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Boyfriend Christmas Gift
Dear Ethan, I’ve only been dating this guy for three weeks. Should I get him something for Christmas or not? If I do, what should it be? I don’t want to scare him away, but I do want to do something.
With exception of The Talk (“So…what are we?”) and Dropping the L-Bomb, there is no juncture more awkward in the first year of a relationship than the holiday season – especially when it falls within the first month of dating. But as stressful as it may seem, gift giving can be a fun way to further strengthen a burgeoning relationship.
The key is to keep it light: just as you’d be creeped out by a guy who buys you an expensive ring three weeks in, he’ll be made just as uncomfortable (if not more) by a gift of matching “his and hers” bath towels for his apartment. Instead, something cute and economical is ideal. For a relationship less than a month old, I recommend keeping your budget under $20.
What to actually get, however, is a much more personal question. Start taking notice of his interests and desires during conversation. When my girlfriend talks about a knick knack she’d love to own, food she adores, or her interest in a style of art or type of flower, I always jot it down. This running list makes a much easier task of filling each of Hannukah’s eight nights (be thankful Jesus only gave you one). For a guy, this list might include books, gadgets, movies, or even snacks. One – or a small goodie bag of a few – of these items will surely make him smile.
Does he have a sweet tooth? Bake him some cookies.
Ultimately, regardless of what you choose, giving him anything is enough to demonstrate that you’re excited about him. At this point in the relationship, the thought really is all that counts. So for now, instead of aiming to impress, pick a simple gift that won’t add any pressure. Save the hand-knit sweater woven from your hair for next year! And no matter what, don’t panic if he doesn’t reciprocate. He might have just gone through the same nerve-wracking predicament as you—but without a brilliant advice columnist to guide him through.
Good luck!
Ethan
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Me an my boyfriend have been dating for a week by Christmas time it will be 2 an 1/2 I have no clue what to get him for Christmas and I’m a nervous wreck please help me I beg you someone anyone were both 15
Hey girls…i see that you gals are having a hars time thinking what to give your hubby or boothang for christmas…here arw some gifts i bought him for christmas this ueae, the year before, and so on….gift card to HOOTERS, pair of shoes and socks, camera, car deck/cd player for his car, adventure trip to cloud nine, heaing seat pad, caps with matching color hoodie like black hoodie and grey cap and this year i gave birth to our firsr son for 10 years and that was his Christmas…well i hope my gifts give you gals some ideas…tehehe
Good advice. My boyfriend is 27 and I’m 20, so there’s a slight age gap where interests are considered. Luckily he is a bit of a dork/nerd like me
. He loves video games and has a portable game player, a Nintendo ds lite, so maybe a case for it? I’m still not.sure, i defnitely agree that it should be $20 or under.
I’m 15 and my boyfriend is 20. We are almost 2 weeks together and its near christmas and I don’t know what to get him. Please please help!!!:(
A paycheck, he probably needs paid for all the babysitting he’s doing.
This Seriously made my day. Thank you lol
Thanks for reading, Erica!
Try getting him something you made. Sincera youve only been dating 2 weeks
I got my boyfriend a watch a few weeks before we started dating and he loved it! Im thinking about getting him a pocket knife this year. So maybe something he can use for work or around the house? either way im sure he’ll love it since its from you.
Its christmas soon. I don’t know what to get my boyfriend,we’ve been together a while now and I have no idea what so ever to get him. I don’t want to look cheesy or make it look like I don’t really care. So confused ahh!! Help me:-(!!!
Me and my boyfriend are both 16and havebeendating for over a year, it’s our second Christmas together but I don’t know what to get him. I’ve asked him nd his reply was whatever he’s not fussed. I was thinking of something like cologne or aftershave but I’m not sure… You have any ideas?
.What if you and your boyfriend has been together for 6months to a year, and this is going to be there first christmas together! What do you get him when your on a budget!?????
Hey Chanticlear,
Good question. The circumstances are definitely a little bit different as you get deeper into the relationship. For one thing, there’s no “hard” budget rule like there is in the first month — once you’re edging towards a full year together, feel free to spend whatever you can comfortably afford. If your budget is limited, you can still take the grab bag approach I’ve outlined above. Keep track of what he talks about liking or wanting, and pick up a few of some of the more affordable items, or just one larger one. If you want to spend a little more for a more “serious” gift, you can’t go wrong with electronic gadgets for a guy — mp3 players, video games, headphones are all like jewelry for men!
-Ethan