Dating Your Ex
Your ex is an ex for a reason, right? Well, yeah… something in your relationship was obviously wrong enough to make you guys break up in the first place. But just because things went really bad the first time around, does that mean you should never try again? Is re-dating your ex always destined to end in failure, or is there a chance that you two might be able to make it work after some time passes?
As it turns out, the editors of Gurl all have different opinions on giving your ex a second chance – and we want to know what you think about it also. Check out what we had to say, and let us know who you agree with.
Melanie Says: No Game!
Oh, girl. Why, why, why would you want to go back to that person who you either decided wasn’t good enough for you, or who broke your heart? Unless you only broke up because you moved far away from each other, there’s almost never a good enough reason to get back together with an old flame. Ask yourself why you’re even considering it. Maybe you don’t get out a lot and have trouble meeting new people. If that’s the case, ask your friends about their friends, or if you’re over 18, try online dating! Trust me, you’ll find someone new and great. No need to revisit yesterday’s relationship.
Julie Says: It Depends
Sometimes going back to an ex is the right thing to do and sometimes it’s so wrong. It really depends on why you broke up the first time around. Was your ex a total sweetheart and timing was just off? Then, yeah, go for. But if your ex was nasty or icky or cheaty when you dated, then why jump back into something you know isn’t as awesome as you deserve? The comfort of an old flame can be really attractive. Before you run back into those familiar arms though, think long and hard about the last time you were in them and why you left.
Jessica Says: Give Them Another Chance
Maybe it’s just because I’m a huge believer in giving people second chances, but I really do think that even an ex deserves one. Yes, maybe things were bad between you two at first – but that doesn’t mean you can’t work things out and make them better than ever! Everyone makes mistakes, and sometimes people just need some time apart to realize that they should be together. I think that ruling out an ex just because they’re your ex is a bad idea: you could be throwing away something potentially good just because of something that happened in the past. There are definitely some instances where you shouldn’t go back to the person, but in general, I say that everyone deserves a second chance, no matter who broke who’s heart. Plus, if you don’t give them one, you’ll probably always wonder what could have happened if you did.
Who do you agree with? Would you re-date your ex? Tell us in the comments.
Dating Your Ex