When it comes time for a first date, there is always going to be the same thing running through your mind: should I hook up with him/her? It’s a question that every gURL and guy has been obsessing over for, like, forever, but yet it still hasn’t really been solved. We thought about it yet again when we saw the topic come up in our message boards. So… should you give it all up on the first date, or should you wait a little while? Check out what these gURLs had to say:
Hey, I was just wondering, do you guys think that sleeping with a guy on the first date means you’re a slut and that there can’t be a serious relationship with the guy afterwards?
blueandyellow replied, saying:
There’s no such thing as a slut/whore/whatever else. Slut-shaming is absolutely disgusting, and it’s no one’s business but your own. I think sexual freedom is a wonderful thing.
fiction replied, saying:
I don’t care if a girl does, but I would never do it. In order to have sex with a guy I’d need to be fairly comfortable with the guy. On the first date I’m NOT gonna be that comfortable with him yet lol. Besides, I would be really wary that he could be using me for sex and just hit it and quit it after the first date. So that’s why I wouldn’t. But I know of someone who had sex with his gf BEfORE they even began dating and they have been together for a couple years now.
We’ve gotta hand it to these gURLs: they both brought up awesome points. So where do we stand? Well, for one thing, we definitely don’t agree with slut-shaming. We say, if you feel comfortable with your date and you really feel ready to have sex with him/her, then go for it. But you should never feel pressured into doing it, and at the same time, you should never feel pressured into not doing it.
Bottom line? Do what feels right for you, and don’t focus on what other people think. It’s your life, and your date, not anyone else’s.
And if you do go for it, be safe and use a condom.
WDYT, gURLs? Would you sleep with someone on the first date? Do you think it’s a big deal if a gURL does it? Who do you agree with the most? Tell us in the comments.