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As a lifelong dude, I’ve come to a pretty unshakable conclusion on the “co-ed friendship” issue. Once beyond puberty, a guy will only befriend a girl for three reasons:
1) She’s dating one of his buddies
2) He’s already dated her and has since moved on
3) He wants to make out
Let me put it this way: if your male friend isn’t joking about liking you, he might like you. If he is joking about liking you, then he definitely likes you. While you’re asking “Is he into me?,” he’s probably wondering why you haven’t kissed him yet!
But if you still need proof that your friend is into you, there are also some unmistakable physical signs:
You're honestly still wondering if he likes you? Seriously, gURL?
Persistent body contact
Hand slaps, shoulder squeezes, elbow grabs, booty bumps – all are obvious flirtations. Whether subtle or obnoxiously immature, touching is a way of getting physically closer to you.
Random calls and texts
Guys aren’t generally big phone talkers – that is, until they have a cool chick to chat with. I didn’t know how much I liked to talk about shoes and celebrity babies until I met my girlfriend. If your guy friend is calling or texting frequently without any apparent agenda, and the convos tend to ramble on playfully for hours, something amorous is brewing there…
Spending tons of time together
Do you spend more time with him than your roommate or bestie? Has he randomly showed up at your place of work just to “keep you company on your lunch break?” If he’s going out of his way to hang by moving plans around or showing up at the most random of places (e.g. your Twilight discussion group), he is clearly prioritizing you as more than a friend.
All of these indicate a potential pal-crush – detect two or more, and you might just be on the verge of a new romantic relationship!
Are you confused about a guy? Do you find yourself wondering, “Is he into me or not?” Tell us everything in the comments! And if you have a question for Ethan, email him here or put that in the comments, too!
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Okay so for the past few weeks, this guy and I have been hanging out here and there, but we also work together which provides us with a lot of time around each other. I’ve started having feelings toward him, which sucks because I am married. He’s super intelligent, handsome, and is interested in so much of the same things I am. He invites me to hang out daily, and everytime we are around each other neither of us can ever stop smiling or laughing. His dreams for his future line up with mine so perfectly it freaks me out sorta, but I like it I’ve never had that happen to me before. How am I supposed to know if he’s as into me as I am him, I mean I get that weird soul mate feeling when he’s around, he portrays all of the signs above, but how do I know he’s not just having fun being my friend, which I also enjoy. I don’t want to make any crazy decisions to destroy my home for nothing if you feel what I’m saying. Please help me out here!! I love my husband so much but I feel as though he’s so ambitious towards his dreams that mine are just put on the back burner which isn’t cool. Please help me!!
thanks
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I like a guy. He definitely used to like me but I think he’s given up trying now. I used to be quite distant with him, even flirt with other guts while he was around because I didn’t know he was into me until a friend told me. Now I’ve started being more friendly with him but he seems quite distant and not as flirty as before although occasionally gives the impression that he might still be interested.
I need advice on how to be around him such that he can ask me out/maybe not if he’s completely disinterested.
I have this guy friend who we have been knowing each other for over a year now . One night he whisper in my ear to call him which was fine, I got three hugs that night. So when I did reach him it was a so, so conversation the first time . Then I call about a week later so different we talk like no one else was around either of us . Then right before hanging up the phone I hear him say bye boo to me this was the first time he has ever said to me. Then I went see him play in the band he’s in I text something right before he started playing he text me back , then he piont his drumstick right me. Can you please tell me if you think he likes me?
This guy i think is into me says he don’t trust me what do i do
Okay. So my story is a complicated one. I have known this guy since middle school and we were barely friends until high school. We are both in band so I have had a lot of time to become really good friends with him. My sophomore year, we talked but ended up not dating. A couple months later we talked and actually dated. But we only dated for like 2 days. -.- He was going through some stuff in his life. But at the end of my sophomore year he started dating this other chick. And lets just say I was pretty jealous. Have you ever gotten that feeling that someone is just perfect for you and you know you at least have to try for a relationship? Because I feel like our relationship would be very successful. Anyway, we have been really close friends starting my junior year. Now I feel like he might like me again but I’m not sure. He is always flirting with me and talking about how it would be like if he let our relationship play out how it was supposed to. But I’m not sure. I feel like I’m just imagining these things. But my good friend who has known him for a long time thinks he likes me because of the way he looks and smiles at me. Sooo what should I do. I don’t want to be the other girl. I’m just lost…………
Dear Ethan. I’ve been seeing this 36 year old for on/off 2 years. We split up Jan 2012 and we got back together September last year. I know he really likes me and I really like him, once I’ve caught him looking at me with his mouth wide open and his blue eyes were dilated and big looking at me, he always makes me smile and laugh and makes me happy. He calls me trouble and last ngt he said I’m perfect to him!
!!!!, I’m just wondering is he flirting with me & wonder if he fancies me.. We hug a lot and we kiss and hold hands, he says he isn’t mucking me abt or playing me. What do u reckon he fancies me? Xx
I really like this guy at my church. Smiling and eye contact is not a prob, but touching and going for coffee is.I talk to him a little, but my dad is way to protective over me. in my family and church you never do 3 things
1) touch a guy
2) tell anyone you like a guy (trust me then everyone you DON’T want to know, knows)
3) GO AGAINST DADDY (even if you DO like him A LOT!)
What do i do?
Thanks, me
I am really good friends with this guy but I like him and all my friends say he likes me, we have shared a bed before and he would wake up. During the night tickling me and teasing me, then at a friends birthday we shared a bed and we were joking around and we were really close he then kissed me a lot. After that he didn’t talk to me when I tried talking about it but I told him I liked him and he said I kinda like you then ignored me because he didn’t know what to say.its been about a month now and we have hung out with other friends but he doesn’t talk to me and he is all touchy with our female friend what does this mean and what do I do?
For a few weeks I have a had a thing for a guy he’s talented and smart and funny and he’s constantly doing all things you talk about. Unfortunately I have a small problem even though he shows all the signs, he always tells me I’m just a kid because I’m 2 years younger than him, he likes to treat me like I’m one of his little sisters. What do I do?
Hi ethan,
First i would like to say that what u r doing is really sweet
thanks for answering girls’ questions! Heres my story:
So theres this guy in my school. Lately, well for a month now, he’ve been acting like he likes me hes always so touchy he plays with my hair and stuff. Follow me well, not exactly, but wer always together in our group everyday for weeks now. We have SAT class on saturday together he called me on sat morning to ask what time im going to class (this happens 2 times alrd) since all the flirting at school happened. Just to point it out him and me hav known each other for a year now and he’ve never really been like this to me until now. He always look at me in the eyes when wer talkin and i caught him looking at me several times. And i can sth in his eyes, but i dont want to jst assume that hes into me. He doesnt reeally text me, we dont really talk online well hardly. So tonight, we chatted, and he mentioned that hes liking a girl and i was like omg who is it tell mee. Then he was like its you (with a love heart) then he went “i was joking”. So i was dying to know which girl hes into i kept asking and he wont tell. He kept on saying you’ll know if it works out, i think that girl knows and wer still getting to know each other (that part breaks my heart lol) cos i hoped it was me … What do u think is going on on his mind? Do u hav any idea? Is he jst florting with me ? But i notice that hes hardly been like this to anyone.
Thank you
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Hey Coco (and Allison, Sharah, Grace, Esther, Victoria, and everyone else writing in here!),
Thanks so much for your question. Since it’s hard to keep track of them on this page, though, if you can submit yours to askaguy@gurl.com, I’ll try to write about it in a separate post. You can check http://www.gurl.com/category/your-life/help-and-advice/ask-a-guy/ each week to see if your question is next!
Thanks again,
-Ethan
So there’s this guy I work with that is 21 and about 4 years older than me. He’s really sweet to me and stands really close sometimes and even has let me drive his car. I’m pretty sure that I could be close to loving him in a few more months. I know he can’t like me because he has a serious girlfriend. But he jokes about taking me to my prom and me being his favorite. When I ask him to hand me something he says, “you can have whatever you’d like.” We have so much in common and talk all the time at work. I can tell he thinks that big of an age difference is abnormal but I’m pretty sure he’s attracted to me. He talks really close to my face and watches me a lot, we even talk about exercise and he compliments how in shape and small I am. I don’t think I can get over this guy but I refuse to flirt knowing about his girlfriend.
I liked a guy for 3 years and then i found out that he didnt feel the same way so i moved on and then all of a sudden he wants to know more about me and he sometimes acts like a good friend and sometimes i dont understand him what should i do?
So I can’t stop thinking about this. I was talking to this guy for about two months. We really hit it off from the start but a few things happened in between that caused us to drift for a period. Soon later I messaged him again and we fell back on track again. We had both admitted to liking each other. He was away on a trip and we had made plans to hang out when he came back. He was supposed to come back in 2 days but after saying bye to him that night he just stopped talking to me. I can’t think of any possible reason but I’m refraining from contacting him. Is there a reason for his actions? What should I do?
don’t text him, no call delete his number and pictures.wait what happened if he dint call move on
My question for you, is Why do guys like to “little-sister” zone me? I have a lot of male friends who absolutely love me! They confide in me, joke-around with me, make time to spend with me, and will choose me over even their guy-friends on most days but they do not like me. They view me as their little sister, and that is about it. I really love that I can be friends with so many guys without the awkward “I like you” tension, but when it comes to a guy I like, I do not want to be his little sister.
Alright, well there is this guy that I’ve known for about three years now. We have always gotten along great. Recently he’s started showing me signs that he maybe wants to be more than friends and I am so for that idea. He’s a great guy and he’s there for me when I need him and makes me things (his secret recipe cupcakesthat I LOVE). He’s also just randomly started showing up a lot more and has joined clubs that I’m in. He gets jealous when I mention other guys. The problem is that he is either really flirtatious or really distant. At one moment it’s like we’re just friends and the next he’s gotten me alone and he’s being romantic and for a moment it looked like he might kiss me but then he just got really quiet. He keeps sending mixed signals and I don’t know what to do. He’s even had a talk with my best girl friend, initiated by her behind my back, on whether or not he liked me and then couldn’t give her a straight answer. He always till comes to see me, but I’m just so done with his games.
I don’t know if he likes me for real or is just messing with me, and how I can get him to be more upfront with me.