Sex On The First Date
Okay, so that hottie you’ve been crushing on all year finally asked you out. You’re really psyched and the night is going great. Before you know it, it’s over and you two are making out on his bed. Now comes the big question: do you go any further, or do you keep things PG?
Sex on the first date is something that always sparks a conversation. Does it make you look bad? Or is it no big deal? It’s something we’re always wondering about over at Gurl, so we were excited to see this message board post about it. Check out what these girls had to say about going all the way on a first date and then tell us what you think.
Me and this guy (had sex) on Saturday. It was the first time we ever went out. He texted me Sunday but has not called since then. I wrote one more text.
I am wondering whether he just wanted to bang me and not date
What do you guys think about sex on the first date?
How long should one wait? Because my current boyfriend and I “waited” until our third date to have sex. The sex was spectacular then, and the sex is spectacular now–after almost a year and a half. And there is no indication of him leaving me anytime soon.
I don’t know why you feel it is okay to tell other girls that, if they have sex with a guy sooner than you think they should, their relationship with the guy is predetermined to result in failure. It’s silly and preachy and has no necessary truth to it.
I’m not saying it’s wrong to want to have sex. I’m just saying it’s a better idea to wait, especially if you want a relationship, because many times a guy will use you for sex and then ditch you. It’s hard to tell who the good guys are sometimes. Since he’s not talking to her, it sounds like that’s what he did.
While there’s absolutely nothing wrong with a girl being sexual and wanting to have sex, in general, we’d say that sex on the first date might not be the best idea. Before you disagree with us, consider this: having sex on the first date could give someone the wrong impression. That might not be fair, but unfortunately, it’s how a lot of people think. As our trusty advice-giver Ethan says, guys enjoy chasing a girl a little bit. That opinion aside, what we’re most concerned about is you getting hurt. Jumping into sex with someone you probably have feelings for is never a good idea, whether you’re a girl OR a guy.
In our opinion, getting to know this person a little bit more before you get into bed with them is not only a better idea, but it’s also a safer one. But what it really comes down to is what you think: if you’re feeling really comfortable with this person and it feels right, go for it. Just be careful and remember to use a condom!
Who do you agree with? Have you ever had sex on the first date? What happened after? Tell us in the comments.
Sex On The First Date