I’m Seventeen And I’ve Never Been Kissed. Am I Weird?

You'll get a kiss one day!

Hi Heather,

I just wanted to know if it’s a bit odd that I’m seventeen and I’ve never really had a boyfriend or been kissed….. And it’s not like I don’t want one. Is there something wrong with me?

The short answer? Nope, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you.

And the longer answer: I know sometimes it might seem like everyone around you is getting down and dirty, but that’s probably not true. Yes, there are a lot of teens who are in relationships or who are hooking up with people, but believe it or not, there are just as many who are in the same situation as you. Trust me, there are plenty of girls and guys out there who go through high school without being in a relationship. It’s nothing you should feel ashamed or stressed out about. It just means that you haven’t found the right person yet.

Tina Fey was a virgin until she was 24, and now she's one of the coolest chicks ever.

Your first kiss and first relationship aren’t things that you should feel rushed into. It might sound corny, but these will be special moments in your life, and they’ll come when the time is right. That right time is different for different people — for some girls, it might be when they’re 13, and for others, it might not be until they’re in their 20’s.

Another thing to keep in mind if you’re feeling left out is that a lot of people have a tendency to lie about these types of things. If all everyone around you talks about is the people they hook up with, chances are is that some of them are exaggerating or not telling the truth.

And look how old Beast was before she had her first kiss on Glee.

What I’m really trying to say is that you have no reason to feel odd. You should never feel embarrassed by a lack of experience, because having a lot of experience doesn’t make anyone better than anyone else. Just enjoy your life: eventually, someone will come along, but for now, there’s no need to stress.

take care,

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  • Sav Jordan

    I have gone to an all girls school my whole life. When everybody started going to socials and clubs I didnt really want to. When I moved to highschool I thought I would be the only looser who didnt know any guys. There are like 12 of us in my grade who have never been on a date, held hands with a boy or had our first kiss. We are all panicking becasue we have to ask a date to our Matric farewell. We dont even know how to meet guys and we really do want to.

    You arent alone.