It’s been pretty established that having sex (as in intercourse) is a pretty big deal. Even after you’ve done it a million times, the first time you get naked with someone can still seem important. Sometimes, every other part of hooking up can seem small in comparison.
But just because oral sex doesn’t involve actual intercourse, does that mean it shouldn’t be treated seriously? Sometimes it seems like a lot of girls treat oral sex really casually, and they forget that it also brings along the risks of STDs. It turns out that the editors of Gurl.com have different opinions on the topic. Check out what we think, and let us know your opinion.
Julie Says: It’s More Serious Than Sex!
Whoever it was who invented the make out bases and put oral sex somewhere between third base and home plate, I’ve got a bone to pick with you. In my not so humble opinion, oral sex is the ultimate in intimacy. Like, way, way past home base. Somewhere behind the catcher. There are such high levels of connection and comfort needed to make oral sex pleasurable that it feels very separate from the usual rounding the bases and making out. So, calling oral sex a make out? Not in my book and not on my playing field.
Melanie Says: It Can Be Way Too Unsafe
Okay, I’m going to sound like a total prude, but oral sex is totally a big deal and shouldn’t be considered on the same level as just making out—even though I know it sometimes is. Let’s just go from a germ/disease/health level here, since I know the whole “intimacy” thing is pretty subjective. If you’ve just met a guy or are just getting to know him, how the hell do you know where that thing has been? He could have creep-fest STDs (even if he says he’s clean!) or just be . . . dirty. I mean, if an unpeeled banana fell onto the sidewalk, you wouldn’t pick it up and stick it in your mouth just because it “looked okay,” would you? His junk is basically that banana—covered in invisible funk. I guess it’s to each their own, but I’d never ever go there without really knowing a guy (and his health status) first. Ick!
Jessica Says: It’s Not That Serious
I have to say that, in my opinion, oral sex really isn’t that big of a deal. It’s not like I’m running around participating in it with everyone who I hook up with, but it’s just not something I see as very serious. In fact, I’ve noticed that in my relationships, and in my friends’ relationships, oral sex is done way before intercourse. And once we’re in relationships, it’s expected to happen a lot. It’s not that I don’t think oral sex is an intimate thing – it is – but I just don’t think it’s nearly as intimate as intercourse.
Who do you agree with? Tell us in the comments.