how should i dress
That’s right, I said it. How you look makes a huge difference in how I see you, the things I’ll think you’re capable of, and even whether or not I’ll put an effort into getting to know you.
I know that sounds terrible, but you can’t spend the time to get to know everybody in the world (there are way too many people out there!). If you strike me as lazy, boring, or generally clueless? Why would I put in the effort to talk to you, when I could be meeting someone who seems more interesting? Just hear me out, and by the time I’m done with you, I bet you’ll admit that you do the same exact thing.
It’s not like I judge people based on things they can’t change–height, skin color, the size of your nose or forehead–none of those things matter to me. What I’m talking about is how people choose to look. The way you dress, the way you do your hair, and whether or not you take a shower! It’s those things that actually tell me about who a person is and what they want to communicate about themselves to the world.
I’m sure you’re thinking, “But I have the right to dress however I want!” And you’re right. People do have the right to wear what they want, and I think that’s an important part of freedom of expression, but I also think people should use some common sense when it comes to getting dressed in the morning.
If you want respect and to be trusted with responsibility, don’t look like a slob or wear shirts that say stupid things on them! You can be gothy, punky, trendy, whatever, and still look put-together–do you hair (even if it’s in spikes!); don’t wear wrinkled, dirty, or skimpy clothes; make sure your fingernails aren’t gross; and brush your teeth, for goodness sakes!
I’ve heard a lot of girls who practically live in jeans and T-shirts say that it’s just “too much work” to wear anything else, and then they wonder why they’re not taken seriously–but that’s the whole thing. It does take effort to look nice, and if you’re too lazy to put in that effort, and if you’re not imaginative enough to put thought into what you wear, I’m going to think you’re lazy and boring–because that’s what your clothes are telling me!
I’m not saying there’s not a time and a place for comfy clothes (hello, I love my Chuck Taylors!) but it drives me crazy to see people in sneaks and sweats at work, in places of worship, out at restaurants, and even at the theater. I mean, were you raised in a barn? Show some respect for yourself, people.
The other excuse I’m tired of hearing is that “only rich girls can afford to look nice.” So not true! When I was a kid, we didn’t have much money–but my mom always dressed my sister and me in clean, cute outfits–even if they were hand-me-downs or from the clearance rack at Target. Unless Ross, TJMaxx, Marshall’s and all those other awesome discount shops go out of business, your argument makes no sense.
I’m not saying people shouldn’t have their own style and express themselves through fashion–because fashion is maybe the most fun way of expressing yourself–but try to be aware of exactly what you’re telling the world. It’s one thing to look like a cool, ambitious, responsible rockabilly/goth/surfer girl/whatever–and quite another thing to look like a slob who just doesn’t care.
Do you judge people on their looks, or do you think you’ve been judged based on how you dress? Do you think judging like this is fair? Tell us in the comments.
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how should i dress