My BFF’s Boyfriend Is Cheating On Her. What Should I Do?

Have you ever stayed with someone who was cheating?

Hi Heather,

My best friend’s boyfriend is constantly cheating on her. She knows he does it but she still acts like he doesn’t, even when it happens right in front of her. Is there anything I can do, or should I just leave it alone?

It sucks to watch your BFF be in a situation that you know isn’t good for her. Nobody wants to see the person they care about get hurt, and it’s natural to feel like you need to be the one fixing things for them. While I completely understand why you want to get involved, you need to realize there is only so much you can do to help out.

Have you ever tried talking to your friend about this before? Even if you have, have another conversation with her about it. Tell her you’re worried about her staying in this relationship. She might not want to talk about it, but explain to her that you care about her and you just want to see her happy. Let her know you think she’s a great gURL, and she deserves someone who is going to treat her with respect.

Mostly, you need to find out why she’s really still with him and go from there. If she refuses to talk about it or break up with him, there’s really nothing you can do but stand by her as her friend — ultimately, this is her choice. Getting involved when she doesn’t want you to be is only going to put a strain on your friendship. But if she seems like she just needs support to end the relationship, then let her know you’re there for her no matter what.

WDYT, gURLs? Has your BFF ever been in this situation? What did you do to help her? Have you ever stayed with someone even though you knew they were cheating? Tell me below!

take care,
heather

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  • liza

    wow now that is really horrible im sorry to say that. But there is nothing you can really do about it, if she knows that his cheating on her, and it happens right in front of her, then its up to her to make up her mind about what she is going to do. you can tell all you want that she needs to break up with him, but its not going to help, if she hasn’t done it so far shes not going until he dose something that’s going to make her really see that his not the guy for her. until then just seat back and pray that she doesn’t get hurt from what shes doing to herself.

    hope this was any help, in my opinion if i was her i would dump his ass and never give him a chance guys like that never change.

    • Brea

      im sorry about him cheating my ex cheated on me its stupid and selfish no one should be in that and her allowing it she might love him but she will reliese she has to make it stop