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Hi Heather,
I’m a freshman in high school and I have no friends at the school. I can’t seem to meet anyone who seems like they need friends. I eat alone, spend my free periods alone, and walk to class alone. I need some help.
I’m sorry you feel so lonely in school. High school can be a pretty scary and intimidating place for every gURL and guy, especially freshman. Don’t think you’re alone in this situation though, because there are plenty of people who feel exactly the same way.
Making friends might seem really hard, but I promise it’s not that bad. The first thing you need to do is try to involve yourself. You should definitely join an after-school club, whether it’s yearbook, sports, or whatever. You’ll meet people who have similar interests as you, and you’ll be working pretty closely with them, so it’ll be super easy to get to know them. Bonus: it will end up looking great on your college apps in the future.
Try striking up a conversation with someone nice who sits next you, or take a seat at a lunch table with people who you recognize from class. Don’t be afraid to be friendly and a little bit outgoing. I know it seems terrifying, but the only way you’re going to make friends is if you put yourself out there.
Just make sure that you’re confident and acting like your amazing self when introducing yourself to people. Don’t get frustrated — it might take a little time, but you’ll meet a great friend soon.
WDYT, gURLs? Do you feel lonely in school? What do you do to get yourself involved? Do you have any great tips on making friends? Give us your advice and discuss below!
take care,
heather
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I’m a freshman in a highschool where everyone seems to know each other. I just moved to this area and don’t know anyone, and ended up having to sit with a guy at lunch time. I’ve already gotten a nickname, which almost the whole school seems to know, but no close friends yet…
I’m also a freshman in high school and have no friends yet either.But just try and mix in with the other girls and be really friendly =)
my best advice to meeting new friends is to ask someone u sit next to in class a question…that’s how i met my best friend of middle school, i asked her “hey do u have a pencil i could borrow” and after that we just started talking. You can say to someone “hey i really like your skirt where did you get it from?” or “did you study for that test where having today? ugh, i hope i don’t fail” and most likely they will answer you and agree with you because they don’t want to fail the test either lol. Good luck and just remember to think questions, you can always branch off conversations from them : )
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1. I am a new gurl this year and i couldn’t be more happier… stay yourself instead of staying cool! I’m a nerd so the first day i sat and read a book to myself and that there attracted nerd buddies! if youre that desperate i guess you should join clubs however BE CAREFUL! pick the right crowds to hang with. don’t be afraid to socialize but if you are shy like me… ipod it out! and if you don’t have that-a book always help!
2. i know most don’t assoicate with the Newbies but that is so STUPID!!!!!! in my old school when someone was reading alone at lunch we would ask them to sit with us. and of course alot of newbies don’t talk… they don’t know anyone to talk 2. So don’t be a meanie and watch them be alone. be nice and at least ask them their name. c’mon
Me…and being a newbie
EX: i am awkward sometimes especially when i am alone? so what do i do? celebrate every awkward moment… singing to myself (check) dancing with myself to that tune(check) mixtapin’ my classwork( hell yeah checkity check check)
life is short ppl. live it up!!!
hey! i just started grade seven and am new to middle school. this is urently happening to me but it IS getting better. (not that the dude i despise perposed to me just to annoy me was sucha great help(though it did get people to notice me so he was kinda helpful in an unhelp ful way)) and it will get better for you too. good luck gurl.
There’s a girl in my school and she keeps herself to herself – she’s in my year and until yesterday I didn’t even know what her NAME was! She doesn’t talk to anyone ever, just sits in the garden area and reads mainly.
Don’t get too freaked out about it, we’ve all been there. I started high school last year, and was terrified. I had no one to talk to, no one to help me and felt so lonely.
DON’T BEFRIEND SOMEONE WHO IS BAD NEWS JUST BECAUSE YOU FEEL LONELY.
You’re probably a very nice girl and shouldn’t let them corrupt you.
Make your interests known, join a club or decorate your jacket or locker in a way you like. Be seen walking your dog, reading your favorite book etc. People will approach you if they realize you have something in common with them,
Talk to everyone you see, ask them their names or hobbies or whatever.
It won’t be long until you’re lovin’ high school xD
i felt the same my freshmen year, i switched lunch tables like 6 times throughout the year. I finally found my right group of friends at the end of the year, and now this year I sit with them every day and we’re good friends. So just socialize and meet new people, and you’ll be friends with a lot of people(: