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Are you down with strip clubs?
How would you feel if your sweetie went to a strip club… without you? We can definitely understand how this situation would make some gURLs feel uncomfortable, but at the same time, it’s hard to tell your boyfriend/gURLfriend what he or she can and can’t do.
That’s exactly the problem a gURL on our boards is having. She’s getting a range of feedback on her situation from other gURLs on the boards and it got us thinking too.
Here’s the break down:
Okay sooo I’m currently in a long distance relationship, i haven’t seen my boyfriend in a year and a half(sigh)…hanging in there…but anyway we do fun things on our own to help the time pass by..like chill with friends…go to parties…the movies..the beach…STRIP CLUBS!!! lol okay i don’t go to strip clubs, but sometime he does..at first i was okay with it but now i feel a little weird/jealous…idk…so i wanna know how do you gurls feel about your boyfriend going to a strip club on more than one occasion? And if you were in a long distance relationship,would u feel the same way about it?
Hesmyweakness replied, saying:
I could care less if he went to a strip club. I told him he could go to one for his bachelor party if he wanted.
It doesnt matter who he is looking at as long as he comes home to me. I mean he loves me, he doesnt love them. I’m very secure in his love for me so, I know I have nothing to worry about.
While a_wolves_spirit had an opposite opinion:
I would not want my boyfriend going the strip club. I don’t really see why he’d desire that and if he could justify it, without injuring my feelings or bringing up our sex life, then I may be okay with it. But generally? No.
We can understand both points of view. And in the end, there is no universal right answer. It boils down to how you and your S.O. feel about it. If it’s against your morals and makes you totally uncomfortable, then tell your sweetie . If it doesn’t bother you, then hey — there’s nothing wrong with that either.
So WDYT, gURLs? Would you care if your S.O. went to a strip club? Would you ever go to one yourself? What advice would you give this gURL? Discuss in the comments.
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if i had a bf that went to a strip club i would dump his ass. it just shows how he would view a lady being a toy. it would also make me feel like i wasnt good enough for him as far as sex stuff goes
I think I would be ok with it if he was just going to watch. Like no lapdances and no “back room” shit. He is usually a pretty classy guy, and doesn’t really see the thrill in strip clubs anyways. He likes the classier girls (not the ones that are always taking there clothes off to get attention) so, I know he would be coming home to me at the end of the night. It is pretty much the same idea as porn.
NO and i’d dump him if he went and he knew i didn’t approve of it
Heeeelllll no! Hell no!
My sister and I always debate about this topic her husband goes to see strippers quite often even though they really can’t afford it. However that is beside the point of how her husband treats her which in my opinion is quite misogynistically.
i.e.: He never cleans, cooks, however he controls all of the money.
He also never forgets to let me know how much he hates feminists even though he knows I am one and always has a new factoid about “extremist feminists” and how awful they are mind you i would have never become one if it wasn’t this total douche. Anyways back on topic.
The job description of a stripper in my opinion is quite degrading to each side of the “deal”. Strippers often use drugs to work up the courage to take their clothes off on stage, especially if it’s for a bunch of gross guys who’s only chance of experiencing sex and sexual provoking is having to pay for it. There have been some occurrences her husband has told me of how he is “friends” with the strippers by having deep conversation while they dance or whatever. Now from my point of view that sounds like he trying to form a relationship with them. Luckily for my sis, strippers see these guys as “marks” where they are prime targets for being repeat customers who will spend a lot of money as they are buying into the illusion that they have a lot of girlfriends.
Some may say stripping is a form of female empowerment and yeah you could say that I suppose, but honestly I just see it as egotism and being quite vain. Some of the strippers I’ve met don’t really care for what they do as they are sexually harassed quite often as the customers think it is part of the service. I’ve also heard of some instances where they are puked on by a slob a customer. So it doesn’t exactly sound like a “easy way to make money” that’s for sure.
I for one am happy to say my boyfriend has went to strip club and instantly left calling me on the phone telling me how disgusted he was afterwards even though he was out of town and easily could have gotten away with it.