I hate to ask this but I need advice on telling someone you don’t like them back and you just don’t see yourself developing feelings for them.
The only thing that is as hard as hearing someone tell you they don’t have feelings for you is having to tell someone you don’t feelings for them. Everyone knows rejection sucks, and no one wants to make someone else feel that way.
I’m not going to lie — this isn’t the most fun conversation you’ll ever have. Try to be as gentle and nice as possible, and just be straight-up with the person. If it’s your friend, explain that while you care about them a lot, you just don’t like them like that. Add that you don’t think it will happen in the future, and be firm about it. Keep the conversation short. Say you never wanted to hurt them, but you think it’s important they know exactly how you feel.
It might seem easier to avoid this kind of situation and just never let the person know, but it’s definitely not the right thing to do. Lying about your feelings, or intentionally not talking about them, is only going to lead the person on — so I’m glad you know that you need to tell the truth. You might feel horrible about it at first, but it’s not your fault that you don’t feel the same way they do. In the end, even if takes a while, that person will appreciate that you were honest.
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