From The Message Boards: Are Naked Pictures Okay?


sextingSo, you’re in a relationship and you’re totally in love, right? Then your sweetie asks you to send a naked picture.  What do you do now?

Do you send it without even thinking twice, or do you hesitate a bit? A lot of girls are faced with that decision, and they don’t always give it the thought it truly deserves. Don’t get us wrong. Sexting can be fun — as long as you’re smart about it. But sometimes the excitement of a new relationship and a person that we can’t stop thinking about gets the better of us, and causes us to do reckless things.

We want to know what you girls think about sending sexy texts and naked pictures to your sweetie. Read some of our readers’ opinions and then tell us how you feel.

leylaxx said: Technology is easily corrupted and not everything you send via text or email or Skype is secure. More likely than not, if anything causes you issues it will be technology. So, answer this — is it really worth it on your behalf for a small, grainy picture of your boobs to go through all this stress and anxiety?

hero_of_the_day replied, saying: I agree with you. Sending nudes is a risk, whether it’s to your husband of 10 years or the guy you met at the bar. Just like having sex is a risk (for pregnancy), even if you use condoms. Pics can get out by accident, even if you trust the guy. All it takes is a dropped phone or stolen computer or e-mail sent to the wrong person.

hem replied, saying: i give my boyfriend naked pics. he lives 200 miles away, i don’t see him very often, and i trust him completely. it doesn’t have to be drama as long as you’re not sending them to an a-hole.

These ladies definitely have a point. While sending naked pictures can form a bond between you and your sweetie, there are serious risks that accompany it. Hacking happens! Just have a chat with Miley Cyrus, Vanessa Hudgens, and Scarlett Johannson.

Ask yourself this: would you be able to deal with the consequences if that photo of you ever got out? If you think it could potentially ruin your life if your friends, family and strangers saw you in a sexually compromising position, don’t do it.

That doesn’t mean that you can’t flirt with your hun via technology though. (We’re not against all flirty fun! Sheesh!) What we’re saying is that sexy doesn’t have to mean naked. Go ahead and flirt with your sweetie on text or Skype. Tell him just how excited you are to see him next or send her a picture of your dream date with a “wish we could do this together” message. Just use your best judgement. Smart sexting = happy sexting.

Who do you agree with? Do you think it’s no big deal to send naked pictures to your sweetie, or is it something you would never do? Tell us in the comments.

Now, read a confession from a girl who had a nude photoshoot!


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  • ari

    So I was texting this guy I like & he obvi likes me back, soo I was in that mood & we were flirting a lot so I sent him a pic of my boobs .. & he sent me one of his .. As of right now , I’m totally fine about it .. I trust him & I know he’s not the kind of guy to go and send them around .. Should I feel bad about doing something like this?

  • Jen

    Don’t.

  • De

    I think naked pics, on a computer, or through text isn’t a huge deal. We all have the same parts, sex is a natural thing among humans. It is so taboo now a days, even though porn is equally as accessible.

  • milka

    well i am brazilian and i dont have a problem with nudity. there is not much for me to hide . i have shown all my holes , but i am no slut is culture differences

    • sum_guy

      yes, fart fetish and scat eating is strong in your culture

  • Annonymous

    I was with a guy for three years when he asked me to send him naked pictures. And i kept telling myself that it was ok, that as long as i was wearing something..i wasn’t naked. But the pictures got worse and worse and one day we had a fight, and he said if i didn’t do what he said, he would send out the pictures.

    Dont do it girls, wait for the real thing. How would you feel if your parents or future employers saw the photos

  • Alex

    When my gf had sex with another guy, i sent her nudes to anyone who wanted to see, even pictures of her masturbating and performing oral sex. I never thought that they could get spread far but they could make it back to her friends, family.
    Just something to think about.

  • Anon

    Don’t do it. How do you think amateur porn shots end up on the web? Yup.

    Just don’t do it.

  • ann

    just show him butt hole and if he want to have a go at it just unleash yourself and have a great sex by allowing him to put his into both your holes..

  • MarcosBoya26

    I hadn’t heard of that before and I thought it was great.

  • Leilabeth

    i wouldn’t send full on nude but maybe a good cleavage shot? or bikini shot? but to someone i’ve been with a while…

  • sgreham

    Take it from me … girls just dont do it <3
    he might seem like he will never show anyone but he might … he most likley will .. it happened to me and it could happen to you …..

  • courtney

    The way I see it if you are that close then why not show him in person then you don’t have to worry about pics getting out. If you can’t show him in person you shouldn’t show him a pic.

    • r

      Wbh

  • Beth

    Lol I moved away from home and had this crush on a pretty good looking guy. I found out via text he liked me to! Oohlala all I could think was…..:):):):):).. He told me to send a naked pic. I didn’t agree. I told him no over and over again. Eventually I gave in but didn’t really show my top. Covered it with my hands you know I’m not not all out sexter. First time. I just came back surprise rumor of a naked pic of me going around school. Haha tell him noo because there are risks. Everything can crumble from one decision. Another thing if you are like me and have already sent one. Don’t think about the present think about the future! I plan to join air force so this crap isn’t bothering me. True friends will believe you. Please don’t make mistakes like me 🙂 do what you think is right. I’m only 15 and I think I have learned a nice life lesson 😀

  • ayme

    to tell the truth if this person really wants to see you naked flash them that way if they tell someone you can deny it lol. that’s my opinion i feel people just shouldn’t do it after all those naked pics poppin up of teen girls on the internet.

  • Anonymous

    I know somebody that sexted. And it had only been to one person, somebody that she really trusted and over an app that was hard to access. I’m not disagreeing with the girls that are against it, but she trusted the guy and he didn’t do anything with them, I dont even think that anybody knows.
    I’m just saying that if you are going to feel guilty about it then dnt do it. I Thought ALOT about the risks before I did it and in the end it wasn’t a bad choice

  • ren

    No it’s not hot or ok to send naked pics. It’s 100% possible that your social life and trust by everyone is going tear apart. I had a friend who sent naked pictures to her BF and foward it to everyone in abilene and now she can’t go back to abilene because she’s afraid to be called a ho. Now she’s becoming an agressive demon because she’ll never trust everyone including me. hey don’t get mad at me because it’s her own fault! the point is never cool or okay to send nude pics

    • RR

      My boyfriend caught me sending naked pictures to guys. Now he treats me differently. I know he is going to leave me.

  • Anonymous

    I think that rawr*is*me and Brittany are right in some ways. rawr- this is an artical derived from a message board where people go for advice and people shouldn’t be bashing a site doing it’s job. Brittany- the artical dose lean a little bit towards the “its ok” side when is should just be providing facts and sexting is illegal. With that said, I’m going to move on to my personal opinion: If you really know a person well enough to be sending them pictures and saying certian things to them via. txt, you should be at a point in your relationship where you are engaged, married, or DANG near engaged. Otherwise how do you know that a month-long fling won’t show everyone and their mother what you sent them? Long story short: if you are having second thoughts about it to the point that you looked for advice, and you have read this far down on the page, you are not convinced that sexting is a ‘good’, ‘bad’, or ‘ok’ thing to do. The best way to not get hurt is not to do it!

  • curvebaby

    so i think it is totally a bad thing!!! my friend was dating a guy for quit a while. They had dated for about two years. Then he sent a message to her asking for a naked picture of her! then she sent pictures of her ( about 5) The next day at school everyone was laughing at her and making faces at her. Then she found out that he sent it to all of the people in his contacts! so she was devistated and could never be looked at the same way again!!!

  • Brittany

    I literally facepalmed after reading this article. Your mentioning how fun sexting is, and while you make some good points at the end about how it can ruin your life, your pretty much encouraging it as long as no one finds out. I really think this site hit a new time low, and that’s sad considering how many other articles are on this site brainwashing teen girls into sex. First off, sexting is ILLEGAL. And even if it wasn’t, no one should ever do it.

    I’m not trying to sound like some party pooping prude, but it seems like almost every teen girl on this site thinks that you need to participate in some sexual activity before marriage to find out how compatible you are with some boy. Sorry to burst your bubble, but that’s not how it works. If you ask happily married couples, sex is the LEAST important part of the relationship. You may be shaking your head thinking I’m cuckoo for coco puffs, but it’s completely true. Please, don’t let people, teen mags, or this site… brainwash you into thinking you need to have sex. This happened to me, and I’m so glad I changed my mind before anything happened. Please don’t let yourself be pressured into something you don’t want to do.

    Most couples who had sex before marriage end up getting a divorce. Plain and simple. You may be shaking your head saying “Your so stupid, sex is a healthy way to test your relationship.” If you need to have sex to “test” your love, then you’ve never experienced true love.

    Sex, sexting, or any other sexual activity is the worst and unhealthiest way possible to test your compatibility with a person, no matter what you’ve been told otherwise. Maybe your not doing it to test your relationship, maybe your just doing it because it’s “fun.” But honestly, with all the emotional and physical consequences that come with sex, I wouldn’t consider it just “fun.”

    Sexual attraction isn’t love. That flutter in your stomach isn’t love.

    Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

    And I’m sure your shaking your head even more now, considering I’m a bible thumping christian, but I just really wanted to share this info before anyone gets their life ruined with this hogwash. This site and teen magazines brainwashed me, when I was only around 14 years old, making me think that sex is sooo important.

    Please, get off sites like this before they ruin your life like they almost ruined mine. Sites for teen girls shouldn’t be teaching girls to act like prostitutes and participate in illegal activities. Please have respect for yourself and your body. Check out some other cool sites like http://www.missliterati.com/ (great if you love books) or projectinspired.com (fun site like this, just not degrading), and for younger gurls, stardoll.com is cool.

    Older teens may think they can handle this stuff and that they wont be influenced, but you’ll be surprised at how easily you can be influenced.

    • rawr*is*me

      Ok, that was all major BS!! What i’m trying to say is, dont hate on gurl. the ppl who created gurl didnt do a damn thing, these are from messages boards. where ppl come for adivce!

      so please, seriously think about what u just said. “that flutter in ur stomache isnt love”. so wtf was it then?! that crazy heart thumping and stopping, stomache dropping and butterfly affect is what then? im not saying im in love, im only 13, but i know what love is and i know the feeling. im a christain too, trust me i am, but i disagree completly and i think what U said was digrading and RUDE! not to mention majoooooor BS!

    • Anonymous

      rawr*is*me is right. these come from message boards where people go for ADVICE. but Brittany is also kinda right. The entree dose kinda lean more towars the “its ok” side, even though it is illegal. Personaly, if you and you’re sweetie are close enough to be sending eachother pics and such like that, you should be engaged, married or DANG near engaged. Just so you know that the person can be trusted. Also, if you guys are really THAT close you wouldn’t need to get advice about it. If you trust someone that much that you KNOW that NO ONE els will EVER see what ever you are doing, you seriously would not be having second thoughts to the point that you NEED advice. If you are not sure about it, the best way not to get hurt is to NOT DO IT!!! So if you have read this far down on the page, you are probably not convinced that sexting is a ‘good’ ‘bad’ or ‘ok’ thing to do. The Point: If you still aint sure about it DON’T DO IT!

    • Alaska.Softball.Star#13

      Thanks for the insight, but not everybody has to ‘follow the rules’.
      With being a teenager comes mistakes, and the only way to experience mistakes is to grab it by the horns. Nobody is perfect, or even comes CLOSE to being perfect, so if they feel the need to do something, let them; let them learn from personal experiences, not by what someone else says on a website.

      In other words, to everyone ELSE out there with an open mind, sexting is sexting, you either do it or don’t, but the only thing about it is that you’re doing it with someone you completely trust, and that you’re willing to make the risk of doing it, and possibly getting caught. I know from experience on what it’s like to have half-nude pictures get around school. Yeah, it caused a bit of uproar, but it eventually died down, and life went on as normal. That was then, and now I am in a long-term relationship where both he and I trust each other completely and we are comfortable doing this little ‘scandal’ when we feel a little hot&bothered and we are miles apart. It’s fun, and it makes my heart race with excitement. The thing about it is that we may not be together, but it reminds us of when we are together in each others arms, not just about our sexual connection.

      In the end, it’s your own personal decision. Just like drinking, smoking, driving, walking to the store, getting out of bed, brushing your teeth, ect. Don’t let someone you don’t even know tell you how to live your life, it’s your life, live it how you want to.

    • melinda laari

      i agree with Brittany 🙂

    • mjane

      i agree with Brittany 🙂

    • priyaa

      ur da 1st one whom i find genuine!

  • Stephanie

    Sure, it’s flirty and fun!

    • Anonymous

      What if some one else see’s it what if the whole school?Is that flirty and fun?

      • Eboni

        I never send them to guys at school, thats idiotic. ITS FUN AND EDGY