From The Boards: WDYT About Flirting When You’re In A Relationship?

Flirting

Innocent flirting? Or something more?



Flirting: it seems so harmless and fun, doesn’t it? At least, it seems harmless when you’re the one laughing and joking with other people. But how would you feel if you had to watch your sweetie flirting with someone right in front of you? We’re thinking that most of you probably wouldn’t be too thrilled.

This brings us to the question: how do you feel about flirting when you’re in a relationship? We started thinking about it after seeing this post in the message boards. So many people have different views on the subject, and we want to know your opinion. Should you be flirting with other people when you’re dating someone? Read what these girls had to say, and then let us know what you think.

antii_emo said:
what do you gurls think? when youre in a committed relationship, what are your views on flirting?

have you ever flirted with another guy or girl when in a relationship?
what’s the furthest you’ve gone when flirting with another girl or guy?
what do you think crosses the line when flirting with others?
have you told your significant other about flirting that you have done?
tell me about a time when you think you took flirting too far.

hesmyweakness replied, saying:
I think that flirting is cheating if you are in a committed relationship.

If you're touching each other, you've probably gone too far.

have you ever flirted with another guy or girl when in a relationship? Nope. I find it to be cheating.

what’s the furthest you’ve gone when flirting with another girl or guy? I have never done it. My fiance makes me happy, I don’t need to flirt.

what do you think crosses the line when flirting with others? If you wouldn’t do it with your boyfriend/girlfriend standing next to you then you are cheating on them.

have you told your significant other about flirting that you have done? Have no reason too.

Some people will disagree with me but, I have a very strict opinion on cheating. Like I stated above. If I wouldn’t do it with my fiance standing right next to me then it’s cheating.

 

hem replied, saying:
have you ever flirted with another guy or girl when in a relationship? i am naturally just a really flirtatious person. i’m very smiley and giggly when i speak to anyone, and boys often interpret it as me flirting with them. i do MILDLY flirt with boys sometimes, but nothing even remotely serious.

what’s the furthest you’ve gone when flirting with another girl or guy? a few years ago i made a mistake of getting a little physical with a boy i was flirting with, while i was in a relationship. nothing really sexual, but we did kiss a little.

what do you think crosses the line when flirting with others? any touching, or any talk about anything sexual.

have you told your significant other about flirting that you have done? not in the sense that i’m like “OH HEY HONEY SO I WAS TOTALLY HITTING ON THIS GUY TODAY”, but he knows that i’m a flirty girl and most men i speak to find me pretty alluring. it doesn’t seem to bother him, in fact he enjoys it.

Natural flirt? Just watch your boundries.

Here’s what we think: flirting is totally natural. It happens sometimes when you don’t even realize you’re doing it, and sometimes it’s just the way people communicate with each other. So do we think flirting could be considered cheating? No, as long as it’s innocent.

We’re not saying that you should go out and get your flirt on with everyone who walks by you. And you shouldn’t have one person on the side who you flirt with every day. But if you once in a while find yourself flirting with someone other than your sweetie, it shouldn’t be the end of your relationship, and vice versa. Basically, if it would hurt you if your sweetie did it, then you shouldn’t do it. But we say that innocent and occasional flirting isn’t too big of a deal.

Who do you agree with? What are your feelings about flirting? Answer the questions above and tell us what you think in the comments.


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  • Nai

    I’m committed to my relationship with my man and to me its a “0 Tolerances” to be in a relationship where it leads to flirting or nor cheating. That is very disrespectful and seriously why not just end the relationship. I think once they flirt or cheat, it will happen again… Sometimes its hard to let go when you love your partner especially when you’re pregnant and all this flirting and cheating comes around… how do you manage to deal with this situation?

  • Leila

    Have you ever flirted with another guy or girl when in a relationship?
    I hate to admit it but I have. He was a great friend I had at the time and he’s quite good looking, but when I realised I crossed my boundaries by noticing I spoke to him on fbc every day & he said some things that were flirtatious and too far, I told my boyfriend everything and I felt absolutely guilty for no reason for a long time. I still do when I think about it sometimes. I couldn’t be friends with him any more because he made me feel completely uncomfortable & that’s not what a good guy friend should be like & should make me feel even if he did like me or not. He was immature. Besides he’s a year/2 years younger than me anyway!

    What’s the furthest you’ve gone when flirting with another girl or guy?
    Only through communication and talking in general. I’ve always been the one who has been in a civil conversation, but probably when I laughed at all the jokes a bit too much & tried to make the guy laugh a lot, also sending him no more than 3 kisses in our convo every now & then. But I’ve never said anything flirtatious or did anything like touched him, I would NEVER do that, completely unacceptable and just isn’t needed, I also never want to so I didn’t!

    What do you think crosses the line when flirting with others?
    If you send hearts, LOTS of kisses, touched each other, and basically if the person in the relationship is giving the other person more attention than their lover. Again I have never done any of these as I am committed and love my boyfriend.

    Have you told your significant other about flirting that you have done?
    YES, I tell him EVERYTHING! He is such an amazing boyfriend as when I told him, he wasn’t mad at me, he was mad at the guy. We trust each other completely & we tell each other every single thing. I couldn’t keep a secret from him or my insecurities, worries and fears from him. He is also making our relationship work more & better after all that has happened 😀

    Tell me about a time when you think you took flirting too far.
    Probably when I went to a party and my boyfriend couldn’t come, and the guy was there, and when I said bye to him I hugged him, and then I held his hand and pinky promised him that we would stay in contact. Thinking about it, I felt COMPLETELY GUILTY after that. But I have spoken to the guy messaged him without sending any kisses being completely serious saying that he has been unacceptable and has made me feel uncomfortable being friends with him. He had come up with so many lies that he is going through pain because he couldn’t help but admitting his mistakes. I removed him off facebook, deleted his number & blocked his twitter. He pisses me off. So he for me, is one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in life. Never get close to a guy when I already have my boyfriend who I will treasure in my heart forever. Because they can play tricks with a girls mind, but my heart is more strong about my boyfriend more than anything in the world. I am so glad I’m not friends with that guy any more. I also have a few guy friends but they are mature, kind, happy, friends with my boyfriend & they know their boundaries as much as I do 😀 So all is well!

  • Kris

    Flirting is natural? Isn’t sex as well?

  • meaganleiann

    have you ever flirted with another guy or girl when in a relationship? Yes… I have two times and I am right now…
    what’s the furthest you’ve gone when flirting with another girl or guy? Just a little innocent flirting… thats it
    what do you think crosses the line when flirting with others? If you meet up with the person…
    have you told your significant other about flirting that you have done? No… he found out on his own because he knows I am the flirty type
    tell me about a time when you think you took flirting too far. I have never really took flirting too far because I can’t hang with any other boys except my bf… so luckily I haven’t done anything I’ll regret with another boy while I’m dating my guy…

  • Chelbi

    Personally, I think it’s ok because I always flirt with my guy friends but I’m in a committed relationship. I flirt right in front of him but he knows I love him and it’s not like I’m making out with random guys I’m just having a flirty conversation. My beau doesn’t mind because he knows I love him so, so much!!!! Ladies, don’t you think that’s a point?

  • Missy

    have you ever flirted with another guy or girl when in a relationship? yes, but i don’t mean to. i like flirting but i don’t take it to the extreme. jst like really long hugs nd wutevr

    what’s the furthest you’ve gone when flirting with another girl or guy? long hugs
    what do you think crosses the line when flirting with others? not to kiss, feel on sensually or nething like that
    have you told your significant other about flirting that you have done? i told him the guys that flirt with me bcuz he asked me to tell him nething like that. like if we’re txting i’ll say “so yea lawrence is at it agen” or something
    tell me about a time when you think you took flirting too far. when i started roleplaying with them in a sensual way but it felt wrong so i immediately stopped