I’m a virgin, I’m single and I’ve never had a serious boyfriend, but I’m in a dilemma as I want to have sex. I’m not the sort of person who can just have meaningless one night stands with complete strangers, but I’m so tired of waiting for the “right” person to lose it to. I just want to have sex! What do I do?
It’s totally okay to want to have sex — but it’s also okay to be a virgin. Sex can be kind of a big deal, and it’s definitely not something you should do just to get it over with.
Some gURLs are able to have sex without any emotional attachment, and if that works for them, then that’s great. But just like with most things, sex isn’t the same for everyone. If you’re not the type of person who can have a “meaningless one-night stand”, then don’t try to force yourself to be. Doing something when you know it’s not what you really want is never going to make you happy. In the end, you could end up feeling disappointed in yourself and regretting how you lost your virginity.
I know it can be hard to wait. Although it might feel like everyone except you is getting down and dirty, that’s just not true. Don’t stress about doing it — it will happen one day, when you’re ready and when it feels right. If you want to wait for the right person to lose it to, then you should. There’s nothing wrong with waiting, and the sex will feel better if you feel totally comfortable with the person.
WDYT, gURLs? Are you a virgin? If not, how did you lose it? Have you ever felt the same way as this gURL? How do you think gURLs should lose their virginity? Discuss below!
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