As for how to ask him to get tested, refer to the national motto of The United States of Relationship: “Communication and Honesty Above All.” Explain how much you love him and that while you’re sure he’s fine, you’d like both of you to be certain. If he’s as experienced (and therefore, mature) as you say he is, he should have no problem understanding. Any guy who refuses to get tested for the first time after sleeping with multiple partners either has something to hide, or simply isn’t respecting your very warranted apprehension. But the fact that he’s been so supportive and pressure-free in the past leads me to suspect he’ll totally be receptive.
Keep in mind that some STDs are transmitted in other ways than traditional sex, so you can offer to get tested, too, in order to take some of the pressure off of your boyfriend. Your first time, you already have enough to think about (e.g. what music to play; how to “sexile” your roommate; where to put your arms) without needing to deal with the fear of STDs. If you get tested together, you can then both enjoy sex without any fears or worry – and first time or fortieth, that’s the best sex to have.
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