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Hi Heather,
I just wanted to know if it’s a bit odd that I’m seventeen and I’ve never really had a boyfriend or been kissed….. And it’s not like I don’t want one. Is there something wrong with me?
The short answer? Nope, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you.
And the longer answer: I know sometimes it might seem like everyone around you is getting down and dirty, but that’s probably not true. Yes, there are a lot of teens who are in relationships or who are hooking up with people, but believe it or not, there are just as many who are in the same situation as you. Trust me, there are plenty of girls and guys out there who go through high school without being in a relationship. It’s nothing you should feel ashamed or stressed out about. It just means that you haven’t found the right person yet.
Tina Fey was a virgin until she was 24, and now she's one of the coolest chicks ever.
Your first kiss and first relationship aren’t things that you should feel rushed into. It might sound corny, but these will be special moments in your life, and they’ll come when the time is right. That right time is different for different people — for some girls, it might be when they’re 13, and for others, it might not be until they’re in their 20′s.
Another thing to keep in mind if you’re feeling left out is that a lot of people have a tendency to lie about these types of things. If all everyone around you talks about is the people they hook up with, chances are is that some of them are exaggerating or not telling the truth.
And look how old Beast was before she had her first kiss on Glee.
What I’m really trying to say is that you have no reason to feel odd. You should never feel embarrassed by a lack of experience, because having a lot of experience doesn’t make anyone better than anyone else. Just enjoy your life: eventually, someone will come along, but for now, there’s no need to stress.
take care,
heather
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I totally support you! I’m 17 and also have bever been kissed. In this so sexual world one sometimes feels, just WEIRD. Most time the presure comes from other people, and that’s really frustrating!
I’m just about to turn 17 and kinda embarassed by the fact I’ve never been kissed or had a bf, pretty much all of my friends have had both and I sometimes feel left out. it’s good to see that like you I’m not alone, and I know what it feels like the paranoia that no guy likes me and that no guy will, but I’ve prayed to God for my future and when I prayed to one day be married to a guy who loved me I felt this incredible glowing and warmth spread through my body and I know it was Him telling me that day will come
Hi !
I am 17 too and I was kissed recently.
I don’t think it is weird that you haven’t been kissed but personaly, I would have prefered to wait because I realised that the guy was just having fun and didn’t want to start a relation…
Wait the nice guy
that’s my advice 
I’m 18 and in college honey and I’ve never truly kissed guy. So your definitely not alone hon.
I’m seventeen, and I’ve never been kissed either… but showing a picture of coach Beiste and comparing me to her doesn’t actually make me feel better, it sort of makes me feel like an ogre. It’s good to know I’m not alone though.
im 16 and im in your same situation. at times i think im forever alone :p but then its like we’re unique in our own little way.. we’re obviously not easy girls, harlots, have any STD’s. i actually sometimes like that i have never kissed a guy nor dated a guy
your not weird and nothig wrong with you….. trust me u hve saved urself alot of heart ace…. just like sex once u kiss a boy u fall for him more nd u give him more feelings u jst havent found that right person to kiss yet so jst keep wating nd ull b fine ur not the only one in the world this way ur jst a little more unique and enclosed than other girls.
HEYY…ur totally not alone on this one. Im 16, never had a bf, kiss, and not ever a “friend with benefits.” Yeah it sucks because im a junior in high school and i wanna have a sweetheart. Yeah i really wanna experience it very badly because i feel that nobody likes me. But im starting to wait my turn and let things come to me.
I know what you mean 100 percent im 17 havent had a bf or been kissed. Im really shy bt sometimes i feel like i want a bf and to b kissed so bad nd to b loved or liked by someone other than my family. all of my friends have had a bf and their first kiss bt i guess everything will come in time…
Yes, just as the other girls have said before me You are not alone, I am sixteen and have never kissed a guy. I feel that kissing someone is special and should be magical no matter how stupid it sounds. I have only had one bf and it lasted 3 days and it was when I was in the seventh grade. The guy I dated rushed me in to the relationship and right away I knew something was off; he also tried to rush our physical relationship and after that I told him goodbye. To this day I know that all good things come to those who wait. You sound like a pretty awesome gURL so I know that special someone is right around the corner. Buena Suerte!!
Im nineteen and I got my first kiss when i was eightteen, and it sucked plus i had two boyfriends that I dont even consiter my boyfriends because i seen them twice then never again. and i never been on a date and im almost twenty and i have a friend who is 21 no kiss no date no boyfriend so you are not by yourself dear.
I am 17 about to be 18, a senior in high school. I wouldn’t say i am popular but i do have alot of friends and i do know all the students at my school. I am going to college in less then 9 months. Most of my friends have or have had boyfriends. Most of them have had their first kiss.But i have still never had my first kiss let alone my first bf
Omg! U have no idea how much this comment means to me! I too am a pretty popular girl who knows everyone in my school! My two best friends have both had sex and ive never been kissed. Boys never txt me but theyll ask me to homecoming but still don’t kiss me. Idk what to do. It makes me ball becuz I see my future as my two best friends getting married and me going home alone to an apartment and.crawling into a cold bed! I know it sounds super dramatic, but as of now my future with men is looking pretty pathetic. But its really nice to know im not alone in my plight
I haven’t had my first kiss yet. But i have a boyfriend in Alabama so when i go see him or he goes see me then i will
. But don’t worry a lot of girls are in the same boat as you.
You should be happy.
Then when the time comes, it will be way more special.
I’m 15 and haven’t kissed anyone yet.
When i saw this i was so surprised i thought i was the only one also!
its not just you. i’ve been to 13 schools in 3 different countries and still don’t have either. I have also learned that many of the girls with a long history aren’t the happiest people in the world. It’ll come to you so rather than looking for it enjoy the life around you! 
Phew! This was such a relief to read. I’m turning eighteen next month and still haven’t had my first kiss. It’s really nice to know I’m not alone in this.
i’m 19 and in the same situation. you are definitely not alone. it’s hard waiting, but maybe one day we will be glad that we did. lets fight and get through it together!
To the original writer: I am 28 years old and I just recently got married. I was the girl in HS that was teased and never had very many friends, let alone a boyfriend. I rarely dated in college and didn’t have my first real kiss until I was 21. Yeah, I felt left out and like I was missing something, but looking back I’m okay with it. I met the nicest, most amazing man and he really loves me and cares for me. A lot of the girls that I admired for having lots of boyfriends in HS are married AND divorced already. It’s like that expression “the grass is always greener on the other side.” If you haven’t been kissed yet, there’s nothing wrong with you. There was nothing wrong with me. There’s probably someone out there that’s perfect for you but you just haven’t met him yet.
Hey
I just wanna let you know, your not the only one. I’m seventeen, and in COLLEGE, lol and I still haven’t my first kiss yet. I also haven’t had a boyfriend either. So don’t feel weird, ok, your not alone. (And it’s not like I don’t want one either lol)
You’re not alone girl. I’m seventeen too, single and hadn’t had a kiss yet! Not as though I don’t wanna but am always nervous about guys getting close to me. But I still think it’s totally normal so am not worried.