Going Through Your Phone
When you’re in a relationship, it’s natural to get a little curious about who else your sweetie is talking to. And when you see him or her constantly on their phone, it’s natural to get the urge to find out exactly who they’re texting. But just because their phone is sitting there, seemingly calling your name to snoop through it, does that mean you should?
We saw this post in the message boards about a girl who had to deal with her boyfriend looking through her phone, and it made us wonder… is snooping through your sweetie’s phone ever okay? Read what these girls had to say, and then let us know what you think.
Hey gurls , sorry if this is a rant but I need some advice. So I left my phone in my boyfriends house before I went to work and he offered to go back and get it for me. When he gave it back to me, I saw that he went through my previous calls and messages.
I feel like he invaded my privacy and doesn’t trust me. His excuse was that he heard my phone beep in his pocket and thought it was me trying to reach him, but surely I would have contacted his phone not mine! The fact that he went through my phone without my permission really p**sed me off. He’s now refusing to accept he did anything wrong. What do you girls think?
AllTheSmallThings replied and said:
I think that was a terrible thing to do. He should’ve just asked you about it, or if he knew that you really hated stuff like that, then the next time he saw you he could’ve asked to see your phone when you were there. That’s something that he needs to talk to you about before acting upon anything he saw so there won’t be any misunderstandings and unneeded threats.
hero_of_the_day replied and said:
Honestly, most people would look at their partner’s phone if it was left there. Curiosity gets the best of us sometimes. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t trust you. He’s just… curious. I’d probably do the same, to be honest.
While hero_of_the_day has a point in saying that curiosity gets the best of us sometimes, we’re going to have to say that in general, sneaking around and looking through your sweetie’s phone is a bad idea. It’s way too easy to take a text message the wrong way, and to read something into a message that actually doesn’t mean anything at all. Not only will it make you feel more paranoid, but if you don’t find anything, we can bet you’ll end up feeling super guilty about snooping in the first place.
If you really believe that your sweetie is cheating, you need to ask them about it. And if your sweetie goes through your phone without asking? You have every right to be upset. That’s invading your privacy, and everyone (even someone in a relationship) has the right to have a little privacy.
Who do you agree with? Have you ever snooped through your sweetie’s phone? Has anyone ever gone through yours? Tell us in the comments.
Going Through Your Phone