How Do I Get Over A Breakup?

Get Over A Breakup

You won't be heartbroken forever!

Dear Heather,

I just broke up with my boyfriend (well, more like, he broke up with me). He told me he doesn’t feel the same way he used to, and that he tried for weeks to get the feeling out of his heart. Even though I respect his decision, I’m devastated! I’m a crying mess and I can’t help it! Does my ex miss me as much as I miss him?

I’m really sorry that your relationship didn’t work out. Breakups are tough, and it can be super hard to get over your ex. I know how much you want to be over the whole situation and feel better, but it’s okay to be sad for a little while! It’s totally normal to feel heartbroken. That being said, it is possible to move on, and even if it takes some time, I know you’ll be okay in the end.

Like I said, it’s okay to cry about him – a lot. Give yourself some time to just feel sad, but don’t alienate yourself from everyone around you. This is the perfect time to lean on your friends – as much as you might not want to be around people, hanging out with them will make you smile and remind you that you have tons of things to be happy about.

Can this kit be real?

As far as if your ex misses you as much as you miss him, I unfortunately can’t answer that. But as hard as it may be, don’t focus on him. Try not to think about how he’s feeling or what he’s thinking: you have to take care of yourself. It doesn’t matter how much he misses you or doesn’t miss you, and if you think about that all the time, you’re going to end up driving yourself crazy.

Take this time to just focus on yourself. Do what makes you happiest: watch your favorite movies, eat an entire carton of Ben & Jerry’s, put a lot of time into a hobby you love. At the moment, you don’t have to think about anyone’s happiness but your own, and that can be a really great feeling! When you’re feeling really down, remind yourself of the good things in your life, and remember that being single really isn’t as bad as you might think.

take care,

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  • Kirsten

    My boyfriend broke up with me 2 years ago. I still havent gotten over it. I love him. I know im only 14 almost 15, but I DO know what love feels like. The only way to know if you once really did love someone is if you still love them even if theyve had alot of girlfriends and said mean things to you. I cry everytime I see him. Love sucks. I’ll never love like that again, Ill always love him.

  • branna

    My husband has abandon me and the kids for the the past 8months now, and refuse to come back because he was hold on by a woman whom he just met, for that, my self and the kids has been suffering and it has been heel of a struggle, but i decide to do all means to make sure that my family come together as it use to, then i went online there i saw so many good talk about this spell caster whose email is so i had to contact him and in just 4days as he has promised, my husband came home and his behavior was back to the man i got married to.I cant thank the spell caster enough what what he did for me, i am so grateful. I even spoke to the spell caster over the phone, to confirm his existence. His email again is:

  • DarcieDML

    I just posted something like this in the “being single” forum – except I’m more interested in getting him back. We dated for over a year, I really love and miss him.

  • Deborah

    I would the words ‘be yourself again’.
    Great text ^^

  • Rachel

    Dear Heather,
    I have been trying with all my might to get over my recent ex (longest bf of my life). But, unfortunately he was my first (took my virginity) and he broke up with me shortly after that for his first. I feel as though I need more advice on how to cope. Any ideas?

  • Deja

    I think this is great advice me and my bf broke up 20 minutes ago. I WAS feelingg extremely depressed, and now I feel better because I can really take the time to myself to get back on my own two feet without needing his shoulder to lean on. Dont get me wrong I love him and I miss him, but I think that sometimes love just isnt enough to keep two opposites together. This made me see the upside to having some A L O N E time.