that does not mean GOOGLE) regarding your ‘findings’ on this subject. Since you seem to know for a fact that all males are pre-programmed to prefer large boobs…

      • Tess

        Not the original commentor, but it’s evolution. Each organism, according to evolution, needs to be able to pass on its genes and reproduce in order to be considered “fit”. Childbirth is a very intense process, and women with larger hips tend to have an easier time giving birth than those that have smaller hips. Women with larger hips tend to be curvy elsewhere, making larger breasts and butts more desirable for reproduction purposes. Keep in mind, this is from a purely biological standpoint, and obviously reproduction is not the high priority when men think this, but from a scientific standpoint it makes sense. Sociologically speaking, things are very different obviously.

        • Janice

          Not true.

          Most Asians have small hips, and Asians make more than half of the world’s population

          • Jessica

            They also have smaller babies.

          • John White

            and smaller eyes

      • Kiva Redwing

        yes in this culture they are, or have you never seen playboy, hustler, or over 100 tit mags all dedicated to big tits, there are no small breast mags in America, or anywhere else. Except france

    • Lily

      That’s what they tell us, but I don’t think it’s true. Over 60% of all natural breast sizes are A and B cup, not DD. Only a very small percentage of women have natural D’s or DD’s. So that blows that supposed theory out of the water. Not only that, but everyone knows our breasts get bigger when we get pregnant and they get engorged with milk. So that also blows that theory out of the water. And, if that were true, why wouldn’t men like women with huge stomachs and who weigh around 200 pounds? If guys look at big breasts and subconsciously think she’d be able to feed his children better than someone with small breasts, wouldn’t they look at small/flat stomachs and think she wouldn’t be able to have room to carry a child? It’s all b.s. to get women to spend money on implants and expensive bras. Don’t believe the hype.

      • D Cups are Small

        Late to the party, but just in case anyone ever reads this and believes the above… The bras *bought* most commonly are A to D cups. The bra cup sizes most commonly *needed* are the DDD/Es, Fs and Gs. The problem is that just about everyone’s wearing band sizes much too big, so my 34DD bras should have been 30G or Hs. Likewise, someone in a 36B could need a 34C, 32D, 30DD or 28DDD, and that’s assuming the cup fits well in the first place.

        • Marie

          I completely agree with you! For the longest I thought I was a 32D which I’m actually a 26G or a 26H. Many people seem to think just because one person says a they have a D+ cup size they think they’re large. It’s a actually quite small. If certain places (no names mentioned) would actually measure and stock smaller bands, then wearing a band size too large.

      • Kiva Redwing

        FUCK YOU, MEN HATE SMALL breasts, and that is culturally learned, france , and only france believes women are beautiful if small busted. Men in America prefer big tits, and hate, and I do mean hate small breasts. get implants

        • John White

          Nothing like squirting massive amounts of cum on big tits

      • Jessica

        Alot of guys like pregnant women with big stomachs and that are 200lbs.lol