bff dates someone lame

Jon Hamm. In person? Adorbs. In "Bridesmaids"--a nightmare.

When it comes to best friends yours is the best. You laugh at each other’s corny jokes and agree on almost everything—except the new person she’s dating. So what are you supposed to do when your bestie is dating someone who isn’t the best? Well, it all depends on why you don’t like her new sweetie.

1. You don’t like him because he doesn’t like you.

Do not go on the offensive or defensive. If he’s bad mouthing you take it up with your friend; not him. When a guy tries to turn a girl against her friends, it’s a bad sign. He should want to get familiar with her life, not cut her off from it. She should make it clear that her girlfriends are important.

When Sandy met Danny, he was sweet, then he acted like a total jerkbag.

2. You don’t like him because he’s a jerk.

Your BFF finds him hilarious but no one else can stand being around this “Mean Boy.” If your friend is dating a loudmouth you don’t have the right to ask her to break up with him. Tell her to ask him not to include her friends in his line of fire.

3. You don’t like him because dude is a weirdo.

He dresses funny. He mumbles. What does she see in him?

If your best friend is smitten with a gremlin, grenade, geek, hipster, emo or whatever the it’s-in-to-be-out folks come up with next. That’s her business. Instead of being all up in her Kool-Aid, just understand that it’s different strokes for different folks.

In Clueless, Cher dissed on Travis, but Tai loved his cute skater style!

4. You don’t like him because he’s different.

Your bestie’s boyfriend is not like the rest of your crew. He’s a different religion, race or not in your clique. Maybe his family is poor and your school is nine-oh-two-one-wealthy; or vice versa.

If your girl is dating that foreign exchange student more power to her. Instead of acting judgy step out of your claustrophobic box. True love knows no borders.

5. You don’t like him because he’s a bad influence.

Your girl was a smarty pants. Now she’s ditching every day. It’s normal to slack off occasionally. It is not normal to have a new BF disrupt your life.

If your friend’s guy introduces her to a scene that’s causing you worry, tell her your concerns. If she starts keeping secrets or moving into a dangerous crowd to be around this guy, you have good reasons to be stressed. Many gURLS make detrimental lifestyle choices to impress a crush.

Tread softly. You may need to have an intervention of her nearest and dearest.

Ronnie's violent tendencies were a major issue in his relationship with Sammi.

6. You don’t like him because he is violent.

Abuse can be physical or verbal. Neither is okay. No one should ever be subjected to violence and abusers come in many forms. Many abusive guys seem sweet publicly.

Confront your friend about your suspicions. If she tries to push you away stay involved. She needs you now more than ever.

Tell an adult you trust and be a source of support. She may hate you in the short term but you are acting out of love. You will be there because that’s what besties do. You can give her the information but she has to be the one to walk way.

In the end, gURLS, we should never ever step on our friends over some guy. Your girls will be there for you before and after. That’s how it should be.

Have your friends ever dated losers? What did you do? Sound off in the comments.
bff dates someone lame