Well, there’s this guy. He always texts me and he tells me that I’m pretty all of the time and he’s always flirting with me… but he has a girlfriend. My friend said he’s tired of her, but what do I do? Do I keep texting him or what? Pleassseee help mee!!!
I’m about to give you some advice that I know you probably don’t want to hear: no, you shouldn’t keep texting him. In fact, you should probably stop talking to him and flirting with him all together.
It sounds like you have a crush on this dude, and I’m sure that cutting him off isn’t exactly what you want to happen here. But trust me on this one: moving on and letting this guy go is the best thing for you to do right now. Why? He’s already involved with someone else, and this situation has the potential to get super messy. Someone is going to get hurt, whether that’s you, his current girlfriend… or even both of you.
Think about it this way: this guy is saying all these nice things to you, and then going home and probably saying the same things to his girlfriend. You (and her!) don’t deserve to be treated that way. You deserve to meet a guy who can give you all of his attention.
I know your friend has said he’s getting tired of his girlfriend, but if that’s true, then why is he still with her? If he was really sick of her, he would break up with her. I don’t know this guy, so I can’t say for sure, but to me it sounds like he’s acting kind of selfish. He’s treating both of you badly, meanwhile, he gets to pretty much do whatever he wants.
Lastly, consider how you would want to be treated if you were in a relationship. Would you be okay with your sweetie flirting with another girl behind your back? Probably not. I’m not saying it’s your fault that this guy is doing this — it’s not. But acting as the other woman isn’t what you want to be doing. You’ll mostly likely only get hurt in the end.
In the end, just keep this in mind: if this guy really didn’t want to be with his girlfriend, he would break up with her. And if he is truly a great guy, he wouldn’t be disrespecting her like that flirting with other girls in the first place.
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