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is he into me
As a lifelong dude, I’ve come to a pretty unshakable conclusion on the “co-ed friendship” issue. Once beyond puberty, a guy will only befriend a girl for three reasons:
1) She’s dating one of his buddies
2) He’s already dated her and has since moved on
3) He wants to make out
Let me put it this way: if your male friend isn’t joking about liking you, he might like you. If he is joking about liking you, then he definitely likes you. While you’re asking “Is he into me?,” he’s probably wondering why you haven’t kissed him yet!
But if you still need proof that your friend is into you, there are also some unmistakable physical signs:
You're honestly still wondering if he likes you? Seriously, gURL?
Persistent body contact
Hand slaps, shoulder squeezes, elbow grabs, booty bumps – all are obvious flirtations. Whether subtle or obnoxiously immature, touching is a way of getting physically closer to you.
Random calls and texts
Guys aren’t generally big phone talkers – that is, until they have a cool chick to chat with. I didn’t know how much I liked to talk about shoes and celebrity babies until I met my girlfriend. If your guy friend is calling or texting frequently without any apparent agenda, and the convos tend to ramble on playfully for hours, something amorous is brewing there…
Spending tons of time together
Do you spend more time with him than your roommate or bestie? Has he randomly showed up at your place of work just to “keep you company on your lunch break?” If he’s going out of his way to hang by moving plans around or showing up at the most random of places (e.g. your Twilight discussion group), he is clearly prioritizing you as more than a friend.
All of these indicate a potential pal-crush – detect two or more, and you might just be on the verge of a new romantic relationship!
Are you confused about a guy? Do you find yourself wondering, “Is he into me or not?” Tell us everything in the comments! And if you have a question for Ethan, email him here or put that in the comments, too!
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So I can’t stop thinking about this. I was talking to this guy for about two months. We really hit it off from the start but a few things happened in between that caused us to drift for a period. Soon later I messaged him again and we fell back on track again. We had both admitted to liking each other. He was away on a trip and we had made plans to hang out when he came back. He was supposed to come back in 2 days but after saying bye to him that night he just stopped talking to me. I can’t think of any possible reason but I’m refraining from contacting him. Is there a reason for his actions? What should I do?
My question for you, is Why do guys like to “little-sister” zone me? I have a lot of male friends who absolutely love me! They confide in me, joke-around with me, make time to spend with me, and will choose me over even their guy-friends on most days but they do not like me. They view me as their little sister, and that is about it. I really love that I can be friends with so many guys without the awkward “I like you” tension, but when it comes to a guy I like, I do not want to be his little sister.
Alright, well there is this guy that I’ve known for about three years now. We have always gotten along great. Recently he’s started showing me signs that he maybe wants to be more than friends and I am so for that idea. He’s a great guy and he’s there for me when I need him and makes me things (his secret recipe cupcakesthat I LOVE). He’s also just randomly started showing up a lot more and has joined clubs that I’m in. He gets jealous when I mention other guys. The problem is that he is either really flirtatious or really distant. At one moment it’s like we’re just friends and the next he’s gotten me alone and he’s being romantic and for a moment it looked like he might kiss me but then he just got really quiet. He keeps sending mixed signals and I don’t know what to do. He’s even had a talk with my best girl friend, initiated by her behind my back, on whether or not he liked me and then couldn’t give her a straight answer. He always till comes to see me, but I’m just so done with his games.
I don’t know if he likes me for real or is just messing with me, and how I can get him to be more upfront with me.