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Dating Older Guys
You know that saying “age ain’t nothing but a number”? Well, that’s true for some people, but we don’t think everyone feels the same way, especially when it comes to dating. We’re not saying there’s anything wrong with dating someone older or younger than you – there’s not! But when the person you’re dating is a different age than you, it tends to get people talking.
Lately, we’ve heard a lot of girls say that dating older guys is the way to go and we have to wonder… do you agree? We spotted this post in the message boards and found that a lot of you girls feel like older guys are better. Read what these girls had to say and then let us know: should a girl always date an older guy? Or is that a ridiculous stereotype?
rhythm said:
Why older guys? Do you girls like older guys? Why do girls like older guys in general?
leylaxx replied and said:
A few reasons.1) girls mature faster than boys, physically & mentally.2) through evolution, women can only have 1 baby at a time. So, women seek a perfect mate — stable, mature, responsible, wealthy. Usually older men are like this. However young men can have a million babies at once, just by getting lots of girls pregnant.”Women mate wisely, men mate widely.”3) older men are freakin’ sexier. Just ask me! Nothing is nicer than a man who knows how to control himself, who knows what women want, and who knows how to take his sweet time making sweet love to you.
Might be the cutest and best example of dating an older guy, ever.
a_wolves_spirit replied and said:
Just to be the rotten apple of the bunch, I don’t see any reason to go for an older guy. Personally, when I see older men I see wrinkles, wisdom, and my father. When I see men my age I see potential, dreams, and someone to grow with. I’m not a big fan of experience and I honestly want someone who I can grow with, not someone who is already grown. That’s just my perception of it though. I doubt I’d ever date someone much older than me and if I did it would have nothing to do with his age and honestly, his age would probably be THE barrier that separates us the most quite frankly. I’ll stick with cougar town.
So what do we think? It’s way too stereotypical to say that all older men are more mature, more experienced and generally just a better boyfriend. Trust us, not all older guys are like this! There are plenty of younger dudes who are just as mature and experienced (if not more in some cases), and who are ready to be the perfect BF to some lucky girl.
But there’s also nothing wrong with dating an older guy (as long as you’re not breaking the law). The most important thing is to not let age be any kind of barrier, ever. If you connect with someone who’s five years younger or older, don’t let the fact that they’re a different age get in the way of things. Basically, do what’s right for you and don’t buy into age stereotypes – we promise it’ll make your dating life better.
Who do you agree with? Would you date an older guy? Would you date a younger guy? Tell us in the comments!
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Older women (cougars) go for younger men. For teen girls, at least i speak for myself, I would much love an older guy. To be honest, I dont give a damn for the laws. Those laws are too restrictive and its scary for an older guy even to talk to someone younger. Why should the law be that way? I know there are some older guys who get girls pregnant and then leave but its probably because of the law and the concerns about being imprisoned. Why cant society and the law be more accepting and see it as normal when a school girl or a young teen girl finds love with an older guy. I think if our society was more accepting then we would be a lot happier and love as we want and even if the girl falls pregnant, the child can still have a dad who is accepted by society and not made to look like a criminal. Cant we teens have a say in how the law that applies to us, works??
BTW my bf is much much older than me and I am very happy with him.
Dude you girls dont realize how hard it makes it on boys to find girlfriends especially in highschool. It is not fair to us. there are a handfull of girls at my highschool who have kids and were left to raise them by themselves because of douche bag 21 year olds who blew their wad and then ditched them. Im just saying, dont think that a 20 year old guy dating a highschooler is out for love, he is out for your coochie!
So Sam M tell me arent you out for COOCHIE? You can see why girls your age dont go for guys like you. Older guys are suave and know how to treat their girls. Yes they may want sex..in your terms coochie. Thats a horrible word to use!.But dont younger guys want that too? If you say you dont, then there must be something drastically wrong with you. You are generalising! I know many younger girls with much older bfs who are in great relationships. Pity about the law. You will have your chance when you grow up and are more mature and use better language.
For me age is just a number. I’m dating a man 20 years my senior, and so far it’s going great. I find that guys my age aren’t into the same things I’m into, and they’re not really up for having long meaningful conversations, they also aren’t as mature as I am (But I’ve had my fair share of older men who were more immature than me!). With my guy our dinner dates last for hours, mostly because we sit there talking about almost anything. Older men are also more respectful, and tend to be the ‘givers’ in an intimate relationship!
Yes there are sometimes where our age difference is noticeable, mainly when we talk about school and past experiences. I’m currently attending college, and he’s already been out of school for a number of years but so far our relationship isn’t interfering with my school life. But again, age is just a number and for us it doesn’t matter. And it doesn’t help that he’s drop dead gorgeous and has the body of soccer player
I’ve gone out with a couple older guys only by a year or so. for the guys its a bit odd to date someone younger and sometimes makes it harder to see them cause your at different stages in your life. girls think that when they date an older boy then it all happens faster but personally it makes everything twice as hard. if your in a school where your dating the eldest boys then you get a little trouble from the girls their age. and it can be a bit awkward around their mates and sometimes they dont like to be round yours.
The gentleman that I am seeing is 20 years my senior. Thus far is has been nothing but clear sailing. Its easy, and there isnt any homeschool or university/college drama.
I think dating older guys is so much better. I’m 15 and my boyfriend is 26. We haven’t done anything, and he’s even asked me to wait, so it shows he’s mature enough to be with me without wanting sex. We’ve been together nine months now, a boy my age would probably get bored and leave me. Plus my parents like him more than other boys I’ve brought home.
All I’m saying is, older guys are so mature. I don’t see it as a problem, as long as both people are safe and happy. Isn’t that all that matters?
I soooo strongly agree. I am same age as you and my bf is 28. I cant tell you how much excitement there is between us. I have known him for quite a while now. At first I got fed all this garbage from my friends that he was just after sex. Hello, my friends my age who have bfs their own age are pregnant!!! Now what do you say to that. All this silly nonsense about older guys only wanting sex is just blown out of proportion. Yes ALL guys want sex. Not just the older guys. Relationships are about intimacy, emotions, closeness and sex. So why not get used to the idea that sex may come up for discussion at some stage in the relationship. Be prepared, be responsible, have a discussion if you want to wait and understand the consequences. Dont just blame the guy for what happens. As my mom would say, it takes two to tango. How unfair it is when older guys get bad reputations from us girls and our parents and society in general. We dont have to be dumb. Its a choice thats left up to you and if you have decided it is okay, then go for it. As for me, at first I was cautious but now we have sex all the time. LOL. Only my best friends know about me and him. My parents dont need to know anything. What would they do anyway. They would get annoyed, screw up our relationship and try and make me feel that I was used and manipulated. I am not that stupid. I like him. Thats what matters most to me. Not anyone else’s opinion. The law doesnt need to know. How would that help? Arent we in a modern society that should let us think for ourselves? My experience with an older guy has been a very very loving, fulfilling and exciting experience without any abuse.
I dated a older guy im 13 and he was 17 i found that he was more experienced then me and knew more then i did and he knew how to caress and touch a woman and i personally ALWAYS date older men it worked for my parents 10 years apart !!
In my opinion, age really IS just a number. My parents are nine years apart, but they didn’t meet until my mom was in her early twenties. In a childhood environment, nine years is a dramatic and creepy distance, but once both parties are adults, they should be allowed to choose on their own, without being judged. My husband’s parents are about five years apart. In both cases, the man is older. In some cases, yes, an older man may be more mature, but not always. I’ve dated guys who were a few years older than me, out of high school and in the military, and each and every one of them were less mature than my husband, who is only twelve days older than me! AGE IS JUST A NUMBER. That’s it. If you’re underage, dating someone overage, just be careful who you tell, as some people are legally required to report things like that, even if your hookups are consensual. Sorry for the rant, but I feel strongly about this.
Dating an older guy as well as hooking up with him is totally your choice. I personally LOVE older guys because I feel like they’re more mature, they are experienced, and they’re HOT! My boyfriend is 4 years older, and although I may be called a “slut” or a “hoe”, I am not because what I choose to do with my body and my life is my decision. I love my boyfriend and I had enough trust for him to give him my virginity and have my first kiss with him. I knew him for about 2 years or more before I decided to commit to him. There was this one night where we just knew we liked eachother and we took it from there. I know we will last LONG if not FOREVER and I love him a lot.
I Like older guys, i just cant help it. I only go out with younger guys if i am sure they are mature. I like older guys as i find them more sexy and generaly more attractive
i am one of many girls that only go for older guy. To me older guys are more mature and know how to really treat a girl and to me older guys dont just want to get in your pants.
I’m kind of in an off again- on again relationship with an older guy. He’s only a year and a half, 2 years older than me (I turned 14 on Tuesday, he turned 16 back in July) and I don’t really have much of an opinion on it… But my friends think it’s weird (may I inform you, they’re all single except for one xD)
Dating older guys is totally up to the girl. Mostly it is for maturity, but just becuase guys are older DOES NOT mean they’re more mature. I’ve met plenty of guys my age that are mature, and older guys who are immature. I am dating an older guy, he’s great and good for me. He’s gotten me on the right path and my motivation. So age doesn’t matter (well i would keep a 4 year limit in the teen age) as long as they’re good for yo.