Comments on: From The Boards: Should You Ask Your BF How Many People He’s Slept With?

By: princess

princess — Sun, 06 Jan 2013 09:47:13 +0000

I totally agree with you! I mean if I am a virgin and you have slept with many more people i am probably leaving you. I feel like if I am in a serious relationship or we are gonna be intimate sexually i have the right to know. If they don’t want to tell me they don’t have to but I am probably not staying with them…

By: zee

zee — Thu, 22 Nov 2012 07:51:55 +0000

i think you should be able to ask and he should be able to ask you. yea it is personal but its just a number whats there to hide? If your having a relationship where you tell each other at least almost everything that should be easy to talk about. I personally dont think he should have to tell you who it was (and honestly i dont want to know) because that is actually really personal. if more people would keep that part to themselves, some females at least would have it a lot easier.

By: Barbie doll

Barbie doll — Tue, 13 Nov 2012 16:04:24 +0000

I need help! I been with my boyfriend for two years and I know a girl he slept with in his past so it really bugs me and idk what to do and since I know her I feel he thinks of her. He told me he doesnt cause he never.loved her. Am going crazy and idk what to do my mind tells me dumb things

By: ToBeHonest

ToBeHonest — Thu, 12 Jul 2012 11:26:57 +0000

My previous boyfriend I expected was not a virgin. I had known him for two years before we dated and I had already lost my virginity to someone else. I wanted him to be my special second but wanted to know about his possible sexual past. But I was too afraid to ask him about it so I asked one of my best friends do it for me. That best friend is a guy, so I thought it wouldn’t be awkward. He and I are as close as brother and sister. He knew that this was important for me and he was willing to do it. So one day at school he approached my boyfriend and asked him. My “brother” told me he looked hesitant but told him he couldn’t answer the question. I thought I would never get to know the truth but later on that night my boyfriend told me about his day and what my “brother” had asked him. I pretended that I didn’t care if he told me. But he thought that I should know because he cared about me. He had indeed slept with only one girl but he told me not to worry about it because he loved me and didn’t want to rush me into anything.

I shouldn’t have been a coward and should have just asked him directly. He really did care about me and I loved how honest and comfortable he was with telling me.

You shouldn’t be afraid to ask your boyfriend/girlfriend about their past because you might be surprised with how they really feel about you.

By: virgo-gurl

virgo-gurl — Fri, 09 Mar 2012 01:16:35 +0000

Usually I don’t care but because me and my boyfriend are so close I wanted to know. Especially cause he’s an X man whore… It bothered me so I was straight forward with him

By: Desiray

Desiray — Thu, 01 Mar 2012 21:28:35 +0000

Yes I want to know! If I numbers are way different, I say 1 and you say 12, I’m running! And if you don’t want to tell me I’ll assume the worst and run anyway.

By: fruitypebbles

fruitypebbles — Sat, 11 Feb 2012 05:19:34 +0000

i’d wanna know because it’s kinda like sleeping with everyone they’ve ever slept with.i know i asked my bff before i slept with you should too.

By: Neicy

Neicy — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 17:21:46 +0000

I don’t want to know! I’m 20 years old, a virgin, and i’ve never dated. Most people my age, or the guys I like (i’m more attracted to older guys) are not virgins. I’ve yet to meet a single one. So I know if the number convo comes up I’ll have to say mine is zero and honestly I dont care about theirs.
As long as your STD free (which I will want to see a paper saying it if we decide to stop using condoms) I dont care. I think it might be worse to know their number. I know my crush’s number is very hight and I dont want to know the total, ever.

By: Jackie

Jackie — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 02:23:22 +0000

Although I agree with both greenbeans and iamsodrunk, I feel as if I’m more on greenbeans side. Yes he has the right to not tell you but it isn’t just his business if you guys are in a serious relationship. If you guys are just FWB then well it’s not that big of a deal, but if you’re dating and having thoughts about getting intimate with him then you have the right to ask him if it’s bothering you. I mean it’s not like you’re asking for names, addresses, Facebook profiles, etc. Don’t pressure him into telling you though because that is just crossing the line. With that being said, I want to point out that’s just my perspective and that this topic shouldn’t be made into a big deal worth fighting over.

By: kendra joy bethune

kendra joy bethune — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 23:34:39 +0000

i’m okay with not knowing i know not every girl feels like me i don’t pry i don’t find it nessacry i look toward the future if a guy wants to tell a girl i think she should know i told my last boyfriend i did’nt find that nessarcry i can always catch the doors vh1 document it is not anything i want to know i see that as prying some guys may not like that