What’s the definition of hooking up? I’m not sure because I made out with a guy on my couch and now my friends are saying I hooked up with him. It’s driving me crazy because what we did seems pretty innocent (I’m just 14!). So, is there an official definition of hooking up? And what is it?
Here’s the thing: there is no set definition of hooking up. There are so many different ways of interpreting it that it can be really hard to keep track, so I can understand your confusion. And since people use the phrase ‘hooking up’ to mean many different things, you can decide what you want it to mean and stick to that.
When some people talk about hooking up, they’re talking about going all the way — basically, having intercourse. But not everyone sees it that way, so don’t freak out. Usually, when older people refer to hooking up, they’re talking about sex, but that’s not always true. It could also mean oral sex, kissing and feeling each other up, or just plain ol’ making out.
You should just decide what you want hooking up to mean to you. The next time you tell your friends what you did with a guy, go into specifics (as long as you feel comfortable), and they won’t think you did anything more than you did. As for right now, find out what your friends consider the definition of hooking up to be and then let them know how and if you interpret it differently.
WDYT, gURLs? What’s your definition of hooking up? What do your friends think the definition of hooking up is? Share your stories and advice below.
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