What is your opinion on friends with benefits? My friend and I are currently trying it but I’m worried about how it might work out.
Friends with benefits can sound like a harmless and really fun idea, but unfortunately, it usually doesn’t end up working out that way. That’s because it’s hard for two people to be hooking up (whether you’re having sex or not) and not grow feelings for each other, even though the movies might tell you otherwise.
A FWB relationship can easily ruin a perfectly good friendship. Even if you go into it thinking you have no emotional attachment, that usually changes once you start kissing, cuddling and maybe even doing more. And since you’re not in a committed relationship, either one of you could technically go out and meet other people. And it is definitely not easy to watch the person you’re hooking up with flirt with other gURLs or guys.
In the end, one person will usually end up having feelings for the other person, and it really hurts if that person doesn’t feel the same way. It can lead to lots of jealousy and fighting. So think about your friendship with this person long and hard — are you willing to risk your friendship to hook up and have a little fun?
If you honestly think you two will be just fine, then go for it. Just make sure you two set guidelines and are open and honest with each other throughout the whole thing.
WDYT, gURLs? Have you ever had a friends with benefits? Do you think FWB ever works out or is it destined to fail? Give us your advice and discuss below!
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