I Love My BF, But I Miss Being Single. What Should I Do?

Miss Being Single

Would you rather be alone?

Hey Heather,

I am 16 and have been dating my boyfriend for over half a year now. He is very sweet and my parents love him. We do fight sometimes but most of the time we get along. I do see us getting married in the future. Anyways, last night I went to a friend’s house and there were a lot of other girls. I was the only one not single. I have to say that last night made me miss the single life I once had. The only problem is that I love my boyfriend with all of my heart and I would love to marry him one day in the future. But for right now, I miss the freedom of not having a boyfriend to answer to. What should I do?

Have you ever heard of the saying, “the grass is always greener on the other side?” It’s a popular phrase for a reason. The opposite of what you’re doing always does look a little bit better. It sounds like you’re just having a case of relationship blues – and by that I mean you’re getting a little restless. It’s totally normal and happens to people in long-term relationships all the time. You have two choices here: you can either work through that and stay with your BF, or you can move on and try something new.

Pretty much sums it up.

Do you only feel like you miss being single when you’re around your single girlfriends? That’s a pretty common feeling. It’s easy to look at their lives, something they all have in common, and get a little jealous. If you only think that way when you’re with them, and you’re otherwise totally happy with your relationship, then I think this is something you just need to get over. Keep in mind that while being single can definitely be awesome, you love your boyfriend and he makes you happy.

But if you feel like this on a regular basis, maybe you should consider taking a break from your BF. Don’t freak out about that suggestion. I know you love him, and you want to be with him forever, but if you truly miss being single, then that means there is some part of you that is unhappy. Going on a break could give you a better idea of what you really want – and if you decide to go back to him, than you’ll feel better knowing you got to make that choice.

In the end, this is totally your decision. It might be a hard one to make, but when you can’t stop thinking about something, there’s usually a reason. And if it’s just a case of jealousy? I know you’ll get over it soon.

take care,

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  • Anonymous

    That’s what I’m going through right now but we borked up but we do want to marry each other and have kids so we will date again soon but right now we. Want to be single so it depends on what you both want it takes to people to love

  • Amanda

    I have this same problem….how long should a break like this last enough for me to figure out what I want?

  • Anonymous

    This is the same thing I’m going through and I dumped the guy I was with and I feel so upset . Trust me you want to stay with your boyfriend you will miss him in the lOng run!