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Best Friend Is Mean
Hi Heather,
At school my BFF acts like a total jerk around me. She is popular and I am not. She tells all my secrets and calls me names. Then on the bus she is so nice and is like my BFF again. I can not stand it! What am I supposed to do?
Whoa… it sounds like your BFF is more of a frenemy than an actual friend. The way she’s treating you really stinks – no one deserves to be bullied by anyone, especially by someone who is supposed to be a friend.
You have every right to be angry at her, but if you really want to save your friendship, you need to try to talk this out. Even if you’ve already said something to her about this, say something again. She needs to know that what she’s doing isn’t right. Tell her how much it hurts you when she’s rude to you at school and spills your secrets. Let her know that you like being her friend, but you’re not going to keep hanging out with her if she’s going to act this way. Try to be calm instead of starting a huge fight.
What BFF's should look like.
But honestly, it sounds to me like you’re better off without her. You don’t need people in your life who bring you down and make you feel bad about yourself for no real reason. She’s either doing this for attention or to feel better about herself, and either reason isn’t a good one. I’m sure you have other friends who are there for you, and if you feel like you don’t right now, you’ll make them soon.
I’m not saying you have to cut her completely out of your life and make her your sworn enemy. Just slowly stop talking to her as much. Don’t sit with her on the bus, and definitely stop telling her your secrets. If she asks you why you’re being a little more distant, be honest with her. Hopefully it will make her realize that she’s doing something wrong, and if not, then that’s her loss.
take care,
heather
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This happened to me too! Actually, it’s still happening…this girl has been my bff for almost 3 years, and lately she’s been kinda ditching me and ignoring me and stealing my friends (cause we have the same friends, but they’re closer with me) and she started stealing them and like just hanging out with them without me. And they would be really mean cause we all eat lunch together but they would plan and talk about what they’re gonna do on the weekends with me RIGHT NEXT to them and they wouldn’t even bother to ask me if I wanted to go. And if I go like ‘Hey, that sounds fun, can I come?’ the girl would be like ‘nah, I don’t know, we kinda already decided it’s only gonna be us.’ and then all the other girls would agree with her. And also i know the girl (my bff) has a huge crush on my boyfriend, and whenever she gets the chance she would keep saying really bad stuff about me to my boyfriend. The reason I know is because my boyfriend would tell me and at least the good thing is he’s on my side he doesn’t believe the crap she says and he also thinks she’s a bully and a really annoying person. The only thing that confuses me is that the girl would be really mean to me but then a second later she would act like we’re still bffs and one time she was texting my boyfriend and she accidentally sent the text to me and the text was basically saying how rude I am and how she thinks I’m a bitch and that my boyfriend should break up with me. And it was just a really mean thing to do and she doesn’t even know she accidentally sent the text to me, the next day at school she pretended like nothing happened and when she saw me and my boyfriend walking together she would be like ‘aww, you guys are so cute!’ to us. But it sounded really fake. I don’t know, maybe I should stop being friends with her. I don’t know why but I’m the one who cares about our friendship I am constantly forgiving her and trying to repatch and fix our friendship. I’m really tired of doing this, and I am sick of her.
find someone else im going through that to myy bff ive known since 4th and were freshman know but she has a boyfreinds she beautful and everone likes her even our group of freinds but she has a big attitude and on twitter i posted lyrics of a singer i liked and she put a tweet with.. wow dont post up lyrocs like you know him and sh*t go back to liking ur selena gomez
this hurt and i told her and she just responded with ooo srry i guess and kept on posting things up but everone likes her and see wat she does to m but they still worship her
Me and my cousin were BFF’s. We did almost everything together. My cousin has always got upset really easy, been mean to me, then nice, and it’s confusing. Once she even stole money from me, for no reason.
During the summer she was a real jerk at our study group. (As my dad called it.) I explained to her multiple times how she was acting to me. She said she would be nicer. It didn’t happen. She always acted the same as always. One school day we had a fight, I don’t even remember about what. It ended with her mom picking her up, and me crying. My parents didn’t seem to notice. This is the first time I’ve talked about it to anyone but myself. The next day she acted super normal. We got into another fight. It ended again with her mom picking her up, and me crying. 
She hasn’t come over since. I now have a new Bff, but only in school. She has never been to my house and I’ve never been to hers. I feel real alone. 
This summer I have decided to give her another chance. So far she can’t come over. It could be that she is with her mom one week then her dad the next. It could be cause she has no time. It could be cause she is avoiding me. I don’t know. I feel bad cause she has been playing with one of my neighbors, but not me. I drive past her house and all I get is a kinda half wave. I feel super alone. I hope she comes over soon. If anyone’s got advice I would be glad to listen!
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-Emo
Yep,me to and i really need advice on making new friends. Anyway if this keeps happening to you try hanging out with other people.
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ya
No offense but, what this got to do with this page? Second, ya probably. Sounds normal to me!!
I have the same problem! I love my best friend to bits, when in it comes down to it she’s almost like the sister i never had! But at school when were around friends she always puts me down! I would say something to her but she’ll deny it, and if i hold her to it the second after she disses me i’ll just be creating drama! Even when everyone laughs at my jokes she’ll be like “i like how she laughs at her own jokes!” It gets to the point where i just want to leave the room bawling!
I had a frenemy like that in Middle School. At the beginning of the year, we were super close BFFs. She met some cooler kids and started making fun of me to impress them. After half a year of bullying, I ended the “friendship”. Best decision of my life! Now we are acquaintances but we will never be close again.
Half a year? That a long time. You know my frenemy lasted like TWO years. Yup, two years. You think yo got tortured!
I kind of don’t agree with Zillan. I’m sorry. Just to be her friend, just stay who you are. You shouldn’t try to be different because people want you to be. If they really want that friendship with true intentions then they should be able to accept who you are. Right? And don’t worry, It’s not like you SHOULD have friends, sometimes, personal space is needed too. Not saying don’t make friends but you know, staying alone for sometime can also be peaceful. But on the other hand, having someone to talk to is also great. And don’t worry, who knows, maybe you’ll find better BFF than her. Hope I helped too.
i had a BFF like yours i am not her BFF any more , and we r not friends , she was so mean to me, i was like her made, and now , we don’t speak , but she wants me to be her friend again, i think you should have a little space and then you will see the results , she will come , and try a little bit to be popular , do a lipstick , wear hot cloths and who knows , you will be much better !