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Dear Heather,
Over the past couple weeks I’ve realized that I have a different feeling for my teacher then other girls do. I have a crush on him and its driving me nuts! I feel like such a creeper. I need to know if I am just really weird or if this happens to other girls too.
First things first: having a crush on your teacher is not weird. It might feel really awkward and embarrassing, but it happens to both gURLs and guys all the time. It’s natural to grow feelings for someone you see on a regular basis, who you interact with a lot, look up to and probably find attractive. You see it all the time in movies and TV shows, and trust me, it happens in real life every day.
Now, that being said, this is one crush you shouldn’t act on. It’s fine to have a little crush — but as long as you are underage and he/she is your teacher, it’s illegal for you two to have any other relationship than student/teacher. Not only can he/she lose their job if you do try something, but they can also potentially go to jail.
Try to keep things innocent. When feelings are involved and things get emotional, I know how hard that can be. But try not to obsess over your teacher, because it will only hurt you more. If you feel like there’s no one your own age to like, don’t worry about it — you’ll meet someone eventually. You can talk about how cute he/she is to your gURLfriends, but that’s pretty much as far as it can go. Just don’t flirt with him/her… even something as seemingly harmless as that can get you both in trouble.
WDYT, gURLs? Have you ever had a crush on a teacher? How did you deal with it? Give us your advice and discuss below.
take care,
heather
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I have a crush on one of my teachers too. Now he has left. (Not because of that,obviously!!) I want him to do well in his career but i cannot get over the fact that i wont see him again! Can someone please help me?? I am losing focus!!
It’s ok, you will get over it, just tolerate. I have a crush on my teacher too, and next year I may not see him again cuz perhaps I might move to somewhere else. And I feel so sad and can’t imagine living without him. But I think he has noticed that I have have crush on him cuz when he talks and looks at me, my face gets so red and I feel like the flames are all over me. I know how you feel, but you should know that this is how this stupid world is. Unacceptable and unbelievable things can occur. It’s ok if you fail you classes cuz I am also about to fail my other classes and
I’ve had a crush on a substitute teacher for months now. I have found out that his first name is Bill, he’s 40 years old(but he looks like he’s in his early 30′s), and his address and number(I have memorized both). Bill is funny, nice, determined to make sure we succeed, and everyone’s favorite substitute teacher. When I tolled my friend about my crush on Bill, he said he’s a hottie(and I would have to agree with him), his dad is friends with Bill, and when I tolled him that I’m stalking Bill he said he’ll stalk Bill with me. But the fact is I’m obsessed with my substitute teacher and I’m scarring myself! I need help!!! School counseling perhaps? PLESE HELP!!!!!!!
I’m glad to see I’m not alone with this.
I’m pretty sure I have a crush on my Biology Teacher. He’s smart (of course), patient, and caring with all of his students. And in the beginning, i didn’t pay much attention to him. But he seemed to recognize my potential and how fast I got the material. So he’d talk to me about other things too. He likes to talk about College with me, and we even discuss my boyfriend a lot. I know he cares for me, but then again, he cares about all his students. As much as I’d like to think I’m special to him, I’m probably not. I think I just admire his personality, and how much he actually cares for me compared to other people… Not to mention he’s quite attractive too..
My boyfriend thinks It’s funny how I’m so obsessed with my teacher.. But the more I think of it, the more I think I’m way too weird.
Is this so weird that i also have a crush on my bio teacher in high school..
Hes smart ,funny , charming and alluring . He gets a lot of attention from other girls in my school. They all have such confidence to go up to him and talk about things. I get pretty jealous when i see them interacting with him. I want to go up to him and have a conversation going. Im just nerves and blush when ever i see him. I have a huge crush on him since my sophomore year. Im a senior now at this moment and ready to graduate. Is it alright that after i graduate i can express my feeling towards him. For so long i have been holding these feelings and wanting to tell him how i feel! The man is 60 years old and im currently going to be 18!!
Okay, so ive started to talk to my teacher more, this year. and we are very close And he always makes me laugh. May 1ST Was his birthday and I made a card for him and I wrote this BIG paragraph and everybody just signed there name, But later that day when he had a party he Showed everybody
) ( tEACHERS) My other very close teacher shes a girl and she tells me everything about him. So she told me it meant a lot to him 
) That, But we had sex ed this week and whenever he talks about sex, he looks me dead in the eye. I’m not even joking. BUT i Think hes sexy. I never told him. ( never will) but a lot of my friends know. The other day I told him to read a class play when It was time to go and I said NOO , read it now, i THINK HE THOUGHT i was sad or mad and he ALMOST went to touch me His hand was extremely low I think he was looking at my butt lol But I borrowed a pencil from him then I turned around and gave it to him. I dont really know what he was going to touch. Well, I’ve had a crush on him since the first day of school <3 I constantly have dreams about him:) But before I leave this school year 8 th grade. I want him to know that I had a crush, because if someone doesnt tell him i will feel guilty forever, I wont be able to see him ever again 
This year is almost over too. But gotta make the best of it. i HAVE A FEELING HE LIKES ME, i always catch him starring at me 
And he always smiles at me too. BTW, tHE TEACHERis Mr. Bona <3<3
Oh I try hard not to take interest in anyone. It’s annoying the heck out of me, but I think I got a crush on my art teacher. I’ve been told a lot of girls crush on him, but it’s really hard NOT to have a crush on him for me. I don’t go for physical, I pay attention to personality, but physically, he is the type of guy I’d go for x.x I love art. I’ve been drawing my whole life and I was excited to learn to get better in more arts and expand my horizons this semester. I’m a freshman in hs, 15, and he could be anywhere from 25- early 40′s. and he is married. But his personality is incredible. He’s really nice and we think extremely similarly and I LOVE to talk with him. I know I’ve stood out from the start. I talked with him from the start because I wanted to know what kinds of things we’d be doing. I am probably the student that talks with him the most, but that’s partly because I get board after I finish my assignment and I finish quicker than most other students. I didn’t want to like him, but we click really well. near the beginning I requested to sit at the back table where I’d be by myself because the kids at my table where the kind that annoy me. and sometimes he’ll send them back there to separate students. and once he stopped me and said his wife told him to thank me because that happened to her a lot, and that she and I are very similar. I told him it wasn’t a problem. And there were a few other times, like when he sent a girl to my table because it was her time of the month and she was fighting with another girl and frustrated with her art project so she kept calling out for him, bu he was very busy with other people. Being skilled with people, I helped her calm down then gave her a few tips and told her she shouldn’t be frustrated with her first drawing and helped her out until he was free to come see her. as he walked past me walking to his desk he stooped and turned slightly and whispered ‘thank you’ to me. And then one time we spent the period talking and it was fun, we talked about moving and nature and one place where everyone in his life, he’s wife’s life and part of my life happened to revolve around. before I left he said “you’ve always stood out in a good way, I now better understand why you are the way you are” and he is really cool and really nice. I hope to have a strong friendship with him throughout and after high school. I’d also like to meet his wife sometime x)
I am utterly and completely in love with my math teacher. I’m only in eighth grade, which is my last year of middle school. It feels stupid to like someone this much when I’m only fourteen, but I can’t help it. He moved here from Alaska. His name is Brian, and he is gorgeous. He works out every day, has a good fashion sense, and has a full head of thick brown hair. We have the same sense of humor, and in class he’s always teasing me and laughing. I honestly feel like we have good chemistry. Sadly, he’s married. I’ve met his wife at an open house, and that night in bed I cried. I avoid him as much as possible because whenever I do see him, I blush, giggle, and trip over myself. I struggle to even talk to him. I feel like a major stalker because I’ve Googled him multiple times. Every time he does something in public, it’s likely that I’ll find out about it. I even have a document on Google Drive that’s filled with pictures of him that I’ve found. I don’t know why I stalk him, because I feel really bad afterwards, but I can’t stop thinking about him. It’s been eight and a half months since we met, and I’m still crazy for him. I try incredibly hard in his class, and get the highest grade in Math. I know there isn’t any chance between us; the age gap, his wife, the teacher code; but I still love him so much. It’s funny, saying it like that… I truly love him. I can tell. It’s a different feeling than with most crushes. I don’t know what I’ll do without him when I go to high school next year. :’(
I have a major crush on my science teacher. I don’t know if he is married, but he is somewhere in his mid 20′s. I always stare at him when my class is watching a movie but he always catches me watching him. Some of the girls in my school say he is cute too. I get the feeling he hates me sometimes. I am really self conscious because I have acne (not as bad, I have been off accutane now for 2 months). I always day dream about him even though I know it’s impossible in many ways that anything would ever happen between us. I always fall for older guys (ranging from 17 to at least 29 or 30) because they are mature and don’t just want to have sex and get drunk all the time. I only have one crush on a guy my age. I try to ignore the feelings,but the more I try to forget about him, the harder it gets.
I’m in ninth grade and I’ve developed a crush on my math teacher. Now, I’m 15 and he’s 50 with a girlfriend and children and I’d never expect anything at all! It’s not the looks I go for, it’s his personality and how we think so much alike. He’s more of a friend than a teacher to me personally and I really want him to know my feeling but at the same time i don’t know what he’ll think or say. I’ve told him my deepest darkest secrets and he talks to me and listens and makes me feel like I’m safe and cared about by someone other than my parents. I just really need advice as to what I should do. He said in could absolutely tell him anything and I take that pretty seriously……should I speak up or keep everything as is? Help!
I’m in the same situation .
I also have the same problem, I am 17 and i am a junior and I have a huge crush on my history teacher coach E because i dont want to say his full name so lets leave it at that,heis in his 40′s he is just so hot and his personality is awesome and I just feel nervous when around him because I like him alot, he is married though and has two kids one who is a freshman at my school this year, I kinda feel like I should tell him but I don’t want to ruin his job, I daydream about him any chance I get and I have a 93 average in his class because I listen to him, trust me I will always listen to him.
Im a girl in 10th grade and i have a major crush on my last year History teacher…he’s 25 and im 16, but when looking at our birth years were 8 yrs apart. I’ve known him for 2 years and were pretty good friends, we talk alot, tease each other, he’s alos my Pole Vault coach…we have some pretty good times together…problem…i really like Love him…its his persoanlity that just gets me! A couple other of my friends know but many people dont think hes attractice at all…that’s not what gets me, he’s handsom in my eyes…but i just want to sorta be with him….in 2 years i graduate and i’d love to continue tali\king to him after that…any ideas….i need some help here….not sure if he knows i have a crush on him…prob. not….but…its just so hard not to want to hang with him…
I have developed my crush on this history teacher. I don’t know, he’s just so cute and hot and cool. I always stare at him that i don’t get his lessons. We’re not close, we don’t even get to talk alone. But still this thing called “crush” was haunting me until now. I haven’t seen him 2 years now. And i start to developed my feelings (whose now around 25 and im 17) when i’m 13! Is it loe or just infatuation??
I’m in love with my teacher. She is not that pretty. There are a lot of girls that are more beautiful than her. I just don’t get it. Why am I in love? I could do anything just to get her or at least to make her happy.
Okay, I have had a crush on my 57 year old history teacher for 6 months now and it is driving me insane. I go into his class when ever I can, show up in places he most likely goes by in school and stare at him during class. It feels wrong but it feels so good. Am I a bad person? :/
hey i’m on the same as yours. i fall for my 39 year-old teacher,he’s married and has kids. i totally hate the fact that i have feeling to the person i least talk to in person ( or atleast i whatsapp him a lot.) and i also kinda think i’ve grown too much dependent on him,like a nuisance or something because i like to talk him about my problem and the subject he’s teaching. this whole thing drives me insane a little sometimes,because i get envious when my other classmate is much closer to her than i am. i’m just totally pissed the fact that i am being in that way.nonsense. and he’s not even as handsome as Damon Salvatore!lol hahaha,because i used to like good-looking guys you see,and very choosy indeed. but uh, this thing is completely different. i hate him and me.i just hope that this thing will go away real soon.
Well my story is a tad complicated. I’m sixteen this year and I’m in year 11 (my senior years) and for biofuel and earth and environmental I have this one teacher (who I had as well for science in year 10) and lately I have noticed I’ve developed feelings for him. (he’s 35)
I often stay back after class (I see him every day of the week) to talk to him and we have become really good friends. I can’t stop thinking about him. I smile whenever I see him and he smiles back. But what got to me was that he is being transferred and he isn’t my teacher anymore… Also, I talk to him frequently on Facebook etc. and he told me he knew I liked him.. He said he just had a gut feeling. It hasn’t made things awkward between us and we are still great friends but whenever I think of him I get upset especially when I realize he isn’t my teacher anymore… He wants me to move on but I’m trying hard to, I don’t think I can just yet.
I’m fifteen and I have this huge crush on my ancient greek teacher. I don’t know, he’s just so cute, funny, sensitive, a little sarcastic, he has a great figure and an amazing personality. Whenever I’m in his class, I always look at him.. His eyes, omg! The problem is he’s my teacher and like 30 years old. He also has a girlfriend and a kid! (1,5 years old) Sometimes we talk about non-school things and it makes me so happy! I really want to keep in touch with him and talk! I just have no subjects.. Someone please help me! And what should I do, become friends or taking it further? (I don’t know if that’s right because of his wife and kid and I don’t want to be the one to ruin his relationship and get the kid possible divorced parents)
My friends all think he’s awkward, but I just can’t help it! O his glasses and shadow-beard are just so cute!! <33
Please help me!
I also have a crush on my teacher ;-__-
He’s my friend’s English teacher in the other classroom and I can’t help staring at him through the walls(they’re glass)
I think he’s 30-45 but he’s not married.. but it still seems weird.. I just feel so strange when I talk to him and when he walks near me.. He’s a really nice guy but I want to become at least friends with him..
I can relate as well. I have a crush on my World Geography teacher. He’s 30 years old, but he acts like he’s still in high school. He’s really kind, humorous, sarcastic, intellectual and understanding. At first in the beginning of the year I didn’t talk to him at all. I found him attractive, but when it came to communication I was mute. He had my sister as a student 2 years before so he knew who I was. He would talk to me occasionally, but when he would I would either just nod or shake my head depending on the topic or question. Then in about late November early December I stayed after with my friends to finish a project for his class and since we didn’t understand what to do we went to his room and me being the person I am walked in and immediately stated, “I don’t understand this at all. I am so stupid.” And once the statement left my mouth he yelled at me for calling myself stupid. Yelled for at least 10 minutes giving me a lecture. Then he had me and my friends sit down and tell him the problem. When everything was figured out he asked me why is never talked to him before and I told him about how self conscious and anxious I was especially when it came to talking to new people. And then he had me tell him why I was and that took about and hour maybe 2. After I was done he told me a lot about himself. We connected and we understood each other completely. From that day until now I’ve stayed after at least 1 day every week and have done work and talked with him. His personality is what I really fell hard for. It matches mine completely and we have the same views on everything. I know that I should look away from it, but I can’t. I feel like this crush will stay for a long time. We’ve developed a friendship though its only during school hours. We don’t text, call or hangout. I only ever email him when I have a question about school. He’s awesome and I hope that after I graduate he and I can becomes good friends.
I’m 15 and I have the most ginormous crush on my old band teacher. He came to our school last year, and I hated him so much because I don’t like change and he was awkward and different. Around halfway through the school year, I just started to connect with him and I stayed after a lot more, practiced. He helped me figure out who I really wanted to be. I took summer lessons with him. It’s gotten awkward now because our high school and middle school are connected so I walk past his room every day. We always say hi to each other and I think he knows I still have a crush on him. I’m just stuck and trying to work through it.
i can relate dont worry. i’d always thought of my band director like my best friend. but we have an odd relationship. im the 1st chair freshman french horn. i advanced to area but not with his help my 1st year in HS. i constantly try to make him jealous by saying that my other male director is my favorite and i know it works. we also constantly pull major pranks on eachother after class and after school. i usually get out of classes early and talk to him if he’s there. if not i usually stay and practice anyway. he isnt married and he’s told me his entire past basically and he knows everything about me. i finally realized i liked him when we started doing our little pranks, but im the only one who knows bcus my best friend likes him…but i think i love him annd i KNOW its stupid…but i cant forget the man who taught me music.
he isnt really physically attractive, but i fell in love with his personality. plus he trusts me n i trust him
hey don’t worry me too. i have the biggest crush on my English teacher. i almost thought i’m crazy. yeah because he’s not physically attractive but his personality got me hooked! i dont know why. and he has kids too. sigh. he’s kind and always looking out for me,and i couldnt help to fall for him. this thing is worrisome, i dont know what to do either.
I’m in year 9, at an all girl school, and I have a huge crush on my German teacher he’s 25 and he’s tall, kind, brave talented, considerate and has the best eyes. Not many people seem to think he’s cute, but I do. He speaks 5 languages and whenever he speaks something In a different language, I get a funny feeling in my stomach… He says I’m the best student in my class, which makes me go bright red… I try to avoid him as much as possible around school because I feel so embarrassed and self conscious. Sometimes I feel like at stalker too, because I Google him and know a lot about him. I sorta see him as a father figure too, coz I never really see my pa… But I am hugely crazy over him!!! :S
yeah me too. cant believe i googled him too! i must be crazy.