From The Message Boards: I Saw My Dad Watching Porn

Dad Watching Porn

Harmless? Probably. Awkward? Definitely.



Porn is one of those awkward topics that you either talk about and accept, or never talk about and maybe even disapprove of. Whether you’re into it yourself or think it’s super degrading, there’s one thing for sure: none of us want to think about our parents watching it.

So what would you do if you saw your dad watching porn? This convo in the message boards caught our attention, and we wanna know: do you think it’s totally inappropriate for parents (or anyone) to be looking at porn? Or is it just a natural part of life by now? Check out what these gURLs have to say before you make up your mind:

foreverliv wrote:
Okay so my dad left his computer up and i needed to print a paper out for school. i had asked to use his computer first because NO ONE is ever allowed on it but him, even my mom. But when i opened a new tab all the top sites / most visited sites were porn websites. And that really just freaks me out and makes me feel very uncomfortable. I feel really disappointed in him because well he’s my dad and i feel like he is, in a way, cheating on my mom? And i know it couldn’t have been anyone else but him because like i said, NO ONE else is ever allowed on it and they were in the Most visited category, so that tells me he watches it often.

Idk what to do because this really bothers me but i dont want to talk to him about it because that would just be very weird and awkward, plus what could i really say? I really dont know what to do and i really need some advice or help.
Thank you so much gurls

This newscaster was caught on live TV looking at naked pics of Miranda Kerr. Imagine how he felt.

LittleBlonde replied, saying:
almost the exact same thing happened to me. it was almost 3 years ago though, and i never really brought it up to him but i think i was on his laptop in front of him and purposely opened the new tab thing so he would see, but i didnt say anything about the most visit and just kept going to the site i was going too, so obviously he realized. i havent seen it again so he either stopped or got better at hiding it.
but i felt the exact same way, it just made me sick to my stomach even though i realize its kinda human nature, just thinking of my mom and stuff !

artist.on.fire.13 replied, saying: That happened to me a while ago. Just think of it this way: EVERYBODY watches porn at one point on their lives, and he needs some way to please himself.

 

What do we think? Well, as much as some gURLs might not like it, porn is kind of everywhere these days, and it’s become way more acceptable for men (and gURLs!) to watch it. As long as your dad’s not addicted to it (and he’s at least trying to keep it to himself!) it shouldn’t be a problem.

Is it considered cheating? Technically, we say no. But we can agree to disagree, so let us know what you think. Who do you agree with the most? Tell us in the comments!


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45 Comments

  1. avatar DID this really happen? says:

    I come from a Christian family and my parents are always listening to Christian music and we go to church every Sunday. Of course I shoukd know that just because you are a Christian doesn’t mean you won’t make mistakes.

    This is the night I sadly caught my dad watching porn (1:00 a.m.). He always stays up late watching tv and I have never seen him watching anything sexually explicit until today. I was getting debating whether I needed to go to the bathroom but I didn’t so I decided to pet my dog insteae and I noticed the TV light was on downstairs but it was silent. I decided to peak over the banister and I saw a woman and a man having intercourse with no blurring at all and just then he flipoed to another channel of two people going at it and I just awkwardly walked back to my room. He didn’t see me because there is a wall that blocks my vision from him.

    This is one of the weirdest moments in my life. I am already not that close to my father (we barely talk); now I have no idea how I am going to look at him without thinking about this night.

  2. avatar Amp pumps says:

    I found porn on my dads phone and IPad. From what I read its normal. But it’s now awkward.
    I was on his IPad and wanted to go on Instagram but I clicked the home button too many times

  3. avatar maria says:

    i belong to a very cultured family or so i thought till i quite casually saw my dad’s what’s app group. i was shocked to see certain gross images and videos and filthy jokes.(believe me i am limiting my feelings). my father is (was) so well cultured and i always looked up to him even though our relations were not amazing… being a 16 year old, i can understand if college going boys watch porn but not my dad!! i know he drinks and i had accepted it but this is so much more than that. i am so disappointed in my life right now ’cause every ones breaking my trust. to excoriate, i also watched some porn sites but i felt so guilty, i can not become a human being like that!! i am heartbroken and just wish this ends right here or god knows what i’ll end up doing.

  4. avatar maria says:

    i belong to a very cultured family or so i thought till i quite casually saw my dad’s what’s app group. i was shocked to see certain gross images and videos and filthy jokes.(believe me i am limiting my feelings). my father is so well cultured and i always looked up to him even though our relations were not amazing… being a 16 year old, i can understand if college going boys watch porn but not my dad!! i know he drinks and i had accepted it but this is so much more than that. i am so disappointed in my life right now ’cause every ones breaking my trust. to excoriate, i also watched some porn sites but i felt so guilty, i can not become a human being like that!! i am heartbroken and just wish this ends right here or god knows what i’ll end up doing.

  5. avatar Anonn says:

    I’m on winter break, & I literally searched “i think my dad is watching porn” on google & I ended up here. A few days ago I caught a nasty cold & have been basically spending my entire break in my room coughing & sleeping. I out from my room & went down stairs to my basement. I found my dad in his office & I said “what’s up” & walked up next to him. He quickly tried to close whatever he was on but he only minimized it. the tab at the bottom said “Free Sex Videos” & I just kinda played it off & walked out then went back upstairs to my room & my skin started to crawl. I am 14 & my dad is 60. (he had me very old I know)

  6. avatar Samantha says:

    Ive caught my dad watching porn several times and i thought very higly of him and love him but now ive lost that respect and dont think ill ever get it back. What should i do, i just want to confess this. His attitude has changed, hes become aggressive and egoist. He only cares for himself, uses dirty abusive words and i show a mild attitude when he talks to me and it becomes a big issue in the house. My mom doesnt understand internet very well but she knows about it and ive talked to her to make him stop but she has accepted defeat. What should i do? What should i do? Please help me, i want this phase to end and sometimes im so depressed that i even resort to killing myself because im very kind hearted and was very proud of my dad until now. Please understand my problem and give me a solution, please!

    • avatar suzzy says:

      tell your dad and ask him what he want and why he watching porn. and seduced him……………………………

  7. avatar debbals says:

    I was taking some towels up to moms room and caught here looking at pc I watched for a few mins before she realised I was at the door and she started rubbing her fanny so i coughed and she stopped an closed the laptop dont think she new I had seen her,when she went down stairs I looked at the lap top and she had been looking at young emo boys masturbating each others nobs and sucking them I got a tingle in my pussy and started getting real horny and went to my room and took my knickers of and well just did it mmmm ,

  8. avatar Rosalie says:

    I know tons of people think that its perfectly normal for males and females to watch porn but honestly u have to look at this through a 13 year old girls perspective (like myself). last night i caught a glimce of my dad watching porn on his computer. he had headphones on so he didnt notice me at first. but when he noticed me, he quickly shifted his computer thinking i hadnt seen anything. im going to keep it to myself because coming from a very sheltered family, i know my mom won’t take it well and will probably feel hurt that he’d rather spend his night staring at nude girls than with her. But i just dont know how im supposed to act anymore. i used to have a great relationship with him but now whenever i look at him all i can see is him watching porn. iv even resorted to searching up how to act after catching your dad watching porn on google. I want to tell someone but i dont know who to tell without weirding them out.

    • avatar Hannah says:

      I’m in the same way I saw my dad on his phone and when he set it down I asked him to go on the internet and I did and on the tabs it had all these porn sites on it idk what to do like u said you can’t look at your dad the same way

    • avatar Natalie says:

      This is exactly what happened to me. I’m 13 and I saw his search history. I got like really uncomfortable but I just decided to go and tell my mom. She made both of us talk to each other and my dad apologised and all but I still feel really disgusted. In a way it felt like he was cheating on my mom. I just can’t look at him the same way. I get the creeps very single time I think about it. There has been permanent damage done to our relationship. I know some people are cool with porn but I’m not one of them. Talk to your schools guidance counsellor. Or a trusted adult. I’m not very angry at my dad. Just very disappointed.

  9. avatar Ann Onymous says:

    14 years old, heard banging downstairs, ran down with my mum to see what was happening, my dad had seen a mouse and was trying to hit it with a piñata stick (normal, I know) and I was laughing until I looked over to the laptop to see what was on the screen and saw ‘Redtube’ – I hadn’t heard of this site (too young and innocent, duh) but after a quick glance it wasn’t hard to guess what type of site it was :| I looked over to my mum to see if she had noticed, which she hadn’t ( the woman NEEDS her glasses, she can’t read a book even if held directly infront of her face) I double checked hoping I had miss-seen ( that a word? ) it, but no such luck. Once he sat back on the couch he quickly changed tabs on the browser, oblivious to the fact my young innocent self (:P) had just been exposed to his… Shall we say, Pervy ways? My mum and I went to head back upstairs but I let her go ahead of me and decided to stay and check out what my dad would do next, being the spy that I am. I held my breath and watched as he opened a new tab by holding down control shift n or whatever it is you do to open up a browser that will not show anything you do on the web history, I only had to stand there 3 seconds to confirm the sight he was on ( ugh ) I had to silently tiptoe back upstairs so I didn’t get scarred any further. I know many will say that looking at porn is an ‘acceptable’ and ‘natural’ but when you have a 14 year old daughter, 8 year old son and our turning 50 toward the end of the year I think it’s pretty fair to say that’s inappropriate, not to mention gross. Jesus this turned out longer than planned, I should have just written a book ‘My D.A.D. (Dirty addictions douche)’ if you’ve spent the time to read all of this then thank you, I hope you meet a leprechaun and get lucky or something, or maybe granted knighthood for read my rambling, if you have any comments on how you’d react please share, sadly I’m not as freaked out as i probably should be, there’s no way in hell I’ll be confronting daddy dearest anytime soon but I might discuss it with my mum, my family are at peace with being disfunctional by now :/ … Done now, promise.

  10. avatar aime says:

    today i was wanting to do my homework on the computer and print some things off but when i went into the room my dad was there and he said go away and i asked why and he said i am looking at ski coats and it felt abit weird that he told me to go away and i started to feel quite suspicious. i went into the kitchen and started watching tv and then i looked in the windows into the room my dad was in and he was watching porn and i was so shocked i didnt know what to do i tried to forget but i couldnt so i went into the front room were my mom was and started to cry and my dad came in and said to my mom i was crying for attention but then i looked at him and the front of his top was tucked in… i dont know what to do please please help me !!!!

  11. avatar Flimy says:

    Well, here is the deal: there are tons of kids/young adults who are posting this topic on the internet these days…and why? Because the vast majority of men (and growing number of women) are addicted to porn. How can I say that? Well, a really good test to see if you are addicted is to ask this, have you intentionally looked at porn in the last three months? If so, you have a problem that needs to be addressed. BUT, WHY DO KIDS POST THIS AND WHY DOES IT MAKE THEM FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE? Because kids are more innocent and have a better sense of right and wrong. And regardless of whether you agree with me, porn is NOT normal, and porn is not good.

    The problem is that most people think it is normal and feel no sort of sense of remorse for their actions. The real deal however is that porn is just form of “virtual prostitution”. That means that while physical bodies don’t actually touch each other, it has the same emotional affect as prostitution. So a married man who abuses porn on his own is actually breaking his marriage vows, every time. If he has looked at a single nude woman, he has committed adultery in his heart and his wife has every reason to divorce him. If he is sorry and decides not to do that again, she might well take him back.

    And I have heard women who say that they watch porn with their husbands regularly. What a joke! Those husbands are fantasizing over the woman on the screen, not their wives. I am shocked women go along with it, but they are likely in denial themselves. I guess they don’t mind being a used condom for their husbands while those men imagine much more glamorous women in their heads…even during intercourse. That is what happens, my friends!

    So here is my advice if you find out your dad or parents are hooked on porn. 1. Have compassion. This is an addiction and one for which there is no medical treatment. Very few people escape. 2. Make a resolve not to make this a part of your own life now in any future marriage you might have. 3. Try to create “safe spaces” where you can exist in your home without being exposed to that trash. 4. If it becomes impossible for you not to be exposed, then tell your folks you want to move out. Even if you are a minor, tell them you want to go stay with a relative or something. 5. If you find it becomes an issue for you, seek out professional help. You know for alcoholism, they have Al-Anon which is a support group for adult children of alcoholics. In the same way, adult children of porn addicts can benefit from having a similar kind of support group.

  12. avatar Mikayla says:

    My dad is doing that with pics should I tell my mom. I feel very giltey not telling her this is the second time he has done this. I don’t want to tel my mom because I am affaride that she will get a divorce

  13. avatar nompumelelo says:

    I search my moms things at nyt but one nyt I saw uncommon sites on her phone so I cherked them out it was all porn and it is nt the 1st time I see this 1st it was dvds then magaizinze I throw them in the dustbin now its this wat must I do now tell her or not .

  14. avatar EmpressOfDark says:

    I recently snuck onto my dad’s laptop and didn’t see porn so much as I saw he had a Yahoo! Messenger open and the icon was of a half naked chick and some women as added contacts. No names stuck out to me and I wonder if it’s anyone at work that he is writing to. He’s done this before and mom’s put up with it before. He had an affair with a woman when I was very young and later on in life, he was accused of sexual harassment at one of his old jobs. Should I tell my mom or just keep this to myself? :( Feeling angry and rather conflicted.

    • avatar Me227wy says:

      Well for starters, your in a real bad situation. What your dad is doing is not wright. You might have your mom & dads marriage on the line. So I suggest you sneak on to your dads computer and phone and delete every connection possible with the girl. And BURN the laptop if you need to!! Lesson close girl you may get In trouble but really who cares! Try to recommend marriage help. and if this continues then tell your mom :/

    • avatar nompumelelo says:

      I think tell her gal

    • avatar leaveyourcomment says:

      Honestly u should tell your mum, although u love both your parents your mum will always be the one who was with u the most and cared for u the most out of love not anger u should tell your mum or do it in a funny way, u 3 could be together at some point and just bring up the topic and keep starring into your dads eyes deeply then look at your mum for a short moment then back at your dad! ;)

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