Comments on: From The Message Boards: Should You Give It Up On A First Date?

By: aglow

aglow — Fri, 21 Dec 2012 17:46:52 +0000

i had sex with my boy friend before we started dating and we are together still. for us there was a lot of tension so we both said why not. this is not the way for everyone, just think before having sex and be safe, oh and don’t be worried about him H&Q girls do it to.

By: cutelilcherub

cutelilcherub — Fri, 30 Nov 2012 06:47:44 +0000

I dont see why not. Whats wrong with doing it on the first date? Its up to her if she wants to do it or not. I hate when girls say they feel “used” You can only feel used if you allow yourself to be used. So there is no point in blaming the guy. It isnt as if you just lie there and allow yourself to be “sacrificed” That is so stupid how girls try and pretend to be the “holy victim” who was pushed into doing something against her will. That is so pathetic. I know sometimes girls are forced but that is different. I am talking about mutual consensual sex.
The thing is that girls are looked upon as being loose if they so dare to have sex on the first date. They are scared of “slut shaming” So what happens is that they think they can appear to be the innocent victim if they shift the blame onto the guy. That way they feel better by making people think they are the hurt party.
Such girls give other girls a very bad name. Also by doing things like that and blaming the guy, they make themselves look dumb. I dont understand why we girls cannot own up to wanting to do it or enjoying it, because we do enjoy it a lot, just as much as guys.
I feel sorry for some guys because they get such a bad name.
I personally believe that we should stop stigmatising girls or slut shaming girls if they have sex on their first date. As long as they are not forced into it, I dont see a problem with it. I lost my virginity at a very early age to my cousin’s friend. He was home from University. I was staying at their place over the school holidays. It so happened that just he and me were at home one weekend because the others had to go to a family funeral. That weekend I lost my innocence. He was worried because I was so young. I was worried that something bad might happen. But guess what, nothing bad happened and we are still together.

By: Simplii_Natasha

Simplii_Natasha — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 16:59:09 +0000

Personally It Shouldn’t Matter… if a girl wants to give it up then hell. give it up.. me on the other hand is sticking to my 90 day rule

By: strawberrykitty

strawberrykitty — Sun, 05 Feb 2012 00:45:01 +0000

I personally don’t agree with the concept because

1. You might never see the guy again, he got what he was after.
2. He might assume you’re just as easy with everybody else, even if it’s not true.
3. If you want a relationship, that’s probably not the best way to get the message across.

I see virginity as a precious gift that’s meant to be given to someone you truly love. How do you know you love someone after just one date…?

By: Yakubutsu

Yakubutsu — Sat, 19 Nov 2011 19:22:32 +0000

I don’t understand why a girl can’t just have sex when she feels the time is right and not be judged for it.

It’s so stupid that a lot of men say they will respect a girl less if she gives it up on the first date? What about him? Why isn’t he viewed with less respect for sleeping with someone of the first date? There are so many patriarchal double-standards towards female sexual activity.

If a girl has sex on the first date, why the hell does that make her less respected or more of a so-called “skank” then another girl? It pees me the hell off just thinking about it. So yeah, overall, I don’t think there is anything wrong with having sex on the first date.

I wouldn’t do it myself, just because I wouldn’t be comfortable with it, I’d like to get to know the person first, but w.e. Each to their bloody own.