Me and my friend have been best friends since the 7th grade. Now we’re in 11th grade and I thought we’d be over the drama by now, but she’s not her without it. But my main problem is that a few weeks before summer, she had to leave early for vacation and I had no communication with her for a while. When I tried to talk to her, she completely ignored me no matter how many times I tried! I hate the fact that she can drop me whenever she feels like it (as she’s done many times before!) but I can’t drop her out of my life so easily. Help!
I’m sorry your friend is treating you that way. It must be difficult to feel like you’re always there for your friend but she’s not there when you need her. I don’t know why your friend is treating you this way, and really, there is only one person who can give you those answers: your friend.
You need to talk to your BFF and tell her how you’re feeling. Maybe she doesn’t even realize that you’re feeling ignored when you don’t talk for a while, or maybe there’s a reason for her distance. Let her know you care about her and her friendship and want it to work, but that she needs to be more aware of when she disappears without a trace. And if she has any concerns, listen to them and promise to try and stop your bad habits as well.
But remember that sometimes as you get older, friendships fade, interests change, and gURLS lose touch with the people they were closest to when they were younger. If your friend keeps ditching you even after you talk about it then you should let go of the friendship and focus on finding friends to hang out with who make you happy. Friendships should be effortless. It’s just not worth it if being her friend is stressing you out.
Good luck and take care,
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