Should I Tell Him I’m A Virgin?
So, you’re about to lose your V-card. Everything’s set. You’ve got the candles, some condoms, a cued up Meat Loaf playlist. (Wait, you DON’T want to lose it to Meat? We should discuss. Another article, I guess.) But there’s one thing that’s not quite figured out. Your partner. Does he or she know this is your first time? Is that something you have to share or is your virginity completely private info? Well, there are lots of opinions when it comes to sharing your sexual history and the editors here at Gurl all have different takes:
 
 
 

Jessica: Spill The V-card Beans
Remember that scene in Wedding Crashers when Vince Vaughn’s character finds out the girl he just slept with is a virgin (okay, so maybe she wasn’t, but… not the point)? And remember how much he freaked? Well, I know that if I hooked up with a dude who told me it was his first time AFTER the fact, I would have the same reaction. Taking someone’s virginity is a big deal! And I personally would want to know if that was happening… and I think I speak for most guys when I say that. I say tell him the truth: whether or not the hookup is a big deal to you, he deserves to know.

 
 

Melanie: It’s Up To You
I think it’s helpful sometimes to tell a guy that you’re a virgin—I mean, the first time is kind of painful, and it might help for him to know what’s going on with you, but I don’t think you have to declare your status by any means. It’s your body, and your virginity. If you don’t want to tell him? Don’t be dishonest and say you’ve done it a ton of times before (lying isn’t cool)—just don’t say anything at all! The experience you share together involves both of you, but your own decisions about your virginity are yours and yours alone—unless you want to share, that is!

 
 

Julie: Yours For The Secret Keeping
Your virginity is, well, yours. It’s yours to keep, yours to lose and yours to keep a secret. Sure, I understand why sharing that it’s your first time could benefit the experience, but if you don’t feel like blabbing about your first time feelings, that’s totally fine. I’m no virgin (sorry, Mom) and I still wouldn’t talk much detail about my sexual history or “number” with a partner and don’t expect my partners to tell me anything aside from STD related info. As long as you’re having safe sex and you feel comfortable in the encounter, your sexual history, or lack there of, is yours for the secret keeping.

Who do you agree with? Would you tell a partner that it was your first time? Let us know in the comments.

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Should I Tell Him I’m A Virgin?

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