Debate Club: Is It Okay For Your Friends To Hook Up With Your Siblings?

Remember when Demi hooked up with Miley's brother?

Imagine your best friend telling you she thinks your brother is hot. Your first reaction? Probably something along the lines of, ‘um, ew’. Thinking about your brother or sister hooking up with someone is gross enough as it is, but thinking about your brother or sister hooking up with your best friend? That’s when things start to get slightly awkward.

So how would you feel if your BFF and one of your siblings started dating? Would you be totally weirded out, or would you be happy that two people you love are happy together? Turns out that the editors of all feel a little differently about this one:



Go ahead - date Julie's brother!

Julie: Get My OK First
I have a little brother (who’s not so little any more!) and when it comes to him dating my friends, I’m fine with it as long as my friend or brother checks in with me before making a move. Sure, it sounds nosy, but a friend/sibling relationship is obviously a delicate thing and it’s only right to give the friend caught in the middle a heads up. I’d never stand in the way of anything. I’d just have pow wows with my brother and my friend to tell them what I thought. After that, I’d be totally out of it–I definitely don’t need the juicy details of my baby bro’s dating life! But looping me in at first is the only way to make the situation kosher.



Torrence and Cliff? Best example ever.

Melanie: Might Be The Coolest Thing Ever
Okay, remember in Bring it On, how Torrence gets that adorable mix tape (with a song written just for her!) from her BFF’s brother? And how it’s the best thing ever when they finally kiss at the end of the movie? If that’s not enough reason to be 100 percent okay with friends and siblings dating, I don’t know what would be. The only way that it might not be so cool would be if the siblings were identical twins. Making out with someone who looks exactly like your friend could get a bit confusing!



You heard the kitten!

Jessica Says: Stay Away From My Siblings
Picture this: one day you find out that your best friend and your little brother have started secretly hooking up. Oh, and everyone knows but you. Oh, and then he gets another girlfriend and him and your BFF stop speaking and things go from slightly awkward to MAJORLY awkward. Yes, this happened to me, and yes – I think dating your friends’ siblings is a horrible idea. I’m not just being selfish and saying this because now I feel uncomfortable (my BFF hates his new GF, but, um, I kind of like her): my best friend and brother have to see each other all the time, and I’m sure they feel 10 times more uncomfortable than me. If you’re going to get into this situation, make sure you’re in the kind of love where you plan on getting married – otherwise, just a random hook up? Take it from me: horrible idea.


Who do you agree with? Have you ever hooked up with a friend’s sibling? Tell us in the comments.

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  • Peetey mikes

    This type of taboo relationships been going on forever.I know theres laws and and some people don’t care or they are from open mind family.But for sure alot of young female teens have a secret relationship with older guys.Like the women Danieelle,how did she manage to have a close door relationship with a man probably mid 20’s when she was 11yrs.old, it’s just crazy but girl at young age managed to have something secretive, because she knew if her infatuated friend got caught, he would of gone to jail. But also, this means she really liked him and kept a good secret.Im still wonderi how an adult male managed to penetrate her,she being a child.Just crazy!!..


    My bf’s friend who is 24 is dating my younger sis who is 14. People may ask what he finds interesting in her and why is he dating someone so young and why he can’t find a girl his own age. Those questions are just so silly and totally stupid. I know the guy and he is very decent and a really nice guy that anyone could ever meet. He broke up with his girlfriend because she cheated on him and he was so heartbroken till he met my younger sister. I knew he liked her a lot and I approved of it. I know she’s been going to his place a lot and I am sure they have started having sex. I really don’t mind because I know he will never do anything to her that may harm her.
    Attraction and the chemistry of love is complex. To me that is more important that age differences. What you want to see is happiness and mutual trust and love. This relationship is a perfect example. I recommend other 14 or 15 yr olds to try something like this so they can realise that such relationships are mature, sincere and honest.

  • bethany

    I am 15 and have been dating a 26 yr old guy who happens to be my older sisters friend from University.

    Our relationship is full on and wholesome. We have a great time and he is the most interesting guy I have ever met.

    At first my sister was taken aback when she first found out that I was dating him but now shes okay with me dating him and like all older sisters she gave me the serious chat about condoms and being safe and stuff.

    • pickles

      Sounds like you have a real cool sis. 🙂 How long were you guys dating before she found out? I think 26 and 15 is real cool. The most important is that you both like each other and you hit it off well.

      My bf is the same age as your bf. He is my older brother’s friend. We hit it off when I was 13. It was so cool and even my first time with him was so good. He didn’t care that I was so young. Now I believe that age is just a number and does not matter as long as you both like each other. I didn’t have a clue and he was so patient with me my first time and I was so thrilled when he told me it was his best experience ever. 😛

  • backpackerGurl

    I would have no problem if my younger sis who is now 14yrs hooked up with any of my guy friends if they were a) decent and from a good background b) did not do drugs c) had a job or are doing some kind of education d) did not sleep around e) were clean and without STDs f) that they were really interested in her and would not dump her after having sex with her.
    There are many decent older guys who I would love my sister to hook up with if she was going to have a bf. I really dont approve of guys her age only because they lack maturity and the kind of security girls need when they are teens.
    I think the times are changing and we need to look at things differently and practically. As long as there is NO harm then why not?