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is he into me
As a lifelong dude, I’ve come to a pretty unshakable conclusion on the “co-ed friendship” issue. Once beyond puberty, a guy will only befriend a girl for three reasons:
1) She’s dating one of his buddies
2) He’s already dated her and has since moved on
3) He wants to make out
Let me put it this way: if your male friend isn’t joking about liking you, he might like you. If he is joking about liking you, then he definitely likes you. While you’re asking “Is he into me?,” he’s probably wondering why you haven’t kissed him yet!
But if you still need proof that your friend is into you, there are also some unmistakable physical signs:
You're honestly still wondering if he likes you? Seriously, gURL?
Persistent body contact
Hand slaps, shoulder squeezes, elbow grabs, booty bumps – all are obvious flirtations. Whether subtle or obnoxiously immature, touching is a way of getting physically closer to you.
Random calls and texts
Guys aren’t generally big phone talkers – that is, until they have a cool chick to chat with. I didn’t know how much I liked to talk about shoes and celebrity babies until I met my girlfriend. If your guy friend is calling or texting frequently without any apparent agenda, and the convos tend to ramble on playfully for hours, something amorous is brewing there…
Spending tons of time together
Do you spend more time with him than your roommate or bestie? Has he randomly showed up at your place of work just to “keep you company on your lunch break?” If he’s going out of his way to hang by moving plans around or showing up at the most random of places (e.g. your Twilight discussion group), he is clearly prioritizing you as more than a friend.
All of these indicate a potential pal-crush – detect two or more, and you might just be on the verge of a new romantic relationship!
Are you confused about a guy? Do you find yourself wondering, “Is he into me or not?” Tell us everything in the comments! And if you have a question for Ethan, email him here or put that in the comments, too!
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Ive been dating a guy for over a month know. we live about 25 miles apart. Everyday I have been off, he has come over and stayed the night. he works during the week, i work the weekends (i will fix that so we can have weekends together). However, he (yea were both guys), was out of a 9 year realtionship that was sour for most of the times. we have sex, he says thwe right things…but one thing he did say was “i dont want you to be a rebound guy” but we both like each other. He is moving this weekend (out of the exs), and I am waiting to see if things change. In gay culture its tough however him and i are very traditional so that part im not worried about. I trust him, but My question is…….when is the right time to see “if there is a next step” and how do I approach that. I dont want to screw anything up, but i dont want a fwb. The other question is…..tongiht he went to a play with his friends. that bought tickets for him. Because we are not exclusive yet (im soo new to dating since i am so traditional) but iu guess i need you ladies to help me out here. I dont want to scare him away and i dont think he wants to do the same. we connect very well.
and if he doesnt want me to be the rebound guy…..why still come over? we dont have sex everytime and again we enjoy the company. ok. thanks for listening. i am eager to hear what you all say.
There’s this guy i knw since we were kids til now we are friends he say that he trusts n likes me what does that mean
I’m dating this guy. It was great for a while ten I stoppe feeling anything for him. All during our relationship whenever it was me and his friend “s” he would alaways act flirty and everyone noticed but I didn’t really read into it until one day I actually started liking s. I knew I had to break up with the guy Im dating (I’m going to!) but I went to this ge at my school and I sat between the two of them. The guy I I’m dating got really protective and he held my hand real right but I still had subtle shoulder or leg or hand touches with “s” and we had such good conversation. The thing is I don’t know if he likes me the other guy or am I just reading to much into his actions?
Ok,So He and I have known each other since like,I was born basically.And we used to do like Hang out ALL the time…We used to go to horse shows and annoy the bigger kids,then run because they got mad,and go to the mall and just play, and hang out at my grandfather’s house.That’s the only place we could hang out alone together at because my mother doesn’t get along with his mother.But anyway,we had the BEST times with each other.He was my best friend I Never would have again..He is one year older than me.But he failed a grade so we are both in the same grade,different school..We were about 7 and 8 at the horse show and hanging out together and stuff..we didn’t do anything bad lol we were kids..And..when I was ten,Im 12 now and he’s 13,there was this ONE day,we were playing Black ops together,Yes,still together,not dating,never even thought about dating..I went to the kitchen and his mom was there(i get along with his mom most of the time)and she suddenly said,”You know(not putting my name),you and(his name)should go out”And i’m like,NOOO!!!So I went back and played…Two years later,To this day,He’s started to…well…disappear….It started from not seeing me in days,then weeks,then three months….And also,when i was 11,I started to kinda have a crush on him..Idk it was just random..Like when i look at him I used to see friend,Now when i look at him,I see Insane Hotness…And he is..He has Abs..Lol…Yeaa he takes his shirt off sometimes in front of me….ANYWAY…….but,like a month ago,He got a Hickey..Mind you he’s JUST now turning 13(his B-day-Nov.19)And..It was from this girl named Tori…And she has a friend Named Alaina.Theyre like sisters!!!!!!!My god,everytime I see them,THERES TORI AND ALAINA!!!-_- I hate them.I swear.They are 2 grades ABOVE US!!!!!!And Adam got a Hickey from Tori.I am still mad…I mean..well…IDK !!!Im not exactly JEALOUS…Not like i want to give him a hickey and get my butt tore up like she did.But,For a while,I thought that he liked me..I mean when i was 11…we used to walk ALONE in the DARK,TOGETHER,CLOSE,To our grandfather’s pasture,Which is about a half mile away,But still on his land.and.We used to talk about school..and who we dating..and this and that..And..Umm…I really dont feel comfortable about telling you what we did..NOOOO!!!!!!ITS NOT SMEX(i dun like saying the actual word..lol makes me feel awkward)..OR MAKING OUT YOU NASTY MINDED PEOPLE!!Its like..Oh nevermind I’ll tell you anyway..Becuz i wanna know what’s going on with him.So one time not to long ago,I take his phone ALL the time,And i took it and this time, he tackles me to the ground.This time he pinned me down on the floor. No one was in the house and it was AWKWARD!Considering He was on top of me and alone and all…Anyways he sat on top of me for 30 minutes.I know.I counted -.-…He puckered up and leaned in PLAYFULLY!!!!Then he leaned back.Lol I head butted him before he his head got all the way up.Even though i kinda wanted to kiss him….Awkward again..o-o..So yea now he’s just COMPLETELY IGNORING ME D: and i don’t think i have done anything wrong
…He’s been hanging out with Tori -_- And Alaina -_-…Maybe he’s just tired of me i guess…You know,Knowing me for 12 years…Suggestions on what’s going on with him??…And i mind you,He wanted ME to come over often,Not me just begging him to come over every other day/weekend -.-..So it was HIM persuading me to come see him at My grandfather’s house..Just..Making that clear…lol..Sorry this was so long..And i know i didn’t include some other important things but i thought it was long enough ..
So……..met a guy online, was going through a helluva time…..and we only chatted a couple times……turns out we have family in the same area……he knew this but I didn’t……we both have not dated for a while and are roughly the same age.and it took 5 months for us to meet in person……first night we went for coffee…..couple nights later we met up again, and this time through a set of circumstances I ended up with a t shirt of his while he was washing mine……..which he has now told me I can keep if I like, cuz he thought it looked pretty hot on me…….now he’s gone out of the area for a few weeks, left this morning, and we never saw each other the night before he left, but did see each other the night before that………….I’m just not too sure if he’s all that into me and now am starting to fall for him……………….help!
there’s this guy i like and he knows i like him but he claims he doesnt like me back. he always teases me about it and is always making fun of me. but i personally believe that he’s showing signs of flirting. one day he mentions his gf for the first time and he’s been mentioning her more frequently. i want to believe he likes me but he’s sending me mixed signals. does he really like me or is he just playing with my feelings?
I think he’s crushing on u b/ if he is teasing u then it’s a sign of flirting.
so i have this guy friend who im starting to develope feelings for. the thing is i dont know if he likes me sometimes i think he does but sometimes i just dont know.
he hugs me a lot and there always long hugs. and i thinkhe knows i like him or at least got a hint because the day they wee selling roses at my school i got him one and my friend gave it to him because i had to leave. the next day in 6th period he hugged me 3 times and again it was those ong hugs. I really like him but i just dont know what to think anymore:/
please any avice?
thanks
So there’s this guy who I’ve become close to over the past couple of years, someone I could talk about anything under the sun!
We went to high school together. But then now we’re in college and quite far apart.
But we still texted and called.
And I did fall for him. I told him much much later, around last year , but he was like I’m sorry I like you but only as a friend. Not too long after I told him how I felt, he got a gf also.
But he still texts…. and still flirts with me, a lot more lately this year than before…
How should I interpret it… I don’t know what to do… :s
Should I just move on?
Hi I’m 13 and the Guy I like is I think about 14 or 15 and I’m pretty sure that he’s flirting with me. But he has a girlfriend. My friend says I’m prettier than her but does that at all matter? I mean he’s flirting with me while he has a girlfriend. Not cool. But he is sooooooo cute and he’s just my type. I can’t help but flirt back. I’m not friends with his gf or anything. He flirts immaturely. But I don’t like a bunch of seriousness so I like it. Lol he picks on me like he’ll throw crayons down my shirt when I’m not looking in art. class. I’m freaking out on how to handle this. One of my friends say I shouldn’t flirt with him because he has a gf but I can’t help that I get butterflies and react in a Flirty way. HELP ME!!! Also there’s another Guy I thought I liked and kinda lead him on and we texted all the time for a week but then I didn’t really have feelings for him and he’s still trying to flirt with me! What do I do!?!
Dear Ethan
My friend matthew liked me last year and we flirted alot but he had a girlfriend so this year he dosent and i asked him out because my friends keep telling me to and its benn two days and all he can say is idk what should i do i really like him.
Also, my ex that i dated over the summer goes to a diffrent school we will go to the same school next year but j like him and im the one that dumped him and i wish we could date again soon but dont think that will happen till we go to the same school in high school.
So there’s this guy named Tyler who I became really good friends with and we talked constantly over the summer and he tells me everything before anyone else and I liked him a lot. He kept inviting me to the movies and stuff all the time and i really wanted to go but things just never worked out. Then one day while we were talking on the phone he said he that he wasn’t going to date anyone under a junior (I’m a sophomore and hes a senior) so I had to act like I didn’t care. Also there’s a guy named Coty who is a family friend and I’ve known him since I was 8 years old. For the last couple of weeks he has been giving me a lot of hugs ( like 7 or 8 a day) and he always walks me back from lunch. The other day he said we really needed to hang out and that he was going to text and Im starting to really like him too. I’m not sure how to know if either one of them like me and how to not ruin a friendship. Pleeaasee help me.
Dear Ethan I’m 13 and kinda fat can you give me any tips on getting a guy to like me I am in 7th grade please give me tips on how to get a guy to like like.
Also there is this kid named josh who is sorta creepy like he always says hi to me is that normal and does that mean he like because he dresses sloppy and I don’t think he’s my type and if go out with my friends will drop me from our group give me tips
Abigail, you seem unconfident! From wht I can see, you are an amazing girl! This guy who you like, would be dumb not to like you, and stay away from Josh… there’s a guy like that at my school who likes me. Ewww!! Keep your head up. CONFIDENCE is the best quality in a girl.
Alright, so I’ve known this guy since i was like 10 and im 16 now. he’s 15. ive just started feeling attracted to him and i was getting some major flirting vibes from him this weekend. when we sat next to each other, our legs touched every time. he was picking on me all the time and he would only play card games if i asked him to. He has never had a girlfriend i dont think so i dont know if hes actually aware of the whole flirting thing but i dont know. weve also been texting since we left each other. help! im so confused!
Life is too short, go for him
Ugh… As much as your advice has helped me, this one just confuses me about Vinny…
He says he’s a flirt, but I’ve really only seen him act like this around me and not Caitlin or Mariah… I haven’t really seen him interact with other girls, but he seems to just pop out to me.
When I poke him, he pokes back and we smile about it all while going through a poke-war. We seem to flirt in texts, and I’ve known him for about 2 weeks and a few days…
I just don’t know… I feel like he likes me back, ’cause we’ve texted a lot (probably over 300 texts in the last 3-5 days), and he’s told me some secrets about himself…
Am I crazy for over-thinking this?
No way! You are definitely not over thinking. I do that too! Sadly, the guy I like doesn’t like me, but this Vinny person definitely likes you! As long as he’s not an overalll flirt and you have poke wars and he gave you a secret… he’s either your gay best friend or he likes you!
Dear Ethan,
One of my colleagues who I only see once few months due to the partnership between our companies has really confused me by his conflict behaviors.
He has made a lot of body contacts with me when we see each other. Besides, he told me a lot about his life and family, and showed me their photos. He has made some weird movements when I went to his hotel room. For instance, he played music after I got in his room, and did push-up with doorframe while we were talking. Also, he always tells me his schedule in details, and look for any possible chance to meet me for jobs besides his regular visits every single time he says good-bye to me in the airport.
We e-mail each other often due to our partnership, almost every week. Everytime I message him on skype for jobs, he wants to make a quick voice call instead of typing due to his busy schedule. Nevertheless, he could always make the quick call for a hour long by talking unnecessary details and adding some non-job related topics. Sometimes, he even turn on his cam to show me where he is at.
However, he become passive when he goes back to his country. He never contact me privately. Even though I have done the same thing to him, I have tried to start some non job related topics on FB twice through private message after he told me to relax during weekend. Sadly, he did not reply any of the messages. Is he into me or just being nice? One of my gf said he may just want to make the business smoothly, but he is the one to compromise. Not me.
Ethan, please let me know what this man is thinking about. I am done with playing games.
Thank you,
Liliya
ok well theres two guys i like. ones name is christian and the other name is josh. well i heard roomers(i spelled that wrong srry) going around the shcool that josh liked me and i have these group of friends i hang out with i hang with the boys cause girls are to dramactic even though im a girly girl. but any who,i asked josh (and hes is in my group so it made it weird and so and christian is in the group to) if he liked me over txt and he sent NO!! and i was like ok i was just wandering cause i heard things around school about it but he tells me everything from hes deepest secrets to his family problems (same with christian) and well the “wanna be everything” girl of the school likes josh so im talking to him and well hes shorter than me so i have to lean in side ways cause we stand side by side to hear him clearly but than this girl comes and takcles me and he stood up for me and got all defensive over me and yelled at the girl and he grabs my arm and pulls it and takes me in side the building. does that mean anything? ok and about christian weve been friends for about three yrs and now he moved to cali well i dont know if he likes me and the boys i hang with wont tell me the like me even if i ask for the truth cause theres so many things getting said around school if u say something to the wrong person it will get spread around in 15 minutes and he is soooooooooooo protective over me, like josh and him got into a fight cause christian playfully bumped my leg and josh went into like ninja mode on him soo any advice?
Go for josh, he obviously cares a lot about you but hes just really nervous to tell you how he feels. Let him know that you think and just go from there
So there is this guy at my school, Zac, that I never really payed much attention to. We had lab and were assigned lab partners, my partner was a guy named Cole. The next day I had a new partner…Zac. Somehow he had conviced the science teacher to change partners. He was super excited but I didn’t really care. Anyways, we obviously had to hang out because we were partners. Pretty soon we were really good friends. Then he started being over protective of me around everyone and everything. It got kind of weird. He texted me ALL the time, even in the middle of the night. Then one day he just stopped. So I figured that I should text him. Well I sent him a text and he didn’t reply. So I sent one 3 days later and still no reply. I don’t know what to do. I’m not sure if I like him and I’m not sure if he likes me. I’m soooo confused. Please help!
I think I can help you. The reason he did all those things is cause he really likes you alot. So you should figure out if u lik him. The reason he just stopped is cause he probably thinks you’re catching on so he’s relaxing a bit but hell start up again trust me. Anyways you should figure our your feelings for him and then get him to say if he likes you. Then if he does tell him you like him
Well theres a guy hes my ex from like 9 months ago and i still have feelings he was my 1st kiss people say he likes me and he said it himself to ! but people always call him my name and he said its annoying
i personally think tht if he really liked me it wouldnt annoy him ?
I think he might just be embarrassed that people are calling him out on his feelings for you!
If you look at it this way, wouldn’t you be embarrassed if people called you by HIS name? But because guys aren’t good at expressing themselves, he probably isn’t going to say, “Stop guys, I like her and it’s embarrassing me when you call me out on it” …so as a guy, he just says “annoying!” because most guys are like this! -___-
Well there is this guy tht has a gf but he kissed me twice and thn he txted my brother in law and said tht i was a good listen and th the nxt time tht were alone he would rock my world and the nxt time tgt he see me he wants an other kiss. Does tht mean tht he wants a relationship or does he jus want a quixk way to hve sex
I think he is probably using u. In my opinion. I obviously don’t know him but if u hadn’t known him very long I would think so. And saying things like “gonna rock your world” probably means he just wants to get laid. Do stress too much and think twice before action.
I just met this guy who does poker for a living abt 3 weeks ago. I starting to like him a lot. We hang out at least every other days. I either hang out with him alone or with his buddies it cousins. I’ve met his friends, cousins, brother and his mom. He’s 25 and i’m 28 and have a daughter. I met him at my job which is strip club. He said he like me and miss me but he doesn’t want me to like him too much. But he made effort to spend time with me and was there for me when I had a car accident. He also met my daughter and she liked him a lot and called him daddy. I dunno if he’s really into me or not. I don’t really date younger guys but I feel connected with him. I dunno what do to? Any advice?