from friendship to love
There’s a thin line between friends and sweethearts and you, gorgeous, seem to be trapped on the wrong side. So how can you go from friendship to love?
First of all, make sure that this is even a good idea. Yeah, you may be hot for your buddy but is this enough of a reason to try to turn your friendship into a new relationship? Dating is not as stable as just being friends. If you want to date a long-time friend, think really seriously about it first. You could end up killing an awesome friendship if things don’t work out.
On the other hand, say there’s someone in your crew who you’re casual friends with but you just can’t stop thinking about. Every time this cutie bumps into you your heart goes pitter patter and the rest of the world just falls away. You are crushing hard.
If you’re going to break out of the friend zone, or at least give it the old college try, you have to set the stage and then tell your friend how you feel. Here’s how to do that in six easy steps:
1. DO share an adrenaline rush activity together.
Adrenaline gives the body the feeling of new love. When we break a sweat with someone, we literally feel revved up and excited. Take a roller coaster ride, go swimming or take a run together.
2. DON’T try to be a friend with benefits.
Just hooking up is not going to make your friend suddenly see you as a potential GF. You’ll just be the cool friend to hook up with and why would they want to transition out of such a sweet situation? Most guys won’t buy the truck if they’re getting the ice cream for free!
3. DO get closer . . . physically
You’re not hooking up but you are touching your friend’s arm every time you get a chance. Brush a stray hair out of his eyes. Squeeze his hand to make a point. Every time you touch someone lovingly, their brain gets a burst of feel-good chemicals that make them feel good about you.
4. DON’T blindly agree with everything he says.
When we like someone we can start to idolize them. Then we crack up at every joke, agree with every point. Bo-ring. No one needs their own personal yes-woman. If you want to be interesting be interested. Have genuine conversations where you disagree, express your interests and show your POV. This is infinitely sexy.
5. DON’T keep chasing if it’s clear the feeling is one-sided.
If the other person says that you’re not his type, believe him. Trying to change someone’s mind, friend or not, after they say they’re not interested will only lead to them avoiding you.
With the stage is set, if your friend is also interested you should be getting attraction signals in return. If it’s still ambiguous, you need to reveal your feelings. Communication is key in friendships and relationships.
6. DON’T confess your undying love.
Ask, “what if we went out on a real date?” or “do you ever think of me as a girlfriend type?” If your friend says yes then you are off to the dating races with a great foundation for love–your friendship! If your buddy says no, share a laugh together and honestly address the awkwardness and disappointment as you continue to be great friends.
Do you have a friendship you’d like to turn into something more? Tell us about your crush in the comments!
from friendship to love